YAY!!!!! Vanilla went to Strawberry!

[NikiCole]

Ok, I know this is tame compared to some of the other stuff. But I have been struggling with how to get my other half to loosen the reins on our very vanilla sex life. There was never any toys or spankings or being tied down and called a dirty little slut....

'Til last night. I was awakened by a gag, ties and toys. Heaven.

I had bought him a movie, nothing too advanced, just lite bondage and humiliation, told him to watch it, take notes, and understand. Then I went to sleep, to let it sink in, give him some time to think on it. It didn't take long at all.

Afterwards, we talked. He said it was great, but not something he wants to do every time. I think I can handle it, at least until I hand him the next movie.

Niki

PS- THANK YOU ALL FOR THE WONDERFUL ADVICE!!!!! You have been so helpful in finding answers, and ideas!

 

[Daxaeha]

Congrats!

We should chat. I'm in the same boat. He just started to test the waters.

Good luck and keep us updated.

 

[NikiCole]

Most definitely in the same boat, but I do not think mine will every be "dominate" which is ok. I'm just happy that this forum is here to give the advice I needed. And to get many ideas, I stole your crafty ideas the other day. Brilliant!

 

[Daxaeha]

Bless this forum.

 

[CamRew]

CONGRATS Niki! Hope you find the balance that makes the two of you happy! Enjoy!

 

[celestina]

Encouraging to see others at the same stage we are/will be. Please keep sharing your journeys... And I will do the same.

 

[knot_sweet]

Woohoo!!

I'm really glad for you guys.

And I really hope it continues to work for all of you.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Sounds great!

 

[NikiCole]

Thanks yall! It's one spank at a time. :caning:

 

[OTCurve]

Congrats, Niki!

Best of luck on your journey.

(by the way, love the sig!)

-OTCurve

 

[NikiCole]

Thanks everyone, for all your support.
We had another interesting night last night/this morning.... just got to tell... at least a little.

I was changing into comfy (sweats, t shirt) clothes, when he barged into the room, shuts and locks the door. I was just kind of stunned, staring, standing on one leg, half my rear and a leg still out of the sweats. He grabbed my hair, pulled me close and asked,'Do you trust me?' I nodded and the next thing I know I am on my knees in front of him.....

And the rest is, as they say, Freakin' Fun!!

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

Thanks everyone, for all your support.
We had another interesting night last night/this morning.... just got to tell... at least a little.

I was changing into comfy (sweats, t shirt) clothes, when he barged into the room, shuts and locks the door. I was just kind of stunned, staring, standing on one leg, half my rear and a leg still out of the sweats. He grabbed my hair, pulled me close and asked,'Do you trust me?' I nodded and the next thing I know I am on my knees in front of him.....

And the rest is, as they say, Freakin' Fun!!

WOOOHOO! SOunds like you had a DAMN goof freakin time! I so want my love to do something like this. Our problem is we dont have alot of time when we are with each other. I'm discovering im more sub with him than any man ive ever been with. Maybe he is just more dom than any man ive been with. Either way, Im LOVIN that he is starting to push me against a wall, having me so close to a orgasm,.. than STOPS! hes driving me INSANE! I ask why are you doing this? He just smirks and says," To make you want me more." We didnt have sex this week when I saw him and Im already about to go nuts! He tells me no playing with your toy when IM not with you.

 

[NikiCole]

WOOOHOO! SOunds like you had a DAMN goof freakin time! I so want my love to do something like this. Our problem is we dont have alot of time when we are with each other. I'm discovering im more sub with him than any man ive ever been with. Maybe he is just more dom than any man ive been with. Either way, Im LOVIN that he is starting to push me against a wall, having me so close to a orgasm,.. than STOPS! hes driving me INSANE! I ask why are you doing this? He just smirks and says," To make you want me more." We didnt have sex this week when I saw him and Im already about to go nuts! He tells me no playing with your toy when IM not with you.

He sounds like he's enjoying it too!! My guy won't with hold my orgasm from me, he hasn't quite figured that one out. But he is learning, he has his limits, and I respect them. But I push him as far as he will allow them though.

 

[WaterPoloStud]

He sounds like he's enjoying it too!! My guy won't with hold my orgasm from me, he hasn't quite figured that one out. But he is learning, he has his limits, and I respect them. But I push him as far as he will allow them though.

Glad to hear he's making his first steps!