PrettyLilPussy19
Ominously Positve
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Well hello old friend!!
Here's another breakup question!
Mentally getting over someone -
How do you do it? How long does it take? Are you able to remain friendly or is space essential?
When reminders of someone pop up - do you indulge or do you squash that nostalgia?
I'd love to thank everyone for their answers! It's been so interesting. Everyone's vulnerability is amazing.
As for me, I think the relationships on Lit have been weirdly the hardest to get over for me so far. I blame that on the online time paradox (one month of online chat = 6 months of real life dating). Getting over people can be brutal and seeing their name pop up can make me just plain itchy. But I think you are all right. Time. Almost more time than you had in the game.
I usually can remain cordial with exes but not friends. I would have to really believe that person wanted that relationship with me and made the effort to prove it. I think the hardest part is watching someone else move on and not at all seem affected by your absence. I don't know if it would be better to know they missed me a little too or more painful but - I'm a curious girlie so, of course, I want to know. hehe...
I'm sentimental when it comes to relationship nostalgia and it can often make me forget all the bad shit. All the disagreements, mean things, times I just plain had to roll my eyes... I usually shoulder a lot of the blame about any break up but it takes two - two to start and two to end.
A place like Lit has been so incredible at showing me how much my heart needs and needs to give but it's also shown me how tenderhearted and mushy I can be. Not traits I necessarily admire. (Weak! my friend would say ) But I don't know what side of the line I'd rather fall down on. For now I don't have a choice.