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From a personal perspective, I just looked at the OPs first story. I don't want to come across as putting you down, and this doesn't apply to just you either. But for me personally I can't stand that approach to writing, that whole style just puts me off straight away.

My style is extremely straightforward and I'm told very 'readable'. My style has also been defined by the simple fact that I have written a lot of stories for my wife and she likes the very straightforward style.

Please don't take offence, I'm sure there's a lot more skill in your writing than mine and I couldn't write like that at all, even if I wanted to. But I feel that overburdening stories with 'big words' and that sort of cinematic style is not making them accessible to the majority.

On a slightly different point, I have spent many hours searching Lit for stories for my wife, and it amazes me how often stories can start well and then go off the rails. And it also astonishes me how many incest stories are written from the viewpoint of a slutty daughter seducing her father, when surely it's more desirable for the frustrated father to lust after the virginal daughter....
 
Thanks for these further replies to my post. I thought it had run its course so I was quite surprised to see it reappear. I know that my stories have a content and style that might not appeal to a wide audience. I guess, that's because its how I enjoy writing and what I feel confident doing. Its also a result of the stories originally being written for one person before I had discovered this site. There's certainly some food for thought in the posts here and maybe I will try writing a story in a more realistic, straightforward style and see how it goes.

I wonder whether there is an case for having a separate category for Femdom stories outside of the BDSM one. That would make it quite clear what readers should expect. Anybody any thoughts on this? I get the feeling that most of the posts on this board are from an Mf point of view.
 
SlaveNano said:
I wonder whether there is an case for having a separate category for Femdom stories outside of the BDSM one. That would make it quite clear what readers should expect. Anybody any thoughts on this? I get the feeling that most of the posts on this board are from an Mf point of view.
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Maybe, but then the same could be said for all of the categories. Incest could be broken into sex with sisters, mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, uncles/aunts, grandparents, cousins, step-whatevers, etc. Loving Wives could be sub-categoried to death, too.

Personally, I think enough can be accomplished with a good description line, keywords and search skills. While it might be convenient for some to have sub-categories, it would likely spell trouble for the administrators and editors of the site.
 
SlaveNano said:
I'm a bit disappointed at the lowish ratings my stories seem to be getting. Yes, I know I shouldn't let this get to me but I am curious as to why.
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I certainly know that feeling.The bad ratings depress me and the good ratings
turn me into a little bit Napolean.
Well,not exactly Napolean but it's always nice to recieve praise and I'm
always humble.
 
SweetErika said:
Maybe, but then the same could be said for all of the categories. Incest could be broken into sex with sisters, mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, uncles/aunts, grandparents, cousins, step-whatevers, etc. Loving Wives could be sub-categoried to death, too.

Personally, I think enough can be accomplished with a good description line, keywords and search skills. While it might be convenient for some to have sub-categories, it would likely spell trouble for the administrators and editors of the site.
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You are right.
But, there are only a few writers who can write femdom without BDSM touch.
 
MALIBUMAN666 said:
I have posted several Femdom stories on Lit and got some good scores and some terrible scores. It amuses me that people that find my stories offensive bother to keep reading and posting ever more ridiculous comments. I know I could delete them, but I haven't.

I place more trust in the people who actually bothered to email me (quite a few actually - I was surprised) and thanked me and asked me for more.

I think one of the problems is that because there is no dedicated Femdom section they are in the BDSM section and some people don't like it when I introduced forced gay action. But really, what do they expect?

Surely the logical conclusion of male submission to a dominant female is to be made to suck a cock?

Here's my stories anyway:

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=754684&page=submissions
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"Surely the logical conclusion of male submission to a dominant female is to be made to suck a cock?"

Is it?

I know that it's one of my absolute favorite 'conclusions' to F/m BDSM stories. I know that I always fantasized about women dominating me (a male, of course). And once I grew comfortable with the idea of homoerotic fantasies, I couldn't get enough of this idea, whether you want to call it 'forced-bi', or whatever.

I'm pleased to hear that someone else thinks this way as well. However, I wonder if others think this way also. Or, if they have another idea for what the "logical conclusion" for F/m scenes should be?
 
liv2srv said:
"Surely the logical conclusion of male submission to a dominant female is to be made to suck a cock?"

Is it?

I know that it's one of my absolute favorite 'conclusions' to F/m BDSM stories. I know that I always fantasized about women dominating me (a male, of course). And once I grew comfortable with the idea of homoerotic fantasies, I couldn't get enough of this idea, whether you want to call it 'forced-bi', or whatever.

I'm pleased to hear that someone else thinks this way as well. However, I wonder if others think this way also. Or, if they have another idea for what the "logical conclusion" for F/m scenes should be?
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I find that a logical conclusion of humiliated submission. I sometimes take it even further. Don't let people who don't like your ideas or storylines discourage you. If there a legit complaints about the story (illogical leaps in the story, poor writing, obvious issues that would result in consequences that never occur, etc.) then take those into consideration. On the other hand simply not finding what you find erotic is not a valid criticism in my mind.
 
This has been brought up a few times on more recent threads, as this one is quite old.

