Writing is really hard, and I suck at it

[SimonDoom]

If you feel that way, posting a story in Loving Wives could be the way to go. Preferably one with a cuckolding theme. A few encouraging and uplifting comments from your readers will work wonders in restoring your self-confidence as an author...

Wading into the warm, pleasant waters of Loving Wives will have this salutary benefit: you'll be half convinced that it's not your writing that sucks, it's YOU that suck.

 

[onehitwanda]

Wading into the warm, pleasant waters of Loving Wives will have this salutary benefit: you'll be half convinced that it's not your writing that sucks, it's YOU that suck.

it's warm, but it's not water.

 

[DeLaFaye]

Venting is great, but I'd suggest you also give yourself grace. As many have already pointed out, you're doing well. Full stop.

The fact that you're finding parts of your writing that you dislike means you're improving. You're seeing what isn't working for you, and you want to fix it. It's a painful process, but as a writer, relish in that pain (even if it's not your kink), realizing what it's molding you into. Think of yourself like a caterpillar going through a metamorphosis, your brain might feel like mush, but keep writing, and something wondrous will happen.

Also, some crap I do - if a particular part is giving you trouble, try rewriting that bit from memory. It usually helps to get your point across more succinctly, and you can add your own voice from there. Reading something completely different from what you're used to can help activate different parts of your brain. Walks and naps are also helpful. But you do you. The only sure way to get better at writing is to keep writing. No wasted words.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I need to vent.

Writing is really hard. I don't know how you guys do it, but nothing I write feels like it's any good.

It's discouraging that everything that I type is so clunky and awkward. I have the story in my head, and when I write the words they are like a child wrote them.

I know it's only been a few months (Oct 22), but I never imagined it'd be this hard.

I think most of us go through this, especially when creating a new story or new chapter.

You start writing and it’s all bland descriptive crap creating neither mood, nor tension.

It is difficult.

The good thing about writing is that by the very process of getting words on the page the muse does appear and start whispering in your ear aged eventually set-up becomes story, characters draw you in, mysteries are revealed and plot thickens like a creamy chicken soup.

But for most of us it doesn’t just happen…but on occassion when in does, it’s fucking awesome.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Bingo! Perfectly said, in one line. Although, you said "suck" so many times, I'm now terribly distracted.

A tourist in N.Y.C. approaches a local street musician. "Pardon me, but can you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?"
The musician grins and says, "Practice man, practice."

Dave, I haven't read any of your stuff yet, but you're on my list.

Actually, an easier answer is to take the N, Q, R, or W train to 57th Street and 7th Avenue. Even if you can't play a note, you will be right there.

https://www.alamy.com/stock-photo-c...attan-new-york-city-america-usa-20929587.html

 

[gunhilltrain]

First drafts are supposed to be terrible. It's all about getting the ideas onto the page. You can go back and worry about prose quality later.

First drafts can vary a lot. Sometimes they need a lot of work, sometimes they are close to what was intended. And sometimes they don't work at all.

Anyway, Dave, I don't know what more I can say beyond what has already been posted here. Don't be too hard on yourself; let other people do that for you!

 

[MillieDynamite]

Thanks for the encouragement. Sometimes I get in my own head too much.

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Part of my frustration is that I have these stories in my head, and I feel like I'm not able to get them out without mangling and not doing them justice. Because I know how they should be.

You're welcome.

 

[MyBareTorso]

I need to vent.

Writing is really hard. I don't know how you guys do it, but nothing I write feels like it's any good.

It's discouraging that everything that I type is so clunky and awkward. I have the story in my head, and when I write the words they are like a child wrote them.

I know it's only been a few months (Oct 22), but I never imagined it'd be this hard.

Just try and relax into it...write something that you find really fun, and just go for it. Think about yourself and not the readers. That's helped me in the past. For what it's worth, I've read some of your stories, and I've enjoyed them. Just keep writing...I think my recent stories are better than my first ones...

 

[gunhilltrain]

Corrected the post above: it's 57th Street, not 7th Street. And the W train goes there too. So, Dave, what was your issue again? Oh, yeah, got it now. As Emily says above, the plot thickens like a creamy chicken soup. Actually, maybe you should go with the post just above this one, and try to have some fun with it.

 

[Cagivagurl]

I need to vent.

Writing is really hard. I don't know how you guys do it, but nothing I write feels like it's any good.

It's discouraging that everything that I type is so clunky and awkward. I have the story in my head, and when I write the words they are like a child wrote them.

I know it's only been a few months (Oct 22), but I never imagined it'd be this hard.

IMO...
And that's all it is, an opinion.
All creative people go through this phase. Regardless of whether you are a musician, a painter, a sculptor. At some point. You will question everything. You will feel like you are suffocating in doubt.
I am in a similar position. I have 12 stories, finished. My problem is, I have lost faith in my writing, and I feel like I have nothing to say, the stories are empty and devoid of emotion.
When I write, it starts witch a character, or an idea. I never know where it's going to go. Who the good guys are. Who the evil genius is. Normally, this all becomes obvious as the story unfolds. Lately, that has been difficult.
My advice, and I'm probably not the person to be offering

Just keep going, and hopefully the joy will return

Kia Kaha my friend. You have a voice, let it free you.

Cagivagurl

 

[dasgoodshit]

I too also suck at it. But everyday I suck at it just a little bit less. Still suck, but sucking a little less than I did before . And now, at the very least, I'm very good at sucking.
But someday I won't suck as much. Then, I'm afraid I'll miss sucking.

Sounds like someone likes sucking

 

[dasgoodshit]

My OTHER new discovery is I can...gasp...SKIP writing a sex scene.

Omg, writing the sex can be such a drag, unless the character's have motivation for what they're doing (like one story that I'm in the middle of writing- it's so exciting!).

Constantly worrying if the scene is long enough, if it feels natural... This is easily the part about writing that I dislike the most.

 

[Djmac1031]

Omg, writing the sex can be such a drag, unless the character's have motivation for what they're doing (like one story that I'm in the middle of writing- it's so exciting!).

Constantly worrying if the scene is long enough, if it feels natural... This is easily the part about writing that I dislike the most.

It really depends on the story for me.

Most of my stories are pretty short anyway, so usually one, maybe two sex scenes.

But the more one writes these kinda stories, yeah sometimes the sex becomes almost secondary and you're more into the characters and plot.

So when you hit that sex scene it can almost feel like I hindrance because you just wanna continue writing the STORY.

So yeah, on my last one I found I could simply put in a place holder: SEX SCENE HERE, then carry on writing the story itself.

 

[MediocreAuthor]

I can't say that this will help, but I'll say that it could help.

Load your stories into a text-to-speech program and listen to them. Do they flow? I find that sometimes hearing your written words can give you insight that reading them can't.

Just a thought. And just keep trying. You have nothing to lose.

 

[ElectricBlue]

So yeah, on my last one I found I could simply put in a place holder: SEX SCENE HERE, then carry on writing the story itself.

The problem with doing that, is that the sex isn't organic to the story. If you bolt it in later, I reckon it always shows.

 

[Djmac1031]

The problem with doing that, is that the sex isn't organic to the story. If you bolt it in later, I reckon it always shows.

Not necessarily. Because if I've already written what happens after, I can gear the sex to fit that mood.

I've only done this once really, in my last story.

Actually, I wound up breezing over several sex scenes in that one because there were a few I wanted to focus on in much greater detail.