Things That Make You Uncomfortable....But Also Turn You On

[TANSTAAFL58]

Dirty talk.

I worry about boundaries.

She likes being called names. With limits that I worry about messing up.

I can say "bitch" and "slut" and get her wet. It turns her on to say "cunt" but she doesn't want to hear it from me. Its kind of a signal that she wants to play rough.

Nobody says "whore".

She gives control by saying "tie me up" or "I'm all yours", but is reluctant to take control, no matter what I say

Of course, we both want to hear "Please fuck me now"

 

[AlwaysFara]

Dirty talk.

I worry about boundaries.

She likes being called names. With limits that I worry about messing up.

I can say "bitch" and "slut" and get her wet. It turns her on to say "cunt" but she doesn't want to hear it from me. Its kind of a signal that she wants to play rough.

Nobody says "whore".

She gives control by saying "tie me up" or "I'm all yours", but is reluctant to take control, no matter what I say

Of course, we both want to hear "Please fuck me now"

Some people just can’t switch.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Sadly true

And not all switches are up for switching with the same person.

Is it more this, than switching itself?

 

[13Fantasies]

Why disgusted? That you can go there, mentally? That you do get aroused from it?

I can't go there mentally. Having helped so many of my friends after their rapes, it's hard to get in the right mindset. Rape play itself does not turn me, but knowing that a woman wants to be taken does.

I prefer it more as a faun and nymph type game. Catch me if you can so you can do what you want play rather than a full force act.

Could I conceivably get there with the right woman? Maybe. But I'm guessing not. One of my friends who had been raped wanted to act it out. I couldn't do it, remembering how she had been after. A perfect stranger scenario? I'm not sure

 

[Jd192235]

Work/play

I use cupping. Dry needling and electrical stimulation w clamps. for work. The professional side of me gets uncomfortable thinking about using these tools more sexually! But there’s another side of me that finds it very erotic to tie a woman up and experiment and see what is a turn on for her!

 

[AlwaysFara]

I can't go there mentally. Having helped so many of my friends after their rapes, it's hard to get in the right mindset. Rape play itself does not turn me, but knowing that a woman wants to be taken does.

I prefer it more as a faun and nymph type game. Catch me if you can so you can do what you want play rather than a full force act.

Could I conceivably get there with the right woman? Maybe. But I'm guessing not. One of my friends who had been raped wanted to act it out. I couldn't do it, remembering how she had been after. A perfect stranger scenario? I'm not sure

I’m a feminist. I’m my job I’ve worked with rape victims and as a woman, well...let’s just say a little do stuff goes unreported.

Yet, the element of being taken is HUGE for me. Of course, it’s not really non consensual.

 

[13Fantasies]

I’m a feminist. I’m my job I’ve worked with rape victims and as a woman, well...let’s just say a little do stuff goes unreported.

Yet, the element of being taken is HUGE for me. Of course, it’s not really non consensual.

Exactly. In playing a role, it's technically consensual, so it might be possible. But overall, not really for me

 

[AlwaysFara]

I’m a feminist. I’m my job I’ve worked with rape victims and as a woman, well...let’s just say a little do stuff goes unreported.

Yet, the element of being taken is HUGE for me. Of course, it’s not really non consensual.

Exactly. In playing a role, it's technically consensual, so it might be possible. But overall, not really for me

My thumbs just killed me up there. Glad you could interpret.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I’m a feminist. I’m my job I’ve worked with rape victims and as a woman, well...let’s just say a little do stuff goes unreported.

Yet, the element of being taken is HUGE for me. Of course, it’s not really non consensual.

Exactly. In playing a role, it's technically consensual, so it might be possible. But overall, not really for me

My thumbs just killed me up there. Glad you could interpret.

Do you think that is the source of bondage play?

The loss (or surrender) of control, but with intrinsic trust in the partner to recognise it as play (respecting hard limits and safe words for example). The sub still gets "taken", but knows she (or he) is safe.

 

[Cinder_Smoke]

I used to think I would never try this, but I thoroughly enjoy it in reality

For me, I'd say rimming. It's intense and hot to watch some super landscaped, hot porn stars doing it, but I think my gag reflex would kick in.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I used to think I would never try this, but I thoroughly enjoy it in reality

For me, I'd say rimming. It's intense and hot to watch some super landscaped, hot porn stars doing it, but I think my gag reflex would kick in.

Or wouldn’t, and that may shock the shit out of you.

 

[Cinder_Smoke]

Or wouldn’t, and that may shock the shit out of you.

Haha! Who knows. Not willing to try today. Maybe tomorrow

 

[AlwaysFara]

Haha! Who knows. Not willing to try today. Maybe tomorrow

Text me when you’re done!!!

 

[lonelyluca]

Same tbh. Eye contact requires a level of intimacy on a whole different level. It's why I prefer doggy.

 

[13Fantasies]

Do you think that is the source of bondage play?

The loss (or surrender) of control, but with intrinsic trust in the partner to recognise it as play (respecting hard limits and safe words for example). The sub still gets "taken", but knows she (or he) is safe.

Possibly, but I see them as different. Bondage play can be completely separate from any rape or conquest type desire in my mind. While they could easily go hand-in-hand for some, I think the overall link might be tenuous at best.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Possibly, but I see them as different. Bondage play can be completely separate from any rape or conquest type desire in my mind. While they could easily go hand-in-hand for some, I think the overall link might be tenuous at best.

Agreed.
Alert the media.

 

[missmixalot]

Being naked far from home with no clothing available and some older gentlemen with vivid imaginations.

 

[Erosfan]

Being naked far from home with no clothing available and some older gentlemen with vivid imaginations.

Being naked, far from home, with no clothing, with my wife and under the complete control of her very vivid imagination!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I watched this gay porn vid the other day. The top was amazing, the bottom was... old. But their chemistry was undeniable.

I've been having very mixed feelings ever since!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I watched this gay porn vid the other day. The top was amazing, the bottom was... old. But their chemistry was undeniable.

I've been having very mixed feelings ever since!

Um....
I guess you forgot the link!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Um....
I guess you forgot the link!

You want me to share my porn?

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super awkward pause...

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No please.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Sharing someone’s porn is very intimate. Seeing what really makes you tick.

That makes me uncomfortable, but kinda turns me on.

 

[LegsOpenedWide]

I’d love to try the first with the pegs. But I’m not brave enough for anal yet so he’d have to be inside my pussy. Have often thought about trying it solo with the pegs using a vibe (in my pussy) but think I need it done ‘to’ me so I actually just do it and not wimp out! Can imagine it must hurt so damn good.

 

[HampshireBoy]

anal only / anal gaping

My ex FB loved her pussy lips being pinched and pulled, so one day when I had her tied up I tried clothes pegs on her lips. She came in torrents and told me afterwards that it was one of the most intense experiences of her life. She also loved anal, so I can't think why I didn't come up with this one.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Sharing someone’s porn is very intimate. Seeing what really makes you tick.

That makes me uncomfortable, but kinda turns me on.

Agreed.
Mine is particularly.... telling...