Young dom/subs

[beef]

I am a young-er male. Still in high school, and i'm wondering if anyone is my age?

I would esp. like to talk to female subs to find out what its like on the opposite end of the spectrum at this age. And have any of you had issues with a male dom being difficult to convert (like myself)

I was recently converted to a dom by my girlfriend and although i was reluctant at first she really wanted it and i just wanted to please her. now i get more into than she does.

So if there are any high school girls here that i can talk to and share expiriences, i would love that.

From the dark stranger in the shadows

 

[Quint]

Beef,

Hiya! I'm no longer in high school (and please assure me that you're 18, the requisite age for Literotica) but I'm 19, in college, and have been various stages of submissive since my senior year of high school. PLUS I more or less "trained" my boyfriend of that time to be dominant to please me. So I think I pretty well fit your description.

What I discovered is that I'm a submissive, but when I was with Hunny (that boyfriend), I could only pretend to be a submissive because he could only pretend to be dominant. It wasn't his nature and never could be. I also found that "training" him was immensely frustrating. I had certain needs that he simply didn't, and he didn't understand why I needed them, so I had to prod him pretty much every step of the way. I got extremely tired of commanding him to command me, ya know?

He's an awesome man. Still love him, although we broke up for mutual differences, this being a large one. But in that instance, a sub could not a Dom make.

This probably was apropos of nothing you asked. I'll try harder next time. Welcome aboard again, and enjoy your stay!

 

[beef]

to clarify

Just to clarify, i am 18 and no i didn't repeat any grades.

 

[MissTaken]

Thanks, beef.

In Canada, they attend high school for five years and have a grade thirteen.

(For clarification.)

 

[zipman]

I will give you two pieces of advice.

1) Read as much as you can to make yourself knowledgable (When I started at 22 (about 16 years ago) I had to figure things out by myself. I wish I had a forum like this back then!

2) Be patient, this a journey, and it's better to enjoy the trip than just focus on where your going! BDSM is a lot more than what you do, but the reasons behind why you wan to do it and what about it excites you. The more you think about these things, the sooner you will discover "your place" in this world.

There are many here that you can learn from, I do almost everytime I log on. You can learn from Doms and Dommes, and from male and female subs, both old and young. The delightful and friendly Quint has opened my eyes to a few pleasures simply through her descriptions of how they made her feel.

Welcome and enjoy!

 

[Quint]

<snip>
There are many here that you can learn from, I do almost everytime I log on. You can learn from Doms and Dommes, and from male and female subs, both old and young. The delightful and friendly Quint has opened my eyes to a few pleasures simply through her descriptions of how they made her feel.</snip>

Dammit, Zip! I DO have a reputation to maintain, here! Sheesh...

Quint "The degenerate and scowling"

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Thanks, beef.

In Canada, they attend high school for five years and have a grade thirteen.

(For clarification.)

Eastern Canada has a grade 13.

Western Canada doesn't. But yes, it's still 5 years of high school, and I graduated at the age of 18, thanks to being a January baby.


Now then, Beef,

I'm 21, so a few years out of high school, and I know what it's like to want my man to convert... I am in a VERY vanilla relationship. And for the most part, it's satisfying, but I have a desire to submit to him in so many ways (I'm a switch). I crave the control that a master/mistress has over his/her submissive, and I just want to give it up... (the control, that is, not the lifestyle).

My man doesn't have a dominant bone in his body, and this is sometimes very frustrating for me. But, sometimes, I can tell he's making a real effort, and that is what counts.. that he is willing to sometimes stretch his comfort zone enough that he will approach the role I crave him to take.

Confusing, I suppose... I dunno, I just woke up.

 

[Alley Cat]

here in California, we have whats called a "GenX" group.. for 18-38 year olds.. you might want to see if one is avaliable in your area.. As far as learning.. You can do so through online groups... Offline friends.. And i have found books to be an excellent source of understanding, and learning new techniques...

You might want to try the greenery press assortment of books..

Can't forget that one... Screw the roses, give me the thorns.. Or.. SM 101...

hrm..

the compleat spanker..


There are tons of people out there in your age range, don't worry... Just keep the faith, and make sure you learn a lot..


and don't forget.. Safe... Sane.... Consentual.

 

[AvaAdore]

i'm 18 and i started getting really interested in BDSM when i was 15 or so, though my boyfriend at the time didnt seem terribly interested, but he was sort of dominant (if you had to categorise him). with my current boyfriend, things are different. we do play every so often and we switch. really, i think it's experimenting at this stage more than anything, and he's just as keen on trying new things as i am. i get satisfaction out of it, and he does too. i would like the bdsm to get more serious than it is.

 

[Alley Cat]

Give it time to get more serious, hun!

Good things come to those who wait, and especially in this lifestyle, IMHO.

Good luck! and remember to be safe.

 

[MoonduskSub]

Youth....

