Would you sleep with a married person?

[imready2]

[QUOTE AprilMorning
Being married myself, if I were looking for sex I would pick someone married.... safer that way

That is exactly my thinking.
You'd be surprised how many the plague of "Married But Unfulfilled" there are.

No argument from me on that one. Someone once said, "I have a commitment, I am just looking for a good time!"

 

[klippert]

[QUOTE AprilMorning
Being married myself, if I were looking for sex I would pick someone married.... safer that way



No argument from me on that one. Someone once said, "I a have a commitment, I am just looking for a good time!"

I second this...

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

I sleep with my wife, and she is married. So the answer is yes.

 

[Somehowyou]

We were both married to others when we met, none of the 4 of us particularly happy in our situations. Both of those marriages ended, and we got married not long after.

I think I can safely say that 3 of the parties are happier now. Of the repercussions, I think my kids were the most immediately affected. There was a period of adjustment but they've done extremely well, and I'm very proud of them.

Let me guess...it is your ex-husband that is not happy and better off. Seems like more often than not it is the man that gets dumped and has to pay child support who is worse off. He has less disposable inclome as a result and is is seen as "weaker" and less desireable to other woman.

 

[ncm50]

Being married myself, if I were looking for sex I would pick someone married.... safer that way

I agree

 

[ncm50]

When he comes in town, calls me, I can get very weak willed.

He is by far the hottest man I have ever been with, and can do things to me that almost make me faint.

Hard to turn that down.

Hi from a fellow Carolinian

 

[jhuson]

When I was barely 19 I slept with a 30-year-old married woman.

Recently, as a married man, I've thought about it. but not really

 

[tomwantstosee]

When I was barely 19 I slept with a 30-year-old married woman.

Recently, as a married man, I hooked up with another married woman.

Both were very exciting at the time but left me conflicted afterward.

Can fully understand the confusion...

 

[ohwhynot77]

Yes I have. I felt more guilty about what it would do to my husband than what his wife would think. It always felt great during, but left me drained and pretty stressed out afterward. i had a long term FWB for 4+ years. i broke it off when i finally decided feeling like a used whore wasn't worth 20 minutes of fun. def. not worth it. guess i'm not cut out for it.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Yes I have. I felt more guilty about what it would do to my husband than what his wife would think. It always felt great during, but left me drained and pretty stressed out afterward. i had a long term FWB for 4+ years. i broke it off when i finally decided feeling like a used whore wasn't worth 20 minutes of fun. def. not worth it. guess i'm not cut out for it.

That is something we can agree on.
A FWB is only fun when it is a two way street. Just being a piece of meat to be slid between someone's legs can be fun. But not exactly a foundation to be built on.

Haa haa honesty between infedelectable partners. Great sex. Lousy morning's after. If you can work it out though...mebbe something you can stretch for years?

 

[njlauren]

The problem is you never know why the other person is cheating, are they an abandoned spouse, or are they someone who cheats on their spouse because they can and yet have that safe haven to return to? I have know people who cheated who I couldn't blame, they lived in loveless, sexless marriages where they felt, for the sake of the children usually, that they couldn't get a divorce, in some cases they had wonderful spouses who were sexually dead, and I could almost see those, it does happen. But most of the cases of cheating I have seen are people who are into the thrill of it, into the excitement of 'getting the nasty' and so forth, where they have loving spouses whom I could say they actually loved, but still did this, and that is what concerns me.

Sure, the urges are there, I can understand that, but that is where they tell that being a man (if you are one) the big head does the thinking over the little one (sorry, never heard anything like that for women). There are men and women who get off on seducing married people, and somethings I think they are the worst of the lot, because I think they do so because they are jealous that someone has something and want to ruin it, those are the low of the low. There are men that have done that many times, and some of them are so low they get the wife to leave, then as soon as they have done that, drop them like 3 day old fish, it is sad.

