For Your Consideration....

So I put this kind of post each year - just to see who is out there, if there is a connection. If you are the right person, I am sincere and hope you might consider. If you are not the right person, I hope I did not upset you....

so here I go....

I doubt there are few who can completely understand this and many who see the contradiction, but I love my wife, my kids and my life. I do not want to loose any of that, yet I am here.

I lack real intimacy in my life. To be more direct, I am not talking about just sex. I am talking about the desire to challenge and be challenged, to share, to get that feeling of excitement when you deeply kiss someone, to touch and be touched.

Bottomline, I have compromised this part of my life because everything else is really wonderful, I am very lucky, and I do not want to throw that away.

So I wait for the right person...

I am looking for a woman who really gets and connects to what I just stated, the contradictions and all.

Please be no more than a couple of hours away from NYC.

I do not want to change anything about my current life, rather simply create a value add, an escape from time to time with one person...

For the lack of a better description, I want a partner in crime. Someone who wants and perhaps yearn for an escape from time to time.

I want to have a deep connection - someone who I can communicate with, someone literate, who understands the power of words in connecting with someone.

I work a great deal. I am attractive. I am professionally successful.

If you are...

Direct

Drama-free

Uninhibitted

Passionate

Sarcastic

Confident

Curious

Easy going

A Good Kisser

Someone who wants to be safely reckless...

Someone who knows and likes her body...

Someone who is attractive...

Someone who wants to push herself to find and communicate her needs...

Someone who likes the occasional scotch or good glass of wine, or bottle...

Someone who is flexible - both physically and emotionally...

Someone who can easily provide a strong opinion about a book and film....but also deeply yearns for a great physical, uninhibited relationship...

Finally, yes finally...

Two important notes - if you have read so far, this may upset you....but I hope you can understand.

1.) Please also be married. I would only want to be with someone who has as much to risk as I do. If you are separated, divorced, plan to one day be divorced, or single...I am really sorry, but not interested.

2.) This is going to come out bad, but please be attractive. I know this is going to make me sound very superficial, but I am again being honest and also direct. Let me be clear about this, physical connection is important to me and if you are not confident with your body or how you look, I do not think it would be a right fit.

If you are that person, I hope you will consider investing the time to get to know each other.

Thanks. Your turn

You didn't upset me, can't speak for anyone else, though...

A nicely written ad, I must say. You're up front about yourself and spell out who you're looking for. Some of the guys posting personals on here should take notes from your ad.

I'm definitely NOT what you're looking for, as I fail on a number of your points, but I'll give you a bump as I like reading ads that stand out like yours.

I wish you all the best in your search!

Agree that it's a good ad. But I'm not your person either.

you two girls are tough LOL

What is attractive? It’s very subjective, no?

I know some absolutely gorgeous souls that would never consider themselves so... and well... vice versa...

Question - how attractive are you?

Answer

I am sorry if people lost the point of this....it was not to ask whether I think anyone is attractive, the point was to reach people who think they are attractive, I apologize for any misunderstanding.

Jonaol said:

I am sorry if people lost the point of this....it was not to ask whether I think anyone is attractive, the point was to reach people who think they are attractive, I apologize for any misunderstanding.

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My bad... I was confused by the “if you are... someone who is attractive...” and the “please be attractive”.

Anywhos - best of luck finding someone that meets your many requirements and it doesn’t make you particularly shallow, plenty of people on here will be looking for an attractive soul, x

hello Jonaol, permit me some comments on your ad, if you will

First off: I liked your ad a lot, and I wish you lots of success with it. I am a man, BTW, so not your target audience. Reasons I liked your ad were many, one of them: when I still wrote search ads, mine were almost as long as yours. And one famous better-knower mainstream Litster kept telling me that I could never find a woman, when I put such a long list of "specifications" into my ad.

Turns out I found my One & Only anyway; so much for what supposed experts comment and purport to know. OK, I did not find her because of my ad, but she read it and told me afterward, she would have answered it, had she seen it. IMHO, having a fairly specific idea of what you look for, is nothing to be ashamed of, instead I find it rather positive.

I'd even go as far as agreeing with your requirement of "attractiveness". Of course that attribute is much too subjective; your explanation in post #6 was necessary, I feel. And posts can be edited, BTW, so you might want to work on your wording a bit, perhaps, and make small changes that convey better, what you mean.

When I put something like that into one former ad of mine, what it said was akin to: I have to get a hard-on when I see you, and I explained my need for attractiveness exactly that way. Mother Nature has set things up like that; no use fighting her wisdom, I feel.

At any rate, I do wish you a lot of luck, and I am confident you will have it and find a woman, who ticks like you. You are describing – after all – more the attitudes of your ideal woman than her physical features. And don't let any Litster discourage you in your search!

Lady JS and Jada and AP are not the only types of woman who hang around on Lit. You may have to bump your ad occasionally, when it drifts too far into the background, or find someone to do that for you (it looks less desperate this way). Because the woman you look for may not be be regular reader of the Lit Personals. …….. And my good luck wishes to you once again!

Thanks

Thanks for taking the time to write and provide your perspective. I really appreciate it.

As far as being attractive, loosing weigh, etc....

I I want to loose weight. I am 47 and do not burn it off like I used to.

For me the comment I made is less about being attractive and more about feeling attractive.

The confidence thing is really important to me.

Frankly. if my point about attractiveness intimidates people, if they are not proud of themselves or feel comfortable with their bodies - if that point of being "attractive" throws them off - and they think less about how they feel about themselves, and more about how I might judge....then that shows me they are not the right person for me. I hope that makes some sense to you....and everyone .

I get you fully on what you're saying about being attractive. Accept who you are -- and that includes the physical parts of your body -- and love what you have -- again, including the physical parts -- and you and your confidence will be attractive.

I'm still learning.

All the best for you.

comments on attractiveness

I do not see real opposition to your Position, only a Need for clarification.

And since you clarified your post #1 later on in your thread, I would edit my ad a Little, if I were in your shoes; that is all I meant to suggest. But it is YOUR ad, of course

Monday Morning...bump

Monday Morning...bump

one final bump

one final bump