You can now call me the bionic single Dom

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Re: purring

i read them, the garden sounds beautiful. and yes, please do bring a camera next time.

as for your dream, perfectly heavenly!!!!!!!!!!!
i've always wanted the lake cabin myself. with a little pier to dangle my feet from. and the garden would have a secret spot that only i knew about.

hold tightly to your dream richard

I know that this little fantasy will never become real
but such is life

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Re: Re: purring

evening my friend
and...
what she said <smile>
sometimes dreams are all that keep us sane 's and {{tightest hug}}

*peeking around*
i see i missed coffee - i hope it was not my turn to make it today? U know how well i do on mondays *sigh* Not

yup
your turn

but

seems no one came by till now
ssssssssssoooooooooooooooooooooooo

 

[Richard49]

Today has sucked
I had lots of things planned
and the only thing I got done
was going to VFW meeting
and it sucked

I remember why I no longer go

I am tired
my nerves feel like they are raw on
the surface of my skin ............

I had spent lots of time preparing a chicken
brined it etc
cooked it on grill with smoke also
for 5 hours

company did not make it
and

well
today just sucked

 

[D's mariposa]

I'm sorry it sucked Richard.. And I'm sure it doesn't help that a certain subbie chick is running the asylum today. Grrr. (okay, so maybe she's not running it, but she should be!)

If you need a chuckle, I just posted about my day over on the cafe..

 

[Richard49]

I'm sorry it sucked Richard.. And I'm sure it doesn't help that a certain subbie chick is running the asylum today. Grrr. (okay, so maybe she's not running it, but she should be!)

If you need a chuckle, I just posted about my day over on the cafe..

I have to admit
that hearing her voice might help

me thinks it is the inmates that run the asylum

and tomorrow night
how did you word that
oh ya
subbie chick will
be at a party .......

someone just fucking shoot me


what cafe?

 

[D's mariposa]

Nope, not gonna shoot you, cause we'd miss you too much and then she'd hurt me!

If it makes you feel better about the party, remember she's DM ing, not playing. I'm sure she'd rather be with you.

I meant the bdsm cafe.. here's a link.

life on the idiot desk


hugs and slurps and gropes and flowers..

 

[Richard49]

Nope, not gonna shoot you, cause we'd miss you too much and then she'd hurt me!

If it makes you feel better about the party, remember she's DM ing, not playing. I'm sure she'd rather be with you.

I meant the bdsm cafe.. here's a link.

life on the idiot desk


hugs and slurps and gropes and flowers..

Watch the grops
the sleeping giant may awake
and besides D might not approve

[psst ..... I think I'd like to play with that little minx]

 

[D's mariposa]

I'm pretty sure she'd rather play with you too. I guess I'd better not wake the giant, though. *blows kisses* And since I really want to live to see tomorrow, I'll pass on shooting you, too.

 

[Richard49]

I'm pretty sure she'd rather play with you too. I guess I'd better not wake the giant, though. *blows kisses* And since I really want to live to see tomorrow, I'll pass on shooting you, too.

herself can only speak to the issue I guess

please shoot me

 

[D's mariposa]

Nope. Not gonna do it. I need all the friends I got. So you're just gonna have to bear with me.

Selfish brat, aren't I?

(I've left her like a million emails. Something's up over there I think. She mentioned they had a full house the other day and that they were double rooming some folks.)

 

[Richard49]

Nope. Not gonna do it. I need all the friends I got. So you're just gonna have to bear with me.

Selfish brat, aren't I?

(I've left her like a million emails. Something's up over there I think. She mentioned they had a full house the other day and that they were double rooming some folks.)

I need to speed up the production of Brat Girl T-Shirts

she had not mentioned that to me

 

[D's mariposa]

Hee. I'd be proud to wear a Brat Girl shirt.. Truth in advertising, you know.

I expect you two have other things to talk about..

 

[lady-kat]

I need to speed up the production of Brat Girl T-Shirts

morning Gentle man.

can i place an advance order on those tee shirts?

i do "brat" very well <smirk>

someone else is making coffee this morning i hope
<pout> i won't be having any till probably 3 or 4 this afternoon.

now there is a truly evil thought. they best watch their asses this afternoon
lol. and good thing my dr. is a fine looking woman. i can forgive her a lot....
*kat -- goes off muttering about not being allowed any coffee this morning*

 

[D's mariposa]

It's okay kat, I'll make the coffee today, just so's you don't get tempted. *moving the pot in front of the window so the good coffee smell goes away*

Morning Richad, Kat, little miss awol.. (that'd be ysa.. Where ARE you woman!?! People are missing you!)

 

[lady-kat]

It's okay kat, I'll make the coffee today, just so's you don't get tempted. *moving the pot in front of the window so the good coffee smell goes away*

thank you sweetie. much appreciated.

 

[D's mariposa]

No problem. I have issues with being decafinated, too.

 

[Richard49]

Hee. I'd be proud to wear a Brat Girl shirt.. Truth in advertising, you know.