Personally I don't think I could ever sleep with a married person unless I knew for certain that the person's marriage was over, where they were just waiting for the divorce or something (or unless as it mostly unlikely they had some sort of open relationship). I would feel too badly for the spouse, and yes, I do believe in Karma and I think if you do something like that it comes around, a lot of the people I have known who have cheated or cheated with someone who was married had pretty fouled up lives, many of them couldn't have a decent relationship to save their soul. One guy I know had 'done' more then a few married women in his day, and he eventually got married to a woman he loved a lot....and she broke his heart, was screwing her boss at work and ended up leaving him for her, and screwed him royally in the divorce I might add, thanks to not so wonderful divorce laws.

 

[imready2]

The problem is you never know why the other person is cheating, are they an abandoned spouse, or are they someone who cheats on their spouse because they can and yet have that safe haven to return to? I have know people who cheated who I couldn't blame, they lived in loveless, sexless marriages where they felt, for the sake of the children usually, that they couldn't get a divorce, in some cases they had wonderful spouses who were sexually dead, and I could almost see those, it does happen. But most of the cases of cheating I have seen are people who are into the thrill of it, into the excitement of 'getting the nasty' and so forth, where they have loving spouses whom I could say they actually loved, but still did this, and that is what concerns me.

Sure, the urges are there, I can understand that, but that is where they tell that being a man (if you are one) the big head does the thinking over the little one (sorry, never heard anything like that for women). There are men and women who get off on seducing married people, and somethings I think they are the worst of the lot, because I think they do so because they are jealous that someone has something and want to ruin it, those are the low of the low. There are men that have done that many times, and some of them are so low they get the wife to leave, then as soon as they have done that, drop them like 3 day old fish, it is sad.

Personally I don't think I could ever sleep with a married person unless I knew for certain that the person's marriage was over, where they were just waiting for the divorce or something (or unless as it mostly unlikely they had some sort of open relationship). I would feel too badly for the spouse, and yes, I do believe in Karma and I think if you do something like that it comes around, a lot of the people I have known who have cheated or cheated with someone who was married had pretty fouled up lives, many of them couldn't have a decent relationship to save their soul. One guy I know had 'done' more then a few married women in his day, and he eventually got married to a woman he loved a lot....and she broke his heart, was screwing her boss at work and ended up leaving him for her, and screwed him royally in the divorce I might add, thanks to not so wonderful divorce laws.

Lengthy, but interesting view points and concerns.
I believe people know who they are getting involved with including the person that you expect is just looking at the married person as a trophy of some sort. I actually had a married woman say something similiar to me, not sure if it was a come on, but she was married so not sure if this would apply to njlauren's second paragraph. She said if a woman cannot please her man enough to hang onto to him, then too bad for her." Valid point or not?

Ah yes divorce, the children are probably the glue to keeping it together then there are the $$$$'s. a financial de idiom to keep the status quo but still if an opportunity comes up....make a decision at that time!

 

[photobuff56]

[QUOTE AprilMorning
Being married myself, if I were looking for sex I would pick someone married.... safer that way



No argument from me on that one. Someone once said, "I have a commitment, I am just looking for a good time!"

I wonder what Dr Phil would say.

 

[C2W]

hey...

I don't think that "would we" fuck a married person is the right question...
but rather how quickly would we jump at the chance.
For the me the answer would be I'd create a new Universal speed limit.

 

[Artina Heartflash]

Being married myself, if I were looking for sex I would pick someone married.... safer that way

ERm... " safe" in what respect? Married folk can do unsafe, stupid things just like most any human...

 

[Scrubber]

ERm... " safe" in what respect? Married folk can do unsafe, stupid things just like most any human...

Of course. However if both parties are fairly equally matched in how much they have to lose if discovered it's less likely that either will do something rash.

 

[Artina Heartflash]

Of course. However if both parties are fairly equally matched in how much they have to lose if discovered it's less likely that either will do something rash.

Of all the many married men I have known who have had affairs, most CLAIM to want the safety of only one "other woman". But too many can't be trusted to commit to that safety rule. If they cheat on the spouse, it is likely they will cheat on the mistress as well. I have seen it happen far too often.

Then there are cases of wives who find out and go after the mistress...and cases of men who actually decide they want the other woman and park themselves on her lawn, thinking she will just simply up and run away with them.

Nope; When having an affair, "married"status doesn't mean "safety zone".

