"You made me do it!"

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

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[minx1]

Several times in these discussions we've heard people try to blame the behaviour of the trolls on how one person (me) behaves.

"You made me do it!"

I am reminded that spousal abusers often make similar accusations, blaming the abuse on something the abused is alleged to have done.

As the others have pointed out Bloved and as I am quite certain you know; this doesnt belong on the BDSM talk board. If you ever arent sure, the clue is in the letters BDSM.

I love you, man.

Lol I love that you are so full of love

Live and let live is not the same as acceptance.

I am not likely to ever accept the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm', but I do not feel the need to stalk and hound those who do.

As you can see, they do not share this pov.

That is the difference between what a reasonable adult does, and what fanatics do.

They will not stop till I'm silenced.

Re read this. Do you not see the irony in this at all? lol

You are right hardly anyone shares your narrow views that you insist on pushing on us ad nauseum.


Yet if you arent "hounding" us what are you doing?


You have inundated the talk thread with your narrow, exclusive beliefs and by flooding the forum have created an environment that makes it difficult for the newer community members to feel able to post.

Is this what a responsible adult does Beloved? I think not.

 

[gwsister]

I am a lurker. Sorry, but it is true. I have enjoyed these boards for quite some time but don't post - I am still new to embracing my kinky side and don't feel I have much to add but I love those that share and have learned a lot here. I have been driven to post because I don't understand why Bloved has not been banned. I think it is great that the board values different opinions but this guy is seriously ruining this site for me. This used to be a relaxing, exciting place for me...now it is just aggravating and raises my blood pressure. Dude - please stop being such a jerk.

 

[the captians wench]

Oh Flogging Molly.. I LOVE your handle.. fave band ever, double entendre.. awesome.

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Me too. Infact, I use one of their songs as Jounar's ring tone.

I love you, man.

PMSL! DGE you have put more smiles on my face today than I've had for a few months.

Thank you.

As the others have pointed out Bloved and as I am quite certain you know; this doesnt belong on the BDSM talk board. If you ever arent sure, the clue is in the letters BDSM.

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Minxie, I love that you're still so full of hope. I think I'm done looking for the good in every one and just facing that some people would rather have negitive attention than play nice and recieve positive attention.

I mean, I'm an attention whore and all, but DAY-YUMN!

I'm much to busy to be any more compationate. I figure if I'm going to be called a troll, then I might as well act like one and hijack when I deem it fitting. Oh wait! THAT'S WHAT WE'VE ALWAYS DONE HERE!

minxie

I am a lurker. Sorry, but it is true. I have enjoyed these boards for quite some time but don't post - I am still new to embracing my kinky side and don't feel I have much to add but I love those that share and have learned a lot here. I have been driven to post because I don't understand why Bloved has not been banned. I think it is great that the board values different opinions but this guy is seriously ruining this site for me. This used to be a relaxing, exciting place for me...now it is just aggravating and raises my blood pressure. Dude - please stop being such a jerk.

Welcome. Good to see you out from behind the curtains.

 

[warrior queen]

Reminds me of the typical rape defense.

how dare you?

for those of us that have experienced rape in the real world, your casual reference to 'typical rape defence' is completely innappropriate and hurtful on a level you cannot possibly comprehend.

finally - you've said something that places you on my ignore list.

 

[minx1]

Minxie, I love that you're still so full of hope. I think I'm done looking for the good in every one and just facing that some people would rather have negitive attention than play nice and recieve positive attention.

I mean, I'm an attention whore and all, but DAY-YUMN!

I'm much to busy to be any more compationate. I figure if I'm going to be called a troll, then I might as well act like one and hijack when I deem it fitting. Oh wait! THAT'S WHAT WE'VE ALWAYS DONE HERE!

minxie

*laugh* actually I was full of sarcasm I obviously need more practice!

I know what you mean, but its playing right into his hands acting out of character and name calling. It also sends the wrong message to newbies who have just rocked up in the midst of all this. Dont get me wrong...its more than tempting....but in my opinion it adds fuel to his fire and I'm not going to do that.

I'm taking the DGE approach......I love ya man

*huggles*

 

[BLoved]

As the others have pointed out Bloved and as I am quite certain you know; this doesnt belong on the BDSM talk board. If you ever arent sure, the clue is in the letters BDSM.

Re read this. Do you not see the irony in this at all? lol

You are right hardly anyone shares your narrow views that you insist on pushing on us ad nauseum.


Yet if you arent "hounding" us what are you doing?