I started out on this site writing femdom stories, but quickly discovered that this genre just isn't very popular- even among BDSM fans who, as mentioned, tend to prefer the opposite (male dom/female sub) dynamic. This is just how the demographics break down. Also, any of the more extreme fetish activities- forced bi play and toilet play, for example- tend to gross out people who would find these things uncomfortable in any dynamic.
 
Goes without saying there is quite a variety of tastes even in BDSM, so I write my Femdom stories with the fetishes that I like and for my own enjoyment, and I hope there are others that enjoy the stories. I write because I like to, not necessarily to satisfy others. I suppose if a person wanted to try to make money at it, or because he wanted approval, he'd cater to the whims of others.
Personally, I dislike the vast majority of porn stories I see here usually because they don't fit in with my Femdom taste in porn, but I wouldn't critique a person's writing over the subject matter of his story.
Reminds me, years ago my father owned a bar in a small town in Jersey. On a shelf over the bar, he had a large jar of pickled pig's feet, not there for everyone, but for the few who enjoyed eating them.
So maybe my femdom stories are like pickled pig's feet, not for everyone.
 
I'm on the same page with you regarding the lack of interest in stories of female domination. I think that is because, on the site, the women are either interested in being dominated (usually by men) or they just want hard core straight sex and having to initiate it or control it isn't interesting to them, IRL or reading about it.
 
kinked_a_bit said:
For me, the biggest problem with most femdom stories is that the focus is on all the things the woman can “do to” the man… which happen to be the things he really wants to do anyway.

While I agree that all parties in a relationship have needs that must be met, a little more focus on the female character’s wants and needs would be a plus.
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Agreed. A lot of the 'femdom' stories that purport to be from a female perspective are actually just male fantasies. Not that there's anything particularly wrong with that, just that it's a bit tedious.

And there's no sense that the man is actually finding it difficult or embarrassing to do what's required of him. So many stories have a man going 'I was so humiliated!' while blatantly getting off on the scenario.

I'm not saying my stories are amazing, but when I have a submissive man, he damn well submits, and if it's a woman he's submitting to, her enjoyment is important!
 
Your point, Ms. Kumquatqueen is right on the mark - the majority of what a man writes of in his femdom story is exactly what he desires; he just wants to have a woman (or two) engage in his fantasies. And yet the role play aspect of it can still be entertaining for both if two people play it out, right?

Perhaps it would be a risk well worth the effort if some bold woman would restrain me, pretending to provide my fantasies, and then show me what really would happen.......if only......
 
Will527 said:
Your point, Ms. Kumquatqueen is right on the mark - the majority of what a man writes of in his femdom story is exactly what he desires; he just wants to have a woman (or two) engage in his fantasies. And yet the role play aspect of it can still be entertaining for both if two people play it out, right?

Perhaps it would be a risk well worth the effort if some bold woman would restrain me, pretending to provide my fantasies, and then show me what really would happen.......if only......
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I agree too.
 
Will527 said:
Your point, Ms. Kumquatqueen is right on the mark - the majority of what a man writes of in his femdom story is exactly what he desires; he just wants to have a woman (or two) engage in his fantasies. And yet the role play aspect of it can still be entertaining for both if two people play it out, right?

Perhaps it would be a risk well worth the effort if some bold woman would restrain me, pretending to provide my fantasies, and then show me what really would happen.......if only......
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Goldenfinger said:
I agree too.
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twister947 said:
Three.
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And sometimes women have fantasies... A femdom one is second in the plotbunny queue atm. (sequel to Strength is a Caged Cock. The first 1.5 pages of that story is pure femdom from female POVs.)
 
Kumquatqueen said:
And sometimes women have fantasies... A femdom one is second in the plotbunny queue atm. (sequel to Strength is a Caged Cock. The first 1.5 pages of that story is pure femdom from female POVs.)
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I think men have fantasies. Women, they have a plan.
 
Of course they do, and it begins as soon as they reach puberty and realize the advantage they have over men.
 
Will527 said:
Of course they do, and it begins as soon as they reach puberty and realize the advantage they have over men.
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Kinda have to, to counter the disadvantages.

I recall one guy being surprised how quickly I was happy to try bondage with him after a few successful dates. Had to point out that he was near twice my size, definitely twice my strength, so I'd already made the decision to trust him and be vulnerable to him simply by going back to his place. Adding rope just formalised it.

Planning is just  productive fantasy...
 
Having read the comments herein from Kumquatqueen, I have reevaluated my concept of femdom. I think, as I look to write more stories, I will call "a spade a spade" and make femdom stories more realistic. Or at least try to. I think I would consider now IRL a true femdom experience with a domme once I found a woman I could trust.
 
This is usually the case for porn and IRL.

Maledom on women
Maledom on men
Femdom on women
Femdom on women

In decreasing order of rank and number of fetishists.
 
people ask is femdom real? Is femdom popular. Well yes and yes. In real life I think in a lot of relationships that the woman is in charge. Now does that carry over to the bedroom, does it include bdsm. Well I have seen where the woman in demeaning to the husband or emasculating but not so much in an erotic way. Does this count. There are a lot of stories that basically is some guy with a checklist that the woman does to him, but it’s really him in control. Well that’s not ve fun is it.
 
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