Friend's wife

Every time she drinks a little too much, she starts hanging all over me. I can tell her husband (my friend) notices and she's best friends with my wife as well. She's a hotty and I've fantasized about fooling around with her more than I probably should. Have been a good guy to this point but worried that some day my hands will wander in the dark corners of a party.

rabbithole88 said:

Every time she drinks a little too much, she starts hanging all over me. I can tell her husband (my friend) notices and she's best friends with my wife as well. She's a hotty and I've fantasized about fooling around with her more than I probably should. Have been a good guy to this point but worried that some day my hands will wander in the dark corners of a party.

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been there myself. she told me how wet i made her just talking to her.
she was not such a hotty.
maybe if she was i would have went further than shoving my hands down her pants to feel her bare ass.

There is no such thing as your hands wandering without your consent - they aren't going to move to places by themselves. Bluntly, either you will continue to think with your brain or you'll slip up and think with your dick instead. If you really want to do something about it, at the very least do the adult thing and have a conversation with her and her husband while sober.

You've got to understand first that you're not a mindless robot. You absolutely have choices and control of your actions, and you need to CHOOSE to leave her alone. You would ruin your relationship with your best friend if you participated in her cheating on him.

Think about it this way....if the positions were reversed and it was YOUR wife hanging all over YOUR best friend, what would you want him to do?

Seek empathy and compassion and your heart will lead you to the right answer.

If it's really a problem then excuse yourself and leave. Are you actually tempted to throw away your marriage and friendship just to cop a feel from a drunk woman?

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pplwatching said:

If it's really a problem then excuse yourself and leave. Are you actually tempted to throw away your marriage and friendship just to cop a feel from a drunk woman?

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As follow-up to the above . . .

I've always had a problem with this. In college there were young ladies that lost control w/ a couple of drinks. By no means was I an angel, but I always found it strange that you'd want to be with a person that wasn't sober.

Now that I am a working professional, a couple of co-workers (both male and female) have confessed that after a few drinks, they gave in to their temptations

Be a man--discuss w/ your buddy. Perhaps he enjoys watching the Mrs' inter-flirt come out, perhaps he wants to invite you into a three--way, but by no means should you make any decision w/ someone who's judgment is impaired

Maybe your friend shares his wife with other men. She is into you and he knows it but you being married keeps them from asking you.

Her husband notices.
Does your wife notice?
Are either hostile?
Can this lead to sharing?

Ask your wife and your buddy what to do.

Temptation...

As delicious as the moment and possibility sounds...
I'd encourage you to ask yourself if the choice creates the kind of world and relationships you want to be part of.

Enjoy the thought, masturbate or fuck your wife before you spend time with her...
but if you must stray, doing it further from home will more likely spare you and those I assume you love from tragedy.

If it's not a secret now, it will only get worse.

I had a similar situation

For literally years one of my best friends wife and I would flirt and go to the point of an odd cop a feel or kiss. I just could not with good ethics towards my buddy fuck his wife behind his back. One night we were all totally looped and I got the nerve to simply walk into their bedroom (spare bedroom at my place) just as they were going to bed after a night of partying and say " I have wanted to have sex with your wife for years but never wanted to be decietful, I will come downstairs from getting ready for bed and if you are into it I am, if not I shall go back to bed".
We had a threesome and I do not have any guilt towards my buddy nor he towards me. We are all still friends although they have divorced....hmm.

rabbithole88 said:

Every time she drinks a little too much, she starts hanging all over me. I can tell her husband (my friend) notices and she's best friends with my wife as well. She's a hotty and I've fantasized about fooling around with her more than I probably should. Have been a good guy to this point but worried that some day my hands will wander in the dark corners of a party.

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First thing stay sober enough that the hands don't go a wondering! At this point anything female and remotely good looking will do. I can talk because I can hold my alcohol and have a lot of restraint...thankfully.

About a year ago I had this lady apologize three different times one evening in a Bar because she was "all over me".She was a friend of a friend and was drinking a little heavy. I was gentleman enough not to point out that she was sitting in my lap with her hands inside my shirt at the time. Some dude was trying to hit on her. Anyway her man or whatever the hell he was wasn't to happy about it either.

I was simply escorting my roomy to a wake and then a bar so I was only sipping on a beer and waiting on her to be ready to leave.

Interesting, but I like 'em sober when I meet them!