You have inundated the talk thread with your narrow, exclusive beliefs and by flooding the forum have created an environment that makes it difficult for the newer community members to feel able to post.

Is this what a responsible adult does Beloved? I think not.

~smile~

Yet more evidence of obsessive-compulsive harassment.

Expect this from the casual community.

 

[BLoved]

I have been driven to post because I don't understand why Bloved has not been banned. I think it is great that the board values different opinions but ...

Your first post and you choose to whine when you have the option to use the ignore feature.

You contribute nothing but you want to ban someone who has been adding on-topic content.

~smile~

You're going to fit in well here.

 

[BLoved]

Minxie, I love that you're still so full of hope. I think I'm done looking for the good in every one and just facing that some people would rather have negitive attention than play nice and recieve positive attention.

I mean, I'm an attention whore and all, but DAY-YUMN!

I'm much to busy to be any more compationate. I figure if I'm going to be called a troll, then I might as well act like one and hijack when I deem it fitting. Oh wait! THAT'S WHAT WE'VE ALWAYS DONE HERE!

~smile~

Yet more evidence of obsessive-compulsive harassment.

Expect this from the casual community.

 

[BLoved]

how dare you?

for those of us that have experienced rape in the real world, your casual reference to 'typical rape defence' is completely innappropriate and hurtful on a level you cannot possibly comprehend.

finally - you've said something that places you on my ignore list.

Yet more evidence of obsessive-compulsive harassment.

Expect this from the casual community.

 

[BLoved]

*laugh* actually I was full of sarcasm I obviously need more practice!

I know what you mean, but its playing right into his hands acting out of character and name calling. It also sends the wrong message to newbies who have just rocked up in the midst of all this. Dont get me wrong...its more than tempting....but in my opinion it adds fuel to his fire and I'm not going to do that.

~smile~

Yet more evidence of obsessive-compulsive harassment.

Expect this from the casual community.

 

[minx1]

I am a lurker. Sorry, but it is true. I have enjoyed these boards for quite some time but don't post - I am still new to embracing my kinky side and don't feel I have much to add but I love those that share and have learned a lot here. I have been driven to post because I don't understand why Bloved has not been banned. I think it is great that the board values different opinions but this guy is seriously ruining this site for me. This used to be a relaxing, exciting place for me...now it is just aggravating and raises my blood pressure. Dude - please stop being such a jerk.

well welcome gwsister and thanks for posting

Its really good that you can point out to anyone else who might be lurking and wondering what the hell is going on; what things used to be like pre Bl.

Dont let it stop you joining in though now you have posted. There are plenty of other threads and who knows you might even start one yourself soon

 

[BLoved]

Its really good that you can point out to anyone else who might be lurking and wondering what the hell is going on; what things used to be like pre Bl.

~smile~

Yet more evidence of obsessive-compulsive harassment.

Expect this from the casual community.

 

[BLoved]

Whoops, wrong thread.

Moved to here.

 

[gwsister]

Oh I hope that works...

Your first post and you choose to whine when you have the option to use the ignore feature.

You contribute nothing but you want to ban someone who has been adding on-topic content.

~smile~

You're going to fit in well here.

Didn't know I could do that. I hope it is really that simple...off to figure it out.

 

[DirtyPet]

*sneaks in and leaves lotsa hugs for BLoved*

 

[Stella_Omega]

Live and let live is not the same as acceptance.

I am not likely to ever accept the 'ethics' of casual 'bdsm', but I do not feel the need to stalk and hound those who do.

Yeah, you do.

 

[Etoile]

Thread is about Lit, not BDSM; moving to Cafe.

 

[Etoile]

I am a lurker. Sorry, but it is true. I have enjoyed these boards for quite some time but don't post - I am still new to embracing my kinky side and don't feel I have much to add but I love those that share and have learned a lot here. I have been driven to post because I don't understand why Bloved has not been banned. I think it is great that the board values different opinions but this guy is seriously ruining this site for me. This used to be a relaxing, exciting place for me...now it is just aggravating and raises my blood pressure. Dude - please stop being such a jerk.

This is a wonderful post, and welcome to Lit. Hopefully you have gotten the ignore feature worked out, and the board is pleasant for you again.

As for why he has not been banned, it is because Literotica values free speech. The site owners have stated that one can be as much of an asshole as one wants - there are nutcases aplenty in the General Board - and not be banned. However, breaking the rules will get you banned. The rules, which are linked to at the bottom of every page (with the text "Forum Rules"), are mostly about keeping the boards running smoothly - putting things in their proper places, allowing everyone to have a chance at discussion, etc.

