… discuss pegging with your wife

[CharlieGG]

50 MWM married to 48yo woman who was relatively inexperienced when we got married and is comically uneducated when it comes to sexual fetishes. Like, someone played the “bukkake“ card during a game of Cards Against Humanity and when others laughed she was like “what IS that?”

The other day we were watching a comedian and she started talking about pegging and my wife agains wondered out loud “what is that?” We were watching with my college age daughter who laughed and proceeded to explain. My wife said something to the effect of “Oh, huh, yeah no thanks”

But, um, yes please? She didn’t seem totally disgusted or anything… best way to start the conversation that “actually, I would be interested…”?

 

[Britva415]

"Did you really mean No Thanks? 'Cause actually, I would be interested."

The only "howto" to this is to just dare to bring it up. Don't be scared of "no."

The amount of things I've talked to my wife about and got said "no" to is very significant. When you stop asking is when you stop getting any "yes"es at all.

 

[nothingatall27]

What comedian?

 

[cdstefi]

If it's any help if your wife expressed any preconceptions, mine pegs me and it's not remotely submissive or "unmanly" for me. I like to ride on top in a more dominant type role and she likes how turned on it makes me. Plus we use a Feeldoe so she gets plenty of sensation as well.

 

[handsolow11]

Sometimes you have to play the long game. Have you ever read naughty stories with each other like ones on this site? Introduce the idea if you haven't. Start out with the "normal" sex stories. Let her know you are thinking of her when you read them. If she's into it, introduce porn...once again start out with "normal" sex stuff. Will she open up about what she likes? Keep progressing. Then show her a pegging vid...accidentally..."remember that comedian joked about it"...haha. See how she responds. Obviously for some women there ain't much you can do but some just need a gentle nudge.

 

[EinsamerWolf]

50 MWM married to 48yo woman who was relatively inexperienced when we got married and is comically uneducated when it comes to sexual fetishes. Like, someone played the “bukkake“ card during a game of Cards Against Humanity and when others laughed she was like “what IS that?”

The other day we were watching a comedian and she started talking about pegging and my wife agains wondered out loud “what is that?” We were watching with my college age daughter who laughed and proceeded to explain. My wife said something to the effect of “Oh, huh, yeah no thanks”

But, um, yes please? She didn’t seem totally disgusted or anything… best way to start the conversation that “actually, I would be interested…”?

Don't do it man, this is a bad idea

 

[ssimpson12]

Pegging is GREAT! n can be for both 'giver' n 'taker' . Check out the feeldoe pegging dildos. Yummy for both of you.

 

[jimmy_woods]

If you're afraid of being straight-forward and talking to her directly about this subject, you could always ease into it. I myself would love to have my wife peg me, but I am a little embarrassed/hesitant to bring it up directly too. Over the past year or so though, I've occasionally played with my wife's asshole a little and kept asking if she liked it or wanted me to stop. She seems fairly ambivalent but I told her she could play with mine too. Now almost every time we have sex she'll play a little with my asshole as she's giving me a blowjob or when we're in missionary. Hoping she continues to ramp it up and we get to actual pegging one day (very soon).

 

[Cardinal]

50 MWM married to 48yo woman who was relatively inexperienced when we got married and is comically uneducated when it comes to sexual fetishes. Like, someone played the “bukkake“ card during a game of Cards Against Humanity and when others laughed she was like “what IS that?”

The other day we were watching a comedian and she started talking about pegging and my wife agains wondered out loud “what is that?” We were watching with my college age daughter who laughed and proceeded to explain. My wife said something to the effect of “Oh, huh, yeah no thanks”

But, um, yes please? She didn’t seem totally disgusted or anything… best way to start the conversation that “actually, I would be interested…”?

We are married to the same woman!
I don’t understand the “no thanks” as it only has to do with pleasing you (me,) pegging us isn’t asking her to preform or submit to anything it’s just about a dildo and her husband enjoying it.
Just like using a vibrator with my wife, it’s just about her enjoying herself why would I deny or pass judgement on that or her?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Just ask. Honey you know that thing the comic was talking about? I want to try it! What do ya say partner.

 

[regina75]

my first wife liked it, she also liked when i would push up against her with my cock and she would rub up and down against it, then i would do her
shee wanted to watch another man do me. i should have asked her if she wanted to use my toy on me

 

[XXVIII]

Fortunately years ago, my wife and I were playing and she started playing with and fingering my ass totally unprovoked. She leaned over on to my chest and said "I know you'd love it if I stuck my finger up your ass while sucking your cock, you nasty boy." We've aways had very open communication when it comes to both of our sexual desires. So yeah, pegging has been fun! Now I'll just say, okay, I need it in the ass tonight and she'll get the strap on out.

 

[Goldenfinger]

In a roundabout way my wife asked me. My wife is a nurse, she was covering vacation time ane worked in urology for a bit. The other nurses told her about how some guys leak fluid from a prostate exam and that the prostate is an erogenous zone. She came home and told me all about it, then we looked it up and found out there was way more too it.

 

[smoothwiener]

Do what I did, Watch a Little bit of every kind of porn with the wife and ask which she liked best and if there was anything she's like to try.

 

[OffNSFW]

Just ask, man. I never understood all this dancing around and evasiveness between adults in serious conversations about sex. Either way, you're bringing up a potentially uncomfortable subject and putting her in the position of saying yes or no, so you might as well be direct.

One way to make it fun would be to ask her if she'd like to join you in filling out a Yes, No, Maybe list. That'll knock out a whole lot of topics in one fell swoop, and you might find out some interesting things about each other.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Just ask, man. I never understood all this dancing around and evasiveness between adults in serious conversations about sex. Either way, you're bringing up a potentially uncomfortable subject and putting her in the position of saying yes or no, so you might as well be direct.

One way to make it fun would be to ask her if she'd like to join you in filling out a Yes, No, Maybe list. That'll knock out a whole lot of topics in one fell swoop, and you might find out some interesting things about each other.

She might be nervous about asking you for something also. People talk a lot but don’t seem to communicate.

 

[nothingatall27]

You could try having Jade talk to her about it

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