Would you sleep with a married person?

[LusciousLily]

I would not sleep with a married person. I have a low opinion of cheaters and even with his wife's okay, I would feel like I was somewhere I shouldn't be. When a guy hits on me and then I find out that he actually has a girlfriend (or wife), I'm super turned off.

 

[Beck31]

Thank you for the responce. I respect your opinions.

 

[imready2]

I would not sleep with a married person. I have a low opinion of cheaters and even with his wife's okay, I would feel like I was somewhere I shouldn't be. When a guy hits on me and then I find out that he actually has a girlfriend (or wife), I'm super turned off.

So young, sweet, innocent...

 

[munch2much]

I have. LIfe is complicated, seldom black and white.

 

[lovecraft68]

Back when I was young sure, no matter what the circumstances.

Now it would depend. If it was an open relationship, I guess I would.

If the other party had no idea, then no.

I don't need to get laid so bad that I will contribute to someone's eventual broken heart.

 

[Beck31]

Hmm. I didn't think my thread would get this many hits. Perhaps I should also add that there have been married women I wanted to sleep with and have in the past. However each time I found myself wanting more than just a night of unadulterated passion. The really rotten part is when you fall for someone knowing she can't entirely be yours. I think it is a case of your heart following your lust.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Hmm. I didn't think my thread would get this many hits. Perhaps I should also add that there have been married women I wanted to sleep with and have in the past. However each time I found myself wanting more than just a night of unadulterated passion. The really rotten part is when you fall for someone knowing she can't entirely be yours. I think it is a case of your heart following your lust.

Why do you want any woman "entirely be yours"??? Why do we link control over another's sexuality and love? why shouldn't we love one and have sex with many? or, love many and have sex with one? or hate everyone and just fuck them all?

When did sex and emotion become so intricately linked? Food and emotion aren't - I can go "do coffee" with a married woman and no one thinks twice about it, why not also have sex with her?

The moralizers would have us think that it is the possibility of being caught - and the emotional damage it does to the other person - makes "cheating" so despicable. But why is that other person so possessive to begin with? so insecure? why do they have such warped ideas about sex that somehow they and only they have the right to another's body???

 

[shadowtracey]

My first none lurking post!

I'm not married but I am engaged and am due to be married next year, but I have already cheated with several guys who I have known through work or social life

I love my fiancee dearly, he is the best, but I do love sex and I especially love the excitement of cheating for some weird reason, and it gives me the best orgasms. I do still have one long term "fuck buddy" who also gets off on knowing my situation and takes advantage of it, so we both get off doing it

 

[Beck31]

Welcome shadowtracey. Ty for your responce.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

My first none lurking post!

I'm not married but I am engaged and am due to be married next year, but I have already cheated with several guys who I have known through work or social life

I love my fiancee dearly, he is the best, but I do love sex and I especially love the excitement of cheating for some weird reason, and it gives me the best orgasms. I do still have one long term "fuck buddy" who also gets off on knowing my situation and takes advantage of it, so we both get off doing it

Ah, a woman after my own heart!

Welcome to the boards and making your first posting a doozie! Love the honesty...

 

[outsider24]

I have not cheated in my marriage, but can't honeslty say that I wouldn't if the opportunity presented itself. For me it is an erotic turn on of the passionate sex without getting caught. Kind of like when in college or late teens and being daring but hoping not to be found out...

 

[LadyVer]

No, not saying I would never do it but this is an area where I saw first hand the damage done in my family. The wife and the kids were devasted. The husband left for the other woman. He lived to regret it but there wasn't much that could be done. The die was cast, the game was played.

 

[Beck31]

Yeah. That is a problem. Someone usually gets hurt. It is unfortunate. But yet it still happens.

 

[shewantsmore]

but not all married women who cheat do it out of deprivation or unfulfillment... Some just enjoy sex, some do it with their husband's ok, some with them even watching.

well said

 

[Lost_Yonder]

well said

Not as clearly articulated as your a/v! as they say, a picture is worth a thousand words!

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

I have, numerous times, and while I'm married myself and I haven't I done it in a long, long time, I'd have to say that I would if the right situation presented itself.

 

[NiceRPGuy]

Yes I have, and yes I would again.

I think it's important to look at one's motivation for sleeping with a married person.

With one exception, my motivations were simple: sex. The odd ball was conquest ... well, and sex, too, but mostly the conquest...


My first such experience was with a woman who had LONG been separated from her husband ... and, coincidentally, had been separated by an ocean from her then-sailor boyfriend for several months, too. I knew about the husband, but not the boyfriend. Didn't care about either, though. It was sex with the kind of woman I lusted for; that's all. And I didn't care that she was married. I would have slept with her even if her husband had been in the next room watching television.

