Collar_N_Cuffs
Clink Kink
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Thank you all for the opinions, suggestions and advice. Seems like I've been highlighting his bad side more than his good. So let me explain why I'm having strong feelings for him to the point that I might see him as the one.
I enjoy being with him even when we are not having sex. He is a good companion, a great listener and is honest with me. When I was down, he was the one who came over and tried to cheer me up. At first, I pushed him away, because we agreed on the 'do not fall in love' part so I never really wanted to involve him with the stuff in my life. I didn't want to get in too deep with the relationship.
But the more time we spent together, the more I open up to him. We share the same interests and we both have similar dreams. I have never felt so connected to a person in my life. And before I knew it, I started developing these feelings. Whenever I try to bring this up, he sorts of sense it and tone it down by reminding me that I shouldn't get too involved with him.
Sometimes I feel that he really cares for me. But not to the point that he loves me. I really want to know if he will be sad if I take the step and walk away. But again, I'm afraid to make that move, because right now, I still don't want to lose him. Although, eventually... I would probably have to 'rip the band aid off'.
But I'm still hoping.
Silly isn't it? XD
If your Dom said, Don't fall in love with me.. but then proceeded spending time with you that would normally be reserved for a caring type relationship, then he is saying one thing and acting another way. No wonder you are confused! His behaviour sounds out of line to me, I must say... Inconsistencies between statements and behaviours are a very difficult thing to sort through, especially when feelings are involved.
With cards on the table, though, he has stated that love is out of the question. Therefore I think he was going through the motions either out of some selfish need for self fulfillment, not thinking about how he would impact you at all, or possibly even more maliciously. As in, I will say one thing and do another and hurt this person. That could even be part of his kink, hurting you in that manner...
I don't believe I would want a person like this to love me. Those are harsh words for you, I understand, but looking at it objectively perhaps you can find someone with a little more consistency to them to entrust your heart to