20 here. Fresh out of high school, attending college. I kind of stubbled on BDSM and found my home. A calling in me that I had no idea even exsisted, and I was lucky! I found great friends, not the type that are in this for the kink, but true to themselves as much as they are to the lifestyle.....but I made some mistakes also. My first Master was 23...and didn't really stick to SSC. I learned, I lived, I moved on and out of that quickly.
Sometimes I get scared when I hear of young people wanting to know more, but I hold me tongue because I started young as well (18). I really emphasis the learning part. Common sense is necessary in this lifestyle along with honor, honesty, openess, and listening. I dont mean hearing people, but truely listening. This is a journey and can be beautiful, truely beautiful. Know yourself, know your partner and always, always use the SSSC (Safe, Sane, Sober, Consensual) guideline.... You may PM me at anytime...
other than that....
Have fun!


Moonie

 

[MWG]

I am a young-er male. Still in high school, and i'm wondering if anyone is my age?

I would esp. like to talk to female subs to find out what its like on the opposite end of the spectrum at this age. And have any of you had issues with a male dom being difficult to convert (like myself)

I was recently converted to a dom by my girlfriend and although i was reluctant at first she really wanted it and i just wanted to please her. now i get more into than she does.

So if there are any high school girls here that i can talk to and share expiriences, i would love that.

From the dark stranger in the shadows

I'm 20, two years out of high school, and have always been a sub (not commercially or with my husband as the basis of our relationship's foundation, but essentially and in sexual experience). If you'd like to talk to me, you're more than welcome.

 

[Onairstar]

I know you're going to laugh!

Don't know if its because of my sheltered up bringing or if I'm just wacko, but....I don't know what BDSM even means!! If someone would be polite enough to help me out and maybe even experience a little of this interesting and new thing. Sounds like fun! I'm a 24yr old male, looking for some spice. I'd like a young lady my age or around there to maybe help me with this. Feel free to PM me.

 

[MWG]

Re: I know you're going to laugh!

Don't know if its because of my sheltered up bringing or if I'm just wacko, but....I don't know what BDSM even means!! If someone would be polite enough to help me out and maybe even experience a little of this interesting and new thing. Sounds like fun! I'm a 24yr old male, looking for some spice. I'd like a young lady my age or around there to maybe help me with this. Feel free to PM me.

BDSM stands for:

Bondage- the act of restraining someone through various methods, like tying with rope, handcuffs, etc.

Discipline- using any method of punishment for disobedience (and the act of enforcing obedience, overall)

Sado-- from the word "sadism", meaning one who derives pleasure from inflicting pain upon another

Masochism- one who derives pleasure from RECEIVING pain


Basically, you know the whole cliche image of whips, chains, handcuffs, leather, having one person be the master and the other, a slave? There's a lot more to the world of BDSM than that, but that's basically it. There are many varying degrees of BDSM and everyone has their own custom tailored preference. Myself, I'm submissive but I don't have a formal "Master" (I'm married); I just enjoy being spanked, hair pulling, different forms of pain inflicted on me during sex, I like being controlled and told what to do in bed. My masochism is very light compared to other people. Some are PROFESSIONAL masters who have slaves that live with them, actually live in servitude and are expected to be 100% obedient at all times, no breaks- it is a lifestyle in which some people immerse themselves. Others just make it a PART of their sex life in an isolated sense (like me).

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Re: Re: I know you're going to laugh!

BDSM stands for:

Bondage- the act of restraining someone through various methods, like tying with rope, handcuffs, etc.

Discipline- using any method of punishment for disobedience (and the act of enforcing obedience, overall)

Sado-- from the word "sadism", meaning one who derives pleasure from inflicting pain upon another

Masochism- one who derives pleasure from RECEIVING pain


Basically, you know the whole cliche image of whips, chains, handcuffs, leather, having one person be the master and the other, a slave? There's a lot more to the world of BDSM than that, but that's basically it. There are many varying degrees of BDSM and everyone has their own custom tailored preference. Myself, I'm submissive but I don't have a formal "Master" (I'm married); I just enjoy being spanked, hair pulling, different forms of pain inflicted on me during sex, I like being controlled and told what to do in bed. My masochism is very light compared to other people. Some are PROFESSIONAL masters who have slaves that live with them, actually live in servitude and are expected to be 100% obedient at all times, no breaks- it is a lifestyle in which some people immerse themselves. Others just make it a PART of their sex life in an isolated sense (like me).

Let me drop a drop in here and give a shameless plug for our wonderful BDSM Library. It's a great place to go if you are a newbie looking for information, OR if you are an old hand, just looking for something interesting to read. I'd especially recommend the Links category. Wizard's thread is LOADED with links to every BDSM site you can imagine and then some.

Another highly recommended "beginner's site" is www.castlerealm.com

It's one of the best...

Good luck on your journey...we all start somewhere.

~anelize, "your friendly neighborhood submissive librarian"

 

[Alley Cat]

BDSM.. You forgot..

D/s: domination and submission..

so, B: bondage. D: domination D/s: Domination/submission S:Sadism M: Masochism.