SassyKatz71
Goddess
- Joined
- Dec 10, 2014
- Posts
- 7,798
I, myself am still very new to this world, but have learned a lot about myself these last couple of months. Like many who have commented before me, I have always felt like I was missing something.
In my prior relationships, I had always gone out of my way to make sure the man I was with was well taken care of. I never really thought about it as me, having the need to be submissive, just super caring and wanting to make sure they were happy. And oddly enough looking back, I find that had lead to some very unhealthy relationships, where I was super unhappy. A few months ago I met 'R', and I knew something was completely different about him. We started out as a normal 'vanilla' relationship. When we would get intimate, he would be a little rough and was attempting to test the waters regarding how I would respond to simple things. He eventually informed me that he was a Dom and very much into BDSM, which lead to some very long conversations. I like many of the new people here went to the library and I spent hours, in there reading about everything. And scaring myself with some of the stuff. I am lucky to have 'R' while I am discovering this, because as soon as I have a question I message him and we discuss my concern about something.
Yes,giving more than I should have in those bad relationships,It was just how I was. Giving. Wanting them to be happy and satisfied. Never realizing it was mostly one sided