Wrestling submissions for couples?

[benoittodd]

We enjoy doing playful wrestling matches in bed. Basically, I let her put me in any position, and then the game is that I either break free or she submits me.

Since I'm a tad stronger than she is, 99.9% of the time I break free. But she's quite big (we weigh the same and she's just two inches shorter than me) so it shouldn't be too difficult for me to submit to her. She just doesn't know what to do.

I would like to find some site that will teach her how to put me in more efficient and better submissions moves, so that I submit more times. I enjoy them even more if the submission uses her body and weight.

I would enjoy it if I had to genuinely submit more times. I usually let her win, but I want to actually lose. She also enjoys when I have to tell her to stop.

Thanks for the suggestions.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Edited. It was not a constructive comment.

 

[Adakgirl]

uuuuuuuuummmm why don't you simply change the game. It is not written in stone is it? Think of a game she is better at than you are and use it instead of wrestling. Monopoly, Naked Twister, checkers, chess, pin the tail on the donkey...whatever. OR you can just submit to her without including the requirement that she physically overpowers you.

You are confusing your little naughty personally invented sexual game with actual Dominance/submission you seem to think it is the same thing, it is not the same at all.

When submissives submit their Dominants they do it of their own free will. They want to submit to them, they need to submit to them and they gladly give up control to the Dominant. Dominants Dominate with their mind's and they get into the submissives mind and emotions, only then can the Dominant truly control the submissive.

Do you understand what I am saying?

 

[ZRT]

Well Ada, there are people who enjoy being genuinely captured before submitting. Nothing wrong with that if everybody's getting their jollies. Hell, I enjoy doing the capturing, so long as it's not a constant 'Oh crap, she's doing it again' thing that makes me feel like I'm Closeau wrestling with Kato all damn day long.

BT, I don't know of any pages off the top of my head, but there are plenty of illustrated training sheets for amateur wrestling out there that show the holds and submission moves. I'd seriously recommend before you do any of those for real that you practice with each other and try them out first so you're both familiar with how they work and minimize your chances of actual physical injury. (Besides, it's a great excuse for intimate physical contact.) Google 'amateur wrestling' and see what's out there.

 

[myinnerslut]

i love wrestling with Master. really really have fun. i can see why you like to do it, and im with you this far. the result is where we part ways.

when Master and i wrestle, i know he can win. im a 120 lb girl thats in shape but not super strong and he weighs over twice that and is a power lifter. not exactly a fair fight, and i expect him to eventually win. there is nothing hinging on the outcome. i am his no matter what happens.

in your case the outcome matters. now this may be an overly simplistic suggestion, but.... why not just wrestle for fun and talk to her about submitting. if you want to submit but end up not being able to because you are stronger and win, then its time for a new system.

 

[JMohegan]

"Submission" is a term actually used in some types of wrestling and martial arts.

To the OP - I'll second ZRT's post, and add the suggestion that a class might be worth taking, if you both enjoy this sort of thing. For safety reasons, and also to expand the range of your skills.

Have fun.

 

[lilylicious]

Wrestling is super fun!

I lifeguarded back in the day where a large part of the training was how to get away from victims who latch onto you in a panic while you're trying to rescue them. Actually, I was a lifeguarding instructor too. In any case, I'm VERY good at getting out of being held and pinned, even when the guy has several pounds and inches on me. It always surprises the guy when I can get away, particularly when they've wrestled in high school and college.

We enjoy doing playful wrestling matches in bed. Basically, I let her put me in any position, and then the game is that I either break free or she submits me.

Maybe you could try turning this around. If she breaks away from you, you have to submit.

I would like to find some site that will teach her how to put me in more efficient and better submissions moves, so that I submit more times. I enjoy them even more if the submission uses her body and weight.

I don't know if any websites can really help, but I would recommend self defense or martial arts training. What I didn't learn from lifeguarding, I learned in karate.

 

[ZRT]

In any case, I'm VERY good at getting out of being held and pinned, even when the guy has several pounds and inches on me. It always surprises the guy when I can get away, particularly when they've wrestled in high school and college.

