You can now call me the bionic single Dom

[kayte]

Good luck on your trip
Have loads of fun

Here is link to thread

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=169124

Good evening {{{{Richard}}}}

I slept in today. Was out with some friends last night. Got in about 2am. I am way too old for that. We went out for fish and then karaoke. First time I ever did that. I guess you could say I was a Karaoke Virgin.

Thank you for the link to the thread. Just so you know. He and I have known each other for about a year and a half. We see each other when we can work out the logistics.

Of course the first meeting was a public one, shoot and that was about a year ago! We had been chatting online and by phone for quite some time.

The first private meeting was a couple days later, and the usual safe calls and all.

After reading the thread one of the things that sticks out, you need to pay attention to that little voice in your head. Now I knew, when saw Him walking to the restaraunt that first time and He looked up as saw me and we both smiled. That was it! The little voice can tell good things as well as "run like hell."

 

[Richard49]

kayte

I sent the link because of the argonce shown by some

I think most of us are old enough to be safe

I hope you have a good trip

I am missing Rachel tonight............

 

[kayte]

kayte

I sent the link because of the argonce shown by some

I think most of us are old enough to be safe

I hope you have a good trip

I am missing Rachel tonight............

{{{{{{Richard}}}}}}}} I am sorry you are hurting tonight.

Thank you for your wishes.

 

[Richard49]

{{{{{{Richard}}}}}}}} I am sorry you are hurting tonight.

Thank you for your wishes.

Your welcome

 

[magusfire25]

My wishes to you on a speedy recovery

Followed a link to your thread on the advice of Ran57gr Glad I did.. you are truely a gentleman sir and I respect you for that.

Life can be hard at times, but also those hard times can make you appreciate what you do have.

Just do your best and keep being the gentleman that you are. Not only do you make people smile. But you also make friends along the way.. With friends , you are never truely alone.

 

[Pleasurekitten]

I have had many train rides
none accross the contry and the trip I have planed now
is not like what I had wanted and planed but.......

The two longest train trips I have been on so far
was from Detroit to Fort Knox. The other one was from Fort Knox to Redstone Arsenal. O none of them...I can't remember which one... the train hit a car. Cause a delay...nothing more .......

It would please me if you share about your train trips

Sorry for taking so long to get back to this thread. Anyway, about my train trips........geeze i could on go for pages but i don't want to take up that much space. lol

Basically i have travelled on all the major and minor lines that cross the country, bar one. Some took a few hours, others up to three days. i love the sounds and the rhythms of a train, the ability to look out the window and watch the world pass by silently, the look of the countryside as it rolls by, and the gentle rocking as you go to sleep. And it's not bad being woken up with a nice hot cup of tea and a smiling face in the morning!

i am entitled to two free long distance train trips a year but have not had the opportunity to take them these past few years. Ah well, i still have my memories though.

 

[Richard49]

Re: My wishes to you on a speedy recovery

Followed a link to your thread on the advice of Ran57gr Glad I did.. you are truely a gentleman sir and I respect you for that.

Life can be hard at times, but also those hard times can make you appreciate what you do have.

Just do your best and keep being the gentleman that you are. Not only do you make people smile. But you also make friends along the way.. With friends , you are never truely alone.

Thank you for stopping by
and for the wonderful complments

friends are priceless

 

[Richard49]

Sorry for taking so long to get back to this thread. Anyway, about my train trips........geeze i could on go for pages but i don't want to take up that much space. lol

Basically i have travelled on all the major and minor lines that cross the country, bar one. Some took a few hours, others up to three days. i love the sounds and the rhythms of a train, the ability to look out the window and watch the world pass by silently, the look of the countryside as it rolls by, and the gentle rocking as you go to sleep. And it's not bad being woken up with a nice hot cup of tea and a smiling face in the morning!

i am entitled to two free long distance train trips a year but have not had the opportunity to take them these past few years. Ah well, i still have my memories though.

I'm jealious
very jealious

and to have those free passes

However I can not see myself doing the tour
we had planed alone... I am good company.....
but not that good

 

[Richard49]

Last nights dream

the dream that wolk me up this morning but.......

