Would Cheat On Your Spouse?

[MissMaidenMinx]

As much as I used to not be able to admit it to myself, I am one of those serial cheaters. I cheated on 2 of my exes (and completely got a way with it, I cheated on my last ex 3 times). Before we got married, I cheated on my husband twice, and recently admitted it to him. Some people think I am stupid for telling him, but considering we were re-defining the relationship, I felt that I had to get it off my chest. It's a hell of a burden.

I think some people cheat because they can't admit to themselves that they might not be like the rest of society. When I discovered the term poly-amorous recently I felt like I had come home. Strangely I have always been a stupidly jealous and suspicious person, and now that hubby and I have discussed things honestly, all that jealousy has dissolved. I know that no matter where else hubby and I play, we will always come home to each other. We love each other and our son and our life together too much to not.

 

[darkknight01]

As much as I used to not be able to admit it to myself, I am one of those serial cheaters. I cheated on 2 of my exes (and completely got a way with it, I cheated on my last ex 3 times). Before we got married, I cheated on my husband twice, and recently admitted it to him. Some people think I am stupid for telling him, but considering we were re-defining the relationship, I felt that I had to get it off my chest. It's a hell of a burden.

I think some people cheat because they can't admit to themselves that they might not be like the rest of society. When I discovered the term poly-amorous recently I felt like I had come home. Strangely I have always been a stupidly jealous and suspicious person, and now that hubby and I have discussed things honestly, all that jealousy has dissolved. I know that no matter where else hubby and I play, we will always come home to each other. We love each other and our son and our life together too much to not.

So now that your husband knows you will see other people do you still call it cheating?

Would you sleep with someone that is married and their spouse didn't know?

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

So now that your husband knows you will see other people do you still call it cheating?

Would you sleep with someone that is married and their spouse didn't know?

Cheating is in the intention, not the act. Cheating is still a no-no in our relationship and our rule is if you can't tell the other person about it it's cheating.

I could never be the other woman. If someone wanted to cheat on their spouse with me, I wouldn't judge them, but I wouldn't do it either.

 

[darkknight01]

Cheating is in the intention, not the act. Cheating is still a no-no in our relationship and our rule is if you can't tell the other person about it it's cheating.

I could never be the other woman. If someone wanted to cheat on their spouse with me, I wouldn't judge them, but I wouldn't do it either.

Sounds like you two have it all down.

 

[theinternetisforporn]

No I'm not looking for permission from others at all. I know what I would do and I don't need anyone's permission at all and I'm not trying to justify it ether. I'm just asking the question to see how others feel and what would they do.

btw are you married? Yes every relationship should be built on honesty, but people are not always honest. Cheating is not the only thing people are dishonest about in relationships. Should someone break-up with their spouse if they are not honest about how they spend money?

No, I'm not married. I don't know that marriage is what I want. I'd probably be more comfortable with a civil union if I found someone I wanted to commit to in that way. I was engaged for over 3 years, and we considered ourselves 'married' in every sense of the word except legally. When we realised we wanted different things, we talked about it and went our separate ways.

Dishonesty in any form, in my opinion, is as bad as cheating. So yes, if my partner was dishonest about how he spent our money, it would be grounds for re-evaluation of our relationship. Likewise if I felt the need to be dishonest about how I spent our money.

By the way, I didn't answer the poll because there was no option that applied to me. My answer would be "No, because I believe it's wrong." Of course, then people will say I'm 'judging,' so perhaps "No, because there's no point" is more appropriate. It would be like trying to dig up if you were stuck in an open hole. You're trying to solve a problem in a way that is completely irrelevant to the problem. If you want to cheat, you shouldn't be in the relationship. If you care about your partner at all, you shouldn't want to potentially hurt them (and the hurt is immense). If you don't care about your partner, leave.

 

[darkknight01]

No, I'm not married. I don't know that marriage is what I want. I'd probably be more comfortable with a civil union if I found someone I wanted to commit to in that way. I was engaged for over 3 years, and we considered ourselves 'married' in every sense of the word except legally. When we realised we wanted different things, we talked about it and went our separate ways.

Dishonesty in any form, in my opinion, is as bad as cheating. So yes, if my partner was dishonest about how he spent our money, it would be grounds for re-evaluation of our relationship. Likewise if I felt the need to be dishonest about how I spent our money.

By the way, I didn't answer the poll because there was no option that applied to me. My answer would be "No, because I believe it's wrong." Of course, then people will say I'm 'judging,' so perhaps "No, because there's no point" is more appropriate. It would be like trying to dig up if you were stuck in an open hole. You're trying to solve a problem in a way that is completely irrelevant to the problem. If you want to cheat, you shouldn't be in the relationship. If you care about your partner at all, you shouldn't want to potentially hurt them (and the hurt is immense). If you don't care about your partner, leave.

It's an easy choice when you can just go your separate ways without going through a divorce or having kids involved. So if someone has kids do you just up and leave, just because your spouse was not fully upfront with you at the beginning of the relationship? Or do you just deal with it the best way you can until your kids are grown?

 

[IcariusInHiding]

It's an easy choice when you can just go your separate ways without going through a divorce or having kids involved. So if someone has kids do you just up and leave, just because your spouse was not fully upfront with you at the beginning of the relationship? Or do you just deal with it the best way you can until your kids are grown?