I expect you two have other things to talk about..

things to talk about ???????????

yup
I need to get off my lazy backside
and get shirts made


Now let me think
what graphic would go good with
a text of Brat Girl

 

[Richard49]

Our lady_kat

is having a bone marrow test today
july 20, 2004

please keep her in your prayers

 

[Richard49]

morning Gentle man.

can i place an advance order on those tee shirts?

i do "brat" very well <smirk>

someone else is making coffee this morning i hope
<pout> i won't be having any till probably 3 or 4 this afternoon.

now there is a truly evil thought. they best watch their asses this afternoon
lol. and good thing my dr. is a fine looking woman. i can forgive her a lot....
*kat -- goes off muttering about not being allowed any coffee this morning*

I am glad I am over 1000 miles away
no coffee
painful test

well at lest you have pretty Dr

a dozen to keep near your heart

 

[Richard49]

It's okay kat, I'll make the coffee today, just so's you don't get tempted. *moving the pot in front of the window so the good coffee smell goes away*

Morning Richad, Kat, little miss awol.. (that'd be ysa.. Where ARE you woman!?! People are missing you!)

she sleep with the inmates last night

please pass me a 1/2 cup please
that the way I drink it
1/2 cup at a time

 

[Richard49]

good morning everyone

It is good to come here
and see people have reached out and developed friendships

 

[lady-kat]

I am glad I am over 1000 miles away
no coffee
painful test

well at lest you have pretty Dr

a dozen to keep near your heart

thank U sweetheart for the roses & the prayers 's

the test went very well, my doctor took extra care to not hurt me any more than was necessary..

and i was a good girl and behaved myself. *wistful sigh* she had on a lovely yellow dress, soft and flowing with flowers. my dr. is a beauty. but i was good *wink*

 

[lady-kat]

It's okay kat, I'll make the coffee today, just so's you don't get tempted. *moving the pot in front of the window so the good coffee smell goes away*

*grin* i can have coffee now..
any left?

 

[D's mariposa]

thank U sweetheart for the roses & the prayers 's

the test went very well, my doctor took extra care to not hurt me any more than was necessary..

and i was a good girl and behaved myself. *wistful sigh* she had on a lovely yellow dress, soft and flowing with flowers. my dr. is a beauty. but i was good *wink*

You were good? Well, we'll just chalk it up to the lack of caffiene and good drugs.



I'm so glad it went well for you! I've never had a bone marrow biopsy, but I did have a needle biopsy of a lump in my breast. I didn't cry in the office, but I cried all the way home. You're tougher than me any day!

 

[Richard49]

The Top 10 Things Not to Say to Me, and to Say, When I Have Lost a Loved One

1. I know how you feel.
No, you don't! I know you mean well, but no one knows the depth of my grief. What would I appreciate from you? The truth. "I don't know how you feel. I see that you are hurting. Tell me about it."

2. It will get better. Time heals.
I know in my head that it will get better. It can't get worse. But I can only live in the present. Today is when it hurts. Today is where I am. Time stopped when he died. I cannot deal with the future. It might help if you said, "How is it going today? I really want to know."

3. Call if there is anything I can do.
I don't know what has to be done. Everything is a blur. I can't concentrate. Nothing matters. You will need to make the suggestion. I can't. "I want you to come to dinner, with just our family, on Friday evening. I will pick you up at six and call to remind you earlier that day."

4. It is God's will. Try to accept that.
The God I know would not take someone's life. The God I know gives life. The God I know is loving and kind. But where is He now? I could hear you say, "God knows that you are grieving. He cares. He has known grief. Feel His arms around you."

5. I will never forget the day my husband died. It was like this...
It's not that I don't care. I just can't handle your grief and mine at this time. When I am over the worst of this maybe I can listen to your story. Now I need to tell mine because that is where I am. For some unknown reason, I need to tell it over and over. Maybe it is my way of trying to face the reality of his death. You could get me started. "Tell me about the day he died. I want to hear."

6. You must get out and do things. Keep busy.
I did just that in the early days of my grief. I was busy all the time. My friends made sure I had no free hours. I was running, running from my grief. Finally it caught up with me. Some little something set me off and I cried for days. I began to schedule time for my grief work. I found a balance. There was time to accept the offer of a friend, "I would like to come over and look at your picture albums with you. We can cry together."

7. You've got to go through his closets and drawers, the sooner the better.
I am thankful I had better judgment than to take this advice. A close friend knew exactly what to say. "Take your time to decide when you want to deal with his things. It will be comforting to feel them around you. Perhaps you will think of persons who would appreciate having something that was his. You could make a list. The choices are yours. You will know when the time is right to let his things go. I will help you when you are ready."

8. Now, now, don't cry.
I am sad. I try not to cry in front of people because they seem uncomfortable. Sometimes I can't help it. It's like a floodgate that I can't control. I hear "our" song and I have to cry. I see a man who looks and walks like him. I sob in disappointment. I overhear somebody order his favorite dish at our table in a restaurant. I burst into tears and feel so embarrassed. Then I can't seem to stop. I feel an arm around my shoulder, "Go ahead and cry. It's okay. I'll be right here beside you. I may cry with you."

9. You are attractive. You will find somebody else.
I don't want anyone else. I want him back! Don't you understand? To think that way would negate our marriage and life together. It would be a sacrilege. All you need to say is, "It must be so difficult without him."

10. It could be worse. He could have lingered longer.
What does that matter? He's gone. Don't you understand? I did not want him to die. This is worse than his lingering. At least I had him alive then. If only you would hold my hand and let me tell you how I feel. Don't say anthing. Just listen, really listen.

About the Submitter:
This piece was originally submitted by Marta Felber, MA Counseling, published author and award winning photographer, with counseling positions held in Bucks, County, PA; Cairo, Egypt; and Jakarta, Indonesia, who can be reached at MartaFelber@msn.com, or visited on the web
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