I had two females side by side
on a table
on there backs

Feet flat on table and legs spread
hands plam down on table

I was using riding crop on there cunts and breasts

They appeared to be enjoying it to the point of subspace

 

[Richard49]

Dance and D/s

I saw this posted on a discussion list and felt it was worth sharing

It is not just about Tango but really about most forms of ballroom
dance, but the Tango is my favorite dance. It is very dramatic, the
leads are strong, the moves are staccato, and the whole thing is, by design, erotic, passionate, full of resistance, power, and dominance.

I have said often that if I was going to train a new young male "Dom", I would first send him to ballroom dance classes. I would do the same with a young female sub. (Forgive the gender "discrimination" here; as most dances are taught with a male lead, and female follower, it is easier to talk about it in that sense. Thankfully, some dances and even some dance studios are getting with the idea that not all 'couples' want to do it
that way. In many swing groups, the two positions are simply referred to as "leads and follows" with no discrimination as to whether a lead or follow is male or female. Even in the Tango competitions, there are some same sex couples competing. So use male and female references as you will)

The basic thing is that, as in good D/s, there simply has to be a
follower and a leader. Someone has to take charge here. And the other person has to follow. The line, at least in the International version of Tango, is very clear. (In the Argentinean version, although there is still much the same idea, the lady has more control to improvise with footwork). If the "leader" does not lead, the dance is no good. If the follower does not follow well, the dance is no good. If the follower resists the lead, the dance is no good. (The resistance I mention above in the tango is the resistance built into the "frame" and body posture
of the follower, not a real resistance to the moves of the dance).

Often in dance, the followers try to "back lead" causing a good deal of confusion and stress to the dance, and ultimately a less then attractive or satisfying dance. (unless agreed to by the partners that that sort of thing is what they are after, in which case the normal follower is simply now the leader, and if done well, fine, it amounts to the same idea of follow and lead). This is similar to "topping from the bottom". A difficult and unsatisfying situation in BDSM, UNLESS it is what the two folks seek, and then it can be a very rewarding "dance".

So there is this partnership. Both partners equal in what they do. Both with their own necessary skills, and believe me there are real skills here to learn.

First, each must learn this particular dance, its basic steps and its
different moves. They must practice them until what is difficult appears natural and lovely. They must learn their individual forms, holds, and steps. In D/s I would liken this to learning the individual skills expected of a particular sub; making coffee, giving blow jobs, fixing the car, learning fine wines and the skills of entertaining, whatever the particular skill or "dance" required of that submissive.

Equally important to learning the individual dance, they much each learn their own skills of following and leading. These skills carry over from one dance to another with slight modifications. The "leader" must learn what moves require arm leads, what moves require body leads, even what moves might require some form of verbal lead before the lead is actually accomplished. They must learn the fine art of "how much firmness" is required. Most beginners are too soft in their leads, but then may go to
the opposite extreme. They also must learn to be able to lead more then one follower. They need to learn how to lead the good dancer who may not need much of a lead, and then lead the less experienced dancer who needs more firmness. And he must accept that the leadership of this dance is his responsibility. Without living up to that responsibility, the dance will fall flat.

And, at least to me, it is very lovely if they learn to do their leads
in ways that are to subtle for the observer to see. Strong, definite
leads that appear as if the couple simply moves together, reading each others minds, is a lovely dance to me, whether the dance is the waltz, the tango or D/s.

The follower needs to learn their skills of following and that can be
difficult and take a lot of work. They must learn to "live in the
moment" and not jump ahead because they think they know what is coming. They must learn how to be "ready", but not try to "out think" and get ahead of the one leading. And they must, maybe most importantly, learn to simply let someone else have control without resistance or struggle. They wanted to dance. They are dancing something that is a dance with a
definite leader and follower, so do the deed, play by the rules, be the follower and don't fight it. It is what you said you wanted, so do it.

Now, if the "leader" is a less then outstanding dancer, and he is
dancing with a wonderful female dancer, there is nothing that keeps that female "follower" from helping, giving hints, assisting with showing how leads can be better, moves better. (And, in that same vein, I have always said that I have learned much more from good experienced bottoms in the scene then I think I have ever taught anyone.)

