curious_newbie
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Hi guys -
First time poster here. I have a serious mental issue that I just cant get over that is really effecting my relationship (and has so in the past). Just a little bit of background: I'm fairly conservative when it comes to sex and I was a later bloomer to get sexually active.
There has been 1 issue that constantly plagued me in my relationships (past and present): I have an overwhelming mental block, almost a fear, of putting my mouth anywhere on my girl where I came. For example, when she gives me head and I come in her mouth, we have to stop and she brushes her teeth before I can kiss. Likewise, when I eat her out, it has to be before vaginal sex because I can't stand the thought of tasting my own cum after cumming in her vagina. This creates a very regimented (and I assume boring) routine for her. It's always the same thing - finger stimulation, followed by foot play (we both have a foot fetish), then I go down, then vaginal penetration. Never vaginal sex before oral for her. I wont even do oral after penetration even if there is no ejaculation.
She is a real trooper and has never complained but I can see her body language change after we have to stop for her to brush her teeth. I know its very selfish of me to even think this way - and it has taken a long time to just seek advice as I am doing right now. I know this sounds horrible but I just dont know how to get over this.
First time poster here. I have a serious mental issue that I just cant get over that is really effecting my relationship (and has so in the past). Just a little bit of background: I'm fairly conservative when it comes to sex and I was a later bloomer to get sexually active.
There has been 1 issue that constantly plagued me in my relationships (past and present): I have an overwhelming mental block, almost a fear, of putting my mouth anywhere on my girl where I came. For example, when she gives me head and I come in her mouth, we have to stop and she brushes her teeth before I can kiss. Likewise, when I eat her out, it has to be before vaginal sex because I can't stand the thought of tasting my own cum after cumming in her vagina. This creates a very regimented (and I assume boring) routine for her. It's always the same thing - finger stimulation, followed by foot play (we both have a foot fetish), then I go down, then vaginal penetration. Never vaginal sex before oral for her. I wont even do oral after penetration even if there is no ejaculation.
She is a real trooper and has never complained but I can see her body language change after we have to stop for her to brush her teeth. I know its very selfish of me to even think this way - and it has taken a long time to just seek advice as I am doing right now. I know this sounds horrible but I just dont know how to get over this.
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