My most recent experience was considerably different. She had been my first touchy-feely girlfriend in high school, oh so many years ago. (We hadn't had sex back then, btw.) We bumped into one another one day and began conversing over the weeks to come, but it wasn't until the night we decided to fuck that she told me she was still married. (She had masked the fact by continually referring to her FIRST husband as her Ex, so when she would make slips and talk about husband number TWO, I didn't know she was talking about a different guy.)

I had too much time and lust invested by that point to say, "Sorry, you're married." We fucked, I liked it, we did it a couple of more times over the next two weeks, and then -- when I realized I wasn't sleeping at night because I never knew if her husband was going to find out and go on a rampage -- I broke it off.

Did I ever pursue a woman I knew was married...? Yes. Why? Oh, god, you should have SEEN this girl. 19, cute, sexy, flirtatious. I even worked at the same company as her husband. I just wanted to fuck her once, to say I'd done it. Conquest! She wouldn't have continued fucking me; she liked her husband and was just trying to walk the wild side like her best friend -- a married slut -- did all the time. Alas, I never parted her thighs.

And again, years later, I had an affair with a woman who traveled to my city about twice a month; in the beginning it was for business, but later it was just to see me. But, she was afraid of screwing up her marriage, so it ended. She liked me because I was more adventurous in bed -- on the table, in the yard, on the floor -- than her husband, and I liked her because ... well, because she was beautiful and sexy and would let me fuck her. I'm a simple man.

 

[Somehowyou]

I respect women that are willing to and occasionally have extramarital affairs. I have the utmost respect for them and I want to fill them with my seed until it comes out their ears. Ahhh the moral outrage for the cheaters I read on this forum. They have their reasons and it is not really my damn business. It is not really a big deal in the long run.

Yes, I have done a few married women. One was really nice. I ended up having an affair with her for 6-12 months. It was really great sex and it was exciting. She was not in love with her husband to whom she referred to as the asshole. It seems like she wanted to get caught. We even talked about it and it was 'Well if they catch us...oh well..." I had kids and I had more to lose. I just wanted her company. She finally got divorced. She called me to sleep with her a few years later after she got a boob job. It was just too complicated so I made excuses not to meet the twins as she called them. I still run onto her every once in awhile. she still looks great

 

[Bramblethorn]

The moralizers would have us think that it is the possibility of being caught - and the emotional damage it does to the other person - makes "cheating" so despicable.

Speaking as one of those "moralizers", the getting-caught bit is only part of it. I wouldn't condone cheating even if there was no chance the other person would ever find out.

I have friends who are vegetarian. It's not my philosophy, but I would never ever feed them meat even if there was no chance they'd ever know, because I respect them enough to allow them their beliefs even when it inconveniences me. Same with relationships.

But why is that other person so possessive to begin with? so insecure? why do they have such warped ideas about sex that somehow they and only they have the right to another's body???

This is a great discussion to have with somebody before you marry them. If you find yourself unable to respect their views on something like this, don't marry them in the first place.

I've slept with people whose partners had agreed to an open situation, I've slept with one person who was still technically married but going through the process of divorce, and I don't have any regrets about that.

When I was young and stupid, I slept with a woman who was cheating on her partner. At the time I rationalised it because her partner was a jerk, but in hindsight it was the wrong thing to do. And not just because I learned the hard way that somebody who'll lie to their partner just might be willing to lie to you too.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Oh, lying! Oh my, what is the world come to??? The fires of hell are bursting forth to burn all us liers and cheaters...

We are human beings - except it. Aspire to something that fulfills our humanity, not something that entraps us into some unnatural moralistic panopticon, where we spend more time policing and judging others rather than just living life!

 

[goesallnight]

but not all married women who cheat do it out of deprivation or unfulfillment... Some just enjoy sex, some do it with their husband's ok, some with them even watching.

My wife has an open invitation to do this, so far she is not interested.

 

[gregy70]

I have!
Years later one of my mates told me the lady & her hubby were swingers.
Wish I knew that then!
My biggest fantasy is to be in a MFM threesome where all the attention is on the woman

 

[Bramblethorn]

Oh, lying! Oh my, what is the world come to??? The fires of hell are bursting forth to burn all us liers and cheaters...

We are human beings - except it. Aspire to something that fulfills our humanity, not something that entraps us into some unnatural moralistic panopticon, where we spend more time policing and judging others rather than just living life!

Thanks, but I find relating to my partners with honesty and respect works pretty well for "fulfilling my humanity". It's not about "policing and judging others", just about treating them like I'd want to be treated.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Thanks, but I find relating to my partners with honesty and respect works pretty well for "fulfilling my humanity". It's not about "policing and judging others", just about treating them like I'd want to be treated.

no, you will never really get it... but that is ok, to each their own, if only it was in fact that simple...

 

[bidaddy]

i did for 16 years then she devorced me