Really? The patronymic has been fairly consistent in my experience-- though I suppose in most instances the married females (like Lara and Allura) are referred to only by their first names. It was only as recently as "Smallville" that the "-El" hyphenate was included for a married female, I just assumed it had been canon throughout.
Do you happen to know chapter and verse for the "Lara Lor-Van" references? What comics or volumes that was in?
Not really, I remember that Byrne during his run refered to her thay way. And I remember some of the new 52 doing the same. And I think I even remember them refering to Alura the same way when they brought her back during that whole New Krypton arc.