So the unimaginable has happened to me, I have fallen in love with a single mom...... After being in the dating game for over a year since my last relationship I have found myself in a situation which I never imagined myself being in, the challenge of dating the elusive milf.....a little about myself, I'm twenty five, college graduate, typical post college guy trying to survive in this crazy world. I never really imagined myself dating a single mom but always kept it open as sometimes they are more mature, looking for a more serious relationship and often have there lives somewhat more together, obvisouly really just comes down to the person though.
So the challenge is this, we live about two hours apart, she is going through a custody battle right now, I'd imagine she will win based on who she has shown me she is so far and who she claims the dad to be, but I only really know her said but have no reason not to believe her. She's really successful in my eyes, good paying job, owns her own house, nice car already paid off, totally the type of girl I would go for or any gut should go for! The problem is she doesn't know when she wants to introduce me to the child, is afraid of what will happen after her ex finds out about her being in a relationship, (she said he beat up a guy she was kind of seeing, and I've never thrown a punch), she is going through a fight in court over custody, and I really have this feeling she doesn't want anybody to know.
Overall a really awesome girl, I just never imagined I'd find myself in love with a single mom even though I kept the chance for it open. Being a guy with no kids and honestly am very much on the fence about having any I've found myself in this situation with really no idea how to handle things. She herself has said she wouldn't date a guy with kids which to Mr is equal to saying she wouldn't date herself.
My questions are what's a respectable amount of time till she should introduce me to her child? How patient should I be? What role is acceptable to play in the child's life? How much should she tell me about what's going on with the custody battle? Is it acceptable that she really doesn't want anybody besides her super close friends to know about us? What's everybody else's experiences with dating a single mom while your childless? Any tips would rock and thank you to everybody very much for ideas and suggestions! Have a great weekend!
So the challenge is this, we live about two hours apart, she is going through a custody battle right now, I'd imagine she will win based on who she has shown me she is so far and who she claims the dad to be, but I only really know her said but have no reason not to believe her. She's really successful in my eyes, good paying job, owns her own house, nice car already paid off, totally the type of girl I would go for or any gut should go for! The problem is she doesn't know when she wants to introduce me to the child, is afraid of what will happen after her ex finds out about her being in a relationship, (she said he beat up a guy she was kind of seeing, and I've never thrown a punch), she is going through a fight in court over custody, and I really have this feeling she doesn't want anybody to know.
Overall a really awesome girl, I just never imagined I'd find myself in love with a single mom even though I kept the chance for it open. Being a guy with no kids and honestly am very much on the fence about having any I've found myself in this situation with really no idea how to handle things. She herself has said she wouldn't date a guy with kids which to Mr is equal to saying she wouldn't date herself.
My questions are what's a respectable amount of time till she should introduce me to her child? How patient should I be? What role is acceptable to play in the child's life? How much should she tell me about what's going on with the custody battle? Is it acceptable that she really doesn't want anybody besides her super close friends to know about us? What's everybody else's experiences with dating a single mom while your childless? Any tips would rock and thank you to everybody very much for ideas and suggestions! Have a great weekend!