 

[BLoved]

Open letter to Etoile and Laurel, in response to Etoile's "Final Warning":

Re: Final warning

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

It has been more than obvious to one and all that I have been subjected to months of verbal abuse and harassment at the hands of the trolls in BDSM Talk.

The misapplication of existing rules and the creation of new ones which you refuse to provide links for demonstrates a simple urge to have me banned, and to create enough rules to provide an excuse to cover up censorship.

We are now to believe that a discussion which uses a bdsm story as an example can only occur in BDSM Talk if we provide a link, not the text verbatim, despite the fact you claimed to move my discussion to Story Feedback because, according to you, I was trying to discuss a BDSM story in BDSM Talk.

Despite the fact I started several on-topic discussions in BDSM Talk and there is no posted rule regarding the number of discussions we can start, I was accused of "flooding" and the discussions merged.

Now I am threatened with something called "slow-motion flooding", one discussion a day on "similar topics", despite the fact that the topics of recent posts have differed and were all on-topic.

Any objective examination of any thread I've started will reveal copious amounts of verbal abuse from the trolls, and the quote you've cited is an appropriate response to such efforts.

Indeed, it actually slowed down such comments and gave the trolls reason to reconsider their approach.

Now I am told I cannot respond appropriately to the verbal abuse.

Etoile, you have been a participant in this verbal abuse since before you became a mod for BDSM Talk. You were responsible for many attempts to hi-jack my discussions with the posting of cat pictures, alone with verbal abuse. Your personal animosity was established long ago.

This is clearly an effort to censor someone who not only disagrees with the cherished beliefs of your friends, but who can effectively argue his position and withstand verbal abuse for months.

In my opinion you are irresponsible with your powers in BDSM Talk. Inventing rules and public threats of suspension/banishment have made a joke out of any claim to trying to promote diversity and free speech in BDSM Talk. You are simply trying to limit any use of the board to those the trolls aprove of, and should you be successful the trolls will be even more encouraged to treat others the way they have treated me.

Instead of a public board, use of the board will be limited to only those the trolls approve of ... in other words they will 'own' the forum and you will execute their demands.

I am submitting delete requests for my three published stories due to the egregious vote-rigging conducted by the trolls. I suggest your forego any effort to pretend to have legitimate cause to banish me and simply ignore any commitment to diversity and free speech.

Censorship would be a lot easier for you if you simply admit that the trolls will never rest until all other brands of BDSM but theirs are silenced.

Laurel: I will be hapy to provide citations for all of this, but to be honest I doubt you have the time or inclination to actually do the research to ensure you've placed an honest and objective person in the position of mod for BDSM Talk, nor do I expect you to remove a mod you've chosen for the board. I am sure Etoile is counting on both as she has frequently encouraged me to contact you with respect to her decisions.

To be honest, I expect the only outcome will be banishment, honesty and integrity being as scarce as they are in the modern world.

However, I will continue to respond to verbal abuse as is quoted in the citation below. If anyone has been bumping my discussions to the top of the board it is the trolls who feel a need to post abuse, not me for responding to the abuse.

Do as you will.

Strategies

Paint a Rosy Picture

Control the medium, and you control the message.

The casual community has learned this lesson well.

By ensuring they are in positions of control: site owners, group owners, moderators, etc they are in a position to ensure only the message they want others to hear will be heard, and no other.

From this position they can make any claim, and as they have the authority to control what is heard, dissent is never heard.

And anyone who doesn't get with the program can be made an example of for others.

-- Excerpt from "Casual 'BDSM' and Emotional Abuse: The Case for Love"

 

[flesh4fancy]

BLoved asked me to post the following on his behalf:

You have been banned for the following reason:
No reason was specified.

Date the ban will be lifted: Never

"Free speech"? "Diversity"?

You people don't know the meaning of the words.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

BLoved asked me to post the following on his behalf:



"Free speech"? "Diversity"?

You people don't know the meaning of the words.

http://sandragahlinger.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83455fcd069e2010535a102e9970c-pi

 

[LoganDarkHolme]

flesh4fancy/Bloved = troll

 

[Etoile]

flesh4fancy/Bloved = troll

Yeah...I'm guessing you missed the whole two-month party?

 

[LoganDarkHolme]

Yeah...I'm guessing you missed the whole two-month party?

sadly yes, bored today so was browsing around the forums saw the who Bloved thing and decided to skim through a bunch of his posts


alas, i missed the fun lol