Together, as partners, each using their skills of this dance, and of
following and leading, they can do a beautiful, rewarding, satisfying dance. I think there are lessons to learn, models to follow for those of us in the world of D/s.

 

[magusfire25]

Re: Re: My wishes to you on a speedy recovery

Thank you for stopping by
and for the wonderful complments

friends are priceless

sometimes just having friends there to listen to you means everything in the world.

 

[spott]

Re: Dance and D/s

Together, as partners, each using their skills of this dance, and of
following and leading, they can do a beautiful, rewarding, satisfying dance. I think there are lessons to learn, models to follow for those of us in the world of D/s.

No one has ever danced with me, no, not one. Dancing was forbidden when I was growing up, and at my wedding I got dragged around the floor by strange men.

I have tried to sign up for lessons, but they always require a partner.

I don't even know if my Beloved knows how to dance or expects it. <sigh>

oh well.
-spott

 

[spott]

Did you read thread about asking for references?

yes, and let me say this about that:

I was married to a man for 24 years and I never knew about much of what he did or did not do until after he was "gone".
I really should have had a clue, but did not...so what kind of a reference could I give regarding someone I lived with every day for 24 years who hid stuff from me?

There is a difference between being trusted and being trustworthy.
-spott

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Re: My wishes to you on a speedy recovery

sometimes just having friends there to listen to you means everything in the world.

and i have none other then online

 

[Richard49]

spott

as always it is good to have you
share with me ......

huggs

 

[wildsweetone]

Re: Re: Re: Re: My wishes to you on a speedy recovery

and i have none other then online

If I might speak my mind here...

Through no real fault of my own, I too have no other friends than those I have online. To be frank, I am closer to these friends than any I have ever been able to touch skin with (i hate the expression real life) and to be franker still... I am glad of the chance to have the friends I have.

It is not a put down to have online friends, it is an honour - yes I tell myself this every time i see somebody say 'So and so is only an online friend'. Afterall, a friend online is likely to be somebody you have told your deepest thoughts to, more than likely you've not been able to have that kind of communication with a skin to skin friend.

damn. sorry, dunno what came over me then.

i realise you didn't say 'only' Sir... i just let it bug me i guess.

 

[Richard49]

I was not
nor would I

put down my online friends

I was just indicating that I would like
to have RT f2f friends

 

[wildsweetone]

Oh Sir I'm sorry@!
I did not mean to indicate you had... I put the terms 'real life' and 'real time' right up there with other words I find difficult to come to terms with. I have a lot of unlearning to do still.

 

[Richard49]

Oh Sir I'm sorry@!
I did not mean to indicate you had... I put the terms 'real life' and 'real time' right up there with other words I find difficult to come to terms with. I have a lot of unlearning to do still.

What do you think you need to unlearn ?

 

[wildsweetone]

that words are only words.


i liked the dance discussion you put in your posting.

'Equally important to learning the individual dance, they must each learn their own skills of following and leading.'

this is one of the things that struck me as particularly logical. even being led is a skill that needs learning.

 

[bunny bondage]

i loved the scene you described earlier, Richard. but i thought only teenagers had wet dreams!

 

[Richard49]

that words are only words.


i liked the dance discussion you put in your posting.

'Equally important to learning the individual dance, they must each learn their own skills of following and leading.'

this is one of the things that struck me as particularly logical. even being led is a skill that needs learning.

no matter how well you know the dance
no matter how much we know BDSM
We have to learn the style/form that goes with
a new partner .....

That is why many of us hate to have to
find new partners ...... so much work
and if they are not a good fit ........

 

[Richard49]

i loved the scene you described earlier, Richard. but i thought only teenagers had wet dreams!

Well I have lots of nightmares
and sleep is not my freind

but

a lack of sex
will generate some kind of erotic dream

 

[Richard49]

Missing R is driving me crazy

God either bring us back together or send me someone

 

[ChemE_student]

(((Richard))) I really am thinking happy thoughts for you.