tryn2Bgood
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- Feb 22, 2017
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Notice, there isn't one person here who went "Oooh, maybe he doesn't want to dominate you, and you are forcing him to do that! Poor guy! Maybe he has his reasons! He is free to choose what he wants to and with whom he wants it!"
If you were a guy and talked about a woman who wouldn't let you be her submissive - this would be the first thing you'd get.
Knowing this, I would take all the negative replies here with a grain of salt.
Hey, I did list several reasons like that. Maybe not in the way of 'poor guy', because...well, he's obviously not the one suffering in this scenario. He is already doing what he wants and not willing to discuss it. Of course he has his reasons, whatever they may be, and he CAN do what he wants with whom he wants it. He already is. Doesn't matter if he was the guy or the girl in this situation.
My advice was to hash it out (put all your cards on the table) and decide from there where you want things to go. But I will say that everytime someone tries to give this guy the benefit of doubt or list a good reason things might be as they are, the OP comes back with another post that basically points to the fact that the guy is just a dick.
To the OP - not sure what advice you're looking for here. It sounds like you already have the answers, you just don't want to face the truths. The writing is on the wall. "They've been frIends for a while. Then they had sex. Now he has feelings for her. He gave her a collar (something you wanted). He gets mad when you want to talk about it. He dismisses your feelings and desires." What else needs to be said? Ten years might seem like a lot, but what would ten more years of being 'second place' feel like? You decide. Be brave and do what you need to do.