 

[Litfanman_inGB]

Years ago, when I was young, numb and full of cum, I would have. Fast-forward to today and my answer is no. Having been on both sides of infidelity, I know what it can do to people. The gut-wrenching guilt associated with it aren't worth it to me. I've also learned, the hard way, that getting into a relationship with "the other woman" afterward is a really bad idea. I've been paying for it with my conscience and a bit of my soul for about fifteen years now.

 

[TonyClifton]

My daughter is married.

She and her husband have unique relationship.

Her husband stays at home with their two children and runs their escort service.

She goes out every night and brings home ten times the money her husband used to when he was working full time the the General Motors factory.

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I rent her for an hour every Tuesday night and it costs me $200

One evening after we had sex, she told me that all the money I give her with be used to send her kids to college.

I was impressed with her financial management skills and decided to double the money by renting her twice a week.

 

[curious61990]

I have...

more than once..but to be honest, I now regret and probably wouldn't do it again.

 

[njlauren]

Lengthy, but interesting view points and concerns.
I believe people know who they are getting involved with including the person that you expect is just looking at the married person as a trophy of some sort. I actually had a married woman say something similiar to me, not sure if it was a come on, but she was married so not sure if this would apply to njlauren's second paragraph. She said if a woman cannot please her man enough to hang onto to him, then too bad for her." Valid point or not?

Ah yes divorce, the children are probably the glue to keeping it together then there are the $$$$'s. a financial de idiom to keep the status quo but still if an opportunity comes up....make a decision at that time!

The woman's statement is bogus IMO. Saying that "if she treated her husband right, he wouldn't leave' is the ultimate rationalization of 'the other person'. The other woman only has the husband for sex I am assuming, she gets to have him where it is all sex and fantasy.

The wife, meanwhile, probably is the one who has to worry when the kid is sick, when unexpected bills hit the family, is probably keeping the house clean, cooking dinner and all the other things women do, plus working. The other woman for all we know doesn't have kids, or in her family she has a husband who pampers her and she doesn't have to do much, who knows? More importantly, she has no obligation to the guy she is having sex with, there is no commitment there it is just raunchy sex more then likely.

It also leaves out that men often cheat simply to have 'strange',someone different, and someone they don't have the emotional entanglements with. The wife who is cheated on could show up at the door in a leather basque and stockings and be the husbands sex slave and he would likely cheat still, because she is his wife, while the other woman is a 'conquest', old story about disdaining what you get for free......

More importantly, let's say said woman breaks up the other marriage, divorces her husband and married the guy she was having a fling with, odds are statistically through the roof he will prob dump her for another woman or she will start cheating on him, which means what did she really win?

The idea of competition is sickening, it is a fantasy competing with reality and reality generally loses, because fantasies are so sweet and have no burdens with them, unlike real life. It is like running Husain Bolt against a runner with a pulled hamstring, there is no competition. The other woman might think it is because she is such a goddess, when in reality it is simply because she isn't his wife, the person who tells him the roof needs fixing, the kid needs new sneakers, the dog chewed up the carpet and the leaves need raking, and who is often grateful at night to slide in next to a warm body and have some time without a kid whining he/she needs something

 

[screamer4u]

Yes and I have. We were both lacking something in our marriages and found the missing excitement and passion with each other. We knew going into this that it was for sex and nothing more....We both were and are still in our marriages due to keeping our children with both parents...when the passion and intimacy is gone, you have to find a way to feel wanted

 

[TheCatDidIt]

I did when I was about 19. He was in his upper 20's and black. Biggest dick I ever seen. We used to fuck everywhere. Once in a church office

 

[Mirisa]

I would if his wife knew about it. When I date it is to make connections and have fun, not to stroke his ego and comfort him when he feels guilty for cheating on his wife.

But also I've found that some single guys don't want to date me because I am married, even though I have permission and my husband does know. I'm not sure if it is because they don't believe me or because they don't want to share.

 

[principessa11]

No. My husband cheated on me, which is why he's now my ex, and I have no desire to do that to another woman, not when I know how awful it is to have your entire life fall apart like that.