Your mission of fidelity

[freescorfr]

Do any of you feel you have missions./
In Laura Esquivel's book "Like water for chocolate" the youngest girl in the family had the mission of not marrying and looking after her parents.

Other missons can be to stay faithfully married [becasue your parents did, even though they were unhappy].

To be a teacher - or look after young children can be a mission.
To go into the army. To take over the family business.

Anyone been trapped inside a mission?

 

[Ishmael]

You know, I once thought I was trapped. A matter of false pride. Not anymore.

Ishmael

 

[Monazwx]

Think about it all the time

"Taking over the family business."
They would be heart-broken if I didn't.
I'd be disowned.
Still trying to escape this mission desperately . . .

Please Help!!!

 

[Lovepotion69]

Do any of you feel you have missions./
In Laura Esquivel's book "Like water for chocolate" the youngest girl in the family had the mission of not marrying and looking after her parents.

Other missons can be to stay faithfully married [becasue your parents did, even though they were unhappy].

To be a teacher - or look after young children can be a mission.
To go into the army. To take over the family business.

Anyone been trapped inside a mission?

I love that book,and the film is nice too.

Hm...mission? Make my parents proud, not disappoint them, constantly trying to get their approval....it gets kinda hard at times...you end up torn.

 

[naudiz]

I revel in my own insignificance. My life belongs to me, and that suits me just fine.

 

[just pet]

My mission is to ease just a little bit of the suffering in the world. This brought me to my careers in service, specifically health care.

 

[freescorfr]

Re: Think about it all the time

"Taking over the family business."
They would be heart-broken if I didn't.
I'd be disowned.
Still trying to escape this mission desperately . . .

Please Help!!!

That sounds bad, Mona. Black_bird said to me my suggestions are just Magik - sorcery. But I believe using symbols does help and the first thing is to find an object which represents for you this mission - and then with this symbol, you can say to yourself "That's my mission to take over the business". It is at once outside of you.

Then live with it a bit until you can say to your folks, "What I have done is... ",explain about the symbol and say, "Much as I love you and much as I understand your desire that I take over your business, that desire belongs to you and not to me. I do not want to accept this mission." and give it back to them...

Even if they think you're nuts I can assure you you will feel full of energy.

Only a suggestion. maybe other people have good experiences of how to renounce unwanted missions.

 

[Monazwx]

Interesting Theory

I think that my situation is a little more complicated. They're paying for college, so that I'll feel guilty. And i'ts working!!!

But I think I'll try it anyway. Got nothing to lose, and if they think I'm crazy, maybe they'll release me from 'my' mission.

Thanks for making me smile.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Re: Interesting Theory

I think that my situation is a little more complicated. They're paying for college, so that I'll feel guilty. And i'ts working!!!

But I think I'll try it anyway. Got nothing to lose, and if they think I'm crazy, maybe they'll release me from 'my' mission.

Thanks for making me smile.

Mona, I do see a similarity here. Thankfully I don't need to take over any family business (they just sold it!), but they're paying for Uni and doing that they automatically do run your life to some extent.

Are you sure were not related? LOL

 

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[freescorfr]

My mission: To be true to myself, first and foremost.

I've just got to get started!!

Luscious renounce some of your other missions, so you can get on with it.

 

[freescorfr]

My mission is to ease just a little bit of the suffering in the world. This brought me to my careers in service, specifically health care.

White tigers and needles, pet?
I suspect your superb at it - a good teacher too?

 

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[riff]

I don't know. I am a great teacher and I love people, but I don't know about a mission. Maybe my mission is just to learn how to be myself and not feel guilty.

 

[freescorfr]

Re: Re: Interesting Theory

Mona, I do see a similarity here. Thankfully I don't need to take over any family business (they just sold it!), but they're paying for Uni and doing that they automatically do run your life to some extent.

Are you sure were not related? LOL

They pay for your studies so you're not in debt to the banks - but you end up in debt to your parents - morally.

I've five kids and they owe me nothing. Debt to parents is, I believe, terrorism. If you give someone life it's not much of a gift if you enslave them to you at the same time.

 

[glamorilla]

Making rent.

 

[unclej]

my mission is very modest by "world" standards...i'm not going to stamp out hunger anywhere, i'm not going to bring world peace...but i do have a very achievable and identifiable goal in life...bring just a little pleasure to as many people as i can...sounds sort of goody goody but let me explain my ripple theory to you...i'm a musician and i have two cd's to my credit and am about to start on another...i sell them in my store and a lady friend sells them in hers...ours is a tourist town so people from literally all over the world have purchased them...i also make guitars that other people buy to make music to make themselves and other people happy...i also make native american flutes and market them on e-bay from time to time and have sent them to nearly every portion of the united states...i also sculpt wood into incense boxes, mini-oil lamps, candle holders, etc. that are sold in various stores here in town...

so everything i do is, i hope, like a drop in a body of water...it makes a little ripple that goes off in all direction and even though i don't know where it will end up i do know that for at least a little i'm making a small difference in someone's life...

 

[Lovepotion69]

Re: Re: Re: Interesting Theory

They pay for your studies so you're not in debt to the banks - but you end up in debt to your parents - morally.

I've five kids and they owe me nothing. Debt to parents is, I believe, terrorism. If you give someone life it's not much of a gift if you enslave them to you at the same time.

Yeah, your post pretty much sums it up. I'm thrilled they pay for my studies, they want me to start my life without debts, but I do end up with a responsiblity to make them proud.

It's like they've invested all this money in me, and don't want it to go to waste in some aspects. And I of course know I should be greatful, and I certainly am, but at the same time, it does make you feel you have to make everything in your power to live up to their expectations. Or at least listent to all their advice....

 

[GreenEyedGirl]

Free, what a wonderful book! So vivid. And I never was so hungry when I read as I was during that book. I tried to make most of the receipes, some actually worked, but not with the power of the characters culinary creations. I wish I could make a cake like her!

We all have missions, we all create them for ourselves. Some are big, some are modest. I think that to deny the mission is the more interesting path. But it is also the harder, sometimes lonlier, sometimes happier path. My mother has given up on my ever "settling down" because my missions are ever changing or sometimes adrift. The ultimate mission that no one can accept is selfishness. I believe that being true to ourselves is a near impossibility, because we always put others ahead of ourselves. Even when we are instructed to do so, as in the airplane's safety instructions to attach your own oxygen mask before assisting a child, we rarely do. I know I probably would not.

 

[Zamdrist]

My mission is to always be there for my son. Though he doesn't live full time with me, I pick him up for visitations religiously.

That's my mission. I don't fee trapped or anything, just something important to me.

 

[Cheyenne]

Do any of you feel you have missions./
In Laura Esquivel's book "Like water for chocolate" the youngest girl in the family had the mission of not marrying and looking after her parents.

Only her parents? She's lucky. My mission is to look after everyone.