I grew up with parents who slowly grew to hate each other more as time went on, and it really didn't do me any favours. They finally split up when I was about 15 and it was very messy. Without going into too much detail, it wasn't very nice and I've still got a few issues. Obviously every case is different, and there's no absolute rule anyone can follow, but early divorce can sometimes be the best option. A single-parent family or a remarried parent seems to me a better idea than a household brimming with resentment. /mytwocents

 

[Nina32]

I have an will agajn

Lets add reason illness, sickness, brain injury, accident etc.. never to be the same I was 31 at the time no I didnt cheat for several yrs til someone I met online was going thru something similar.
I obviously left out lots of details to make it a very short version

 

[darkknight01]

I grew up with parents who slowly grew to hate each other more as time went on, and it really didn't do me any favours. They finally split up when I was about 15 and it was very messy. Without going into too much detail, it wasn't very nice and I've still got a few issues. Obviously every case is different, and there's no absolute rule anyone can follow, but early divorce can sometimes be the best option. A single-parent family or a remarried parent seems to me a better idea than a household brimming with resentment. /mytwocents

We love to have your two cents.

Yes, I can see getting a divorce when the two people hate each other. What happens when one person is dissatisfied and the best option for the family is to say.

 

[darkknight01]

Lets add reason illness, sickness, brain injury, accident etc.. never to be the same I was 31 at the time no I didnt cheat for several yrs til someone I met online was going thru something similar.
I obviously left out lots of details to make it a very short version

Do you have no regrets? What about the comment you made when you married?

 

[darkknight01]

Giving this a bump

 

[perkin]

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[fatlab]

It's not our proudest moments in life

Having an affair now with an amazing women
I think part of it is the sexual high from the danger and that it is so wrong
And maybe we do make excuses to validate our doings with reasons
We can accept
But what I have with this amazing girl is past just the sexual attraction and amazing compatability in bed. We have healed parts of our hearts and that I can never be embarrassed about

 

[darkknight01]

I never thought I would. But I have. I am having an adulterous affair. I'm not particularly proud but there it is...

What prompted your affair?

 

[alleycat93]

Is CyberSex Cheating?

I love my wife. We have a wonderful marriage. And I would hate to hurt her. But our sex is less that I desire. While she claims to be very satisfied with our sex, she is somewhat passive in bed. Sometimes I wish she would take the initiative, be more assertive, be more naughty. We have talked about this many times over the years. But she is unwilling, possibly even unable to change.

Literotica is a great source for sex and naughtiness inside my head. I love reading the stories and following the threads in the Lit Amateur Pics forum. I have made a few "digital" friends.

Recently I experienced a very hot cam-2-cam, simultaneous masturbation session. What a fantastic experience! We plan to do this again. Both of us are married and we have acknowledged that we love our spouses. We enjoy being digital sex partners, but will never meet face to face. This digital sex fulfills the missing desires in my sex life. Is this "cheating"?

I follow this thread with great interest in how others deal with these situations. I have my own poll - Is CyberSex cheating on a spouse?. I would appreciate everyone's feedback on whether CyberSex is cheating.

 

[orally_talented]

I most definitely would. Simply because I believe monogamy has been a thing society implemented on us long ago. If you study different tribes of long ago. They enjoyed different partners n celebrated it. I'm not here to give a history lesson but we as humans are meant to fuck....sex is exactly that SEX. There's no need to be emotionally involved with people you decide to have sex with.

I'm just saying

 

[Emerson40]

They also ate prisoners captured from other tribes, fucked young boys, forced sex on women, worshipped the sun and moon, and believed the earth was flat long ago.

Just sayin'.

 

[DewMee]

Answered #4, because that is how it was. Sexless except for his morning unload. Nothing for me. Then my neighbor paid a visit just after my husband left for work....

 

[vibes]

Answered #4, because that is how it was. Sexless except for his morning unload. Nothing for me. Then my neighbor paid a visit just after my husband left for work....

Reading your profile(s) I had the impression you weren't attached ...

 

[darkknight01]

Answered #4, because that is how it was. Sexless except for his morning unload. Nothing for me. Then my neighbor paid a visit just after my husband left for work....

Did your neighbor satisfy your needs that morning?

 

[MhadraRua]

It's not something I would do, because it's a betrayal of trust.

Having said that, my partner and I are starting an open relationship, so it's difficult to imagine being in a sexless relationship. Perhaps I would feel differently if that were the case.

 

[Beck31]

No. I would not cheat on my spouse.

 

[darkknight01]

It's not something I would do, because it's a betrayal of trust.

Having said that, my partner and I are starting an open relationship, so it's difficult to imagine being in a sexless relationship. Perhaps I would feel differently if that were the case.

If you wasn't in an open relationship and your spouse wasn't interested or just wouldn't have sex with you, wouldn't that be a betrayal to you also?

 

[r_mck]

Yeah, have done. As has she. It's all part of the fun.

 

[darkknight01]

Yeah, have done. As has she. It's all part of the fun.

Are you guys in an open marriage? Or do you both do it behind each others' backs?