Wild_Honey_66
sweet freak
- Joined
- Mar 7, 2014
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Well hello old friend!!
Here's another breakup question!
Mentally getting over someone -
How do you do it? How long does it take?
Are you able to remain friendly or is space essential?
When reminders of someone pop up - do you indulge or do you squash that nostalgia?
Truly, i am of two minds about whether to say anything. My time here has given me wisdom, but at a price. These days, i am reluctant to share.
I'll have been here five years next March, for what that's worth. When i first joined, i was a babe in the woods. I feel I've aged about forty years since then.
I bruise easily and take a long time to heal, probably no surprises there. What I've learned is to be proactive about not prolonging the process, and to accept that some days are really going to suck for a while. And frankly, to avoid allowing myself to form attachments in the first place.
If we're talking Lit, i think women need to be brutally honest with themselves about what they can expect from online relationships. It can be easy to close your eyes and pretend there is a happy long-distance ending available. My advice to you is, don't. For so many reasons. With all the secrecy, and the inherent lack of accountability, even men with seemingly stellar reputations can get away with being complete douchebags in private. I think any woman who's been here even a year can attest to that, and it's not going to change with time. You have to change. Even the genuinely good guys are not going to be able to satisfy your needs. For the majority of women, it will never be enough.
This is a dangerous place for tender hearts who are inclined to romantic entanglements. Tread lightly, ladies.