No surprises there- wiry little women can be very squirmy and hard to pin down. That's where the whole 'Not all damn day' thing can come in.

 

[Homburg]

Wrestling is super fun!

I lifeguarded back in the day where a large part of the training was how to get away from victims who latch onto you in a panic while you're trying to rescue them. Actually, I was a lifeguarding instructor too. In any case, I'm VERY good at getting out of being held and pinned, even when the guy has several pounds and inches on me. It always surprises the guy when I can get away, particularly when they've wrestled in high school and college.

I can imagine that not wanting to drown would be a powerful motivator towards getting you good at being out of holds.

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No surprises there- wiry little women can be very squirmy and hard to pin down. That's where the whole 'Not all damn day' thing can come in.

Yeah, no kidding. My aforementioned 120lb girl is surprisingly difficult to keep a hold of. I do it, and do it without too much trouble, but if she had any actual trainign in it is would be actively difficult.

 

[willing2learn]

Lilylicious,

Wow, I bet you're a handful! Wrestling a gal that might "win" sounds exciting!

 

[kittenartist]

Yeah, no kidding. My aforementioned 120lb girl is surprisingly difficult to keep a hold of. I do it, and do it without too much trouble, but if she had any actual trainign in it is would be actively difficult.

Me and my boy have similar proportions, I think, to you and MIS. I am five inches taller than him and outweigh him by a good bit. He is 130lbs wet. Heh. But he has the training, a lot of training. I cannot hold that boy down for the life of me... And believe me I try! We get into really dramatic, painful, wrestling matches. He wins hands down every time. Which is why I get such a kick out of saying "enough" and seeing him just go limb and waiting.

And to the OP -- I second (third, fourth, whatever) the idea of taking a class. Especially classes that focus on grappling. Um. I am not the martial arts expert in the family but if you want specific suggestions for types of classes I can ask the boy...

 

[Homburg]

Me and my boy have similar proportions, I think, to you and MIS. I am five inches taller than him and outweigh him by a good bit. He is 130lbs wet. Heh. But he has the training, a lot of training. I cannot hold that boy down for the life of me... And believe me I try! We get into really dramatic, painful, wrestling matches. He wins hands down every time. Which is why I get such a kick out of saying "enough" and seeing him just go limb and waiting.

Haha, I've gotten my butt handed to me by a 130lb former Spetznaz paratrooper. Training, aggression, and blinding damned speed can make up for a lot of mass and strength. That little Russian dude climbed up my body while standing and had me in an armbar before I even started to tip over.

It was irritating though. As cool and skilled as he was, almost nothing he did was applicable to me because I just flat couldn't move like that.

MIS gets as much success as she does out of a whole lot of strength for her size, speed, and steely determination to give as good as she gets. It's great fun

But that moment where I say "Okay, that's enough" is great. I'm with you there. Good stuff.

 

[athina_angel]

as a trained martial artist i would suggest takingclasses in submition wrestling, judo, jujitsu or a simelar sport. i personally feel that this is the safest way to learn what you want to know. it doesn't take nuch to mess up an arm bar, leg lock, chokes, and strangulations. classes give you a safe place to learn the moves befor you try them on each other. i personally will not ingage in the activities you are with a partner who hasn't got some form of lagitament training. i hope that you and your partner find what you are looking for, just be cearful.

 

[diamondgal22]

You could always google search "how to do wrestling in bed". You could find a whole bunch of stuff on there that can teach you things so your better and you have more fun. You have no idea what you can find, when you search for it.
Hope you find allot of stuff.

 

[thebull58]

Check out these for help...

YouTube.com and search for Mixed Wrestling. Have her watch the matches and learn some holds. Also, check out WB270.com...great mixed wrestling site.

I have wrestled with many gals and it is not only erotic as heck, can be a great workout and I can tell you from experience...gals are tough to beat! They have killer leg strength and some are just naturally strong!

Whew...if any of you ladies are interested in a match let me know!

 

[00Syd]

There is a group in NYC (can't think of what it's called now...) that has wrestling parties for people who truly enjoy wrestling as a sport but who also enjoy it as play. I believe they teach classes as well. Will try to remember the name and find more info.