Would Cheat On Your Spouse?

[darkknight01]

Bump this up

 

[NotSoMuchVanilla]

No. Besides, i don't think it's cheating if everyone is on board with it.

 

[Beck31]

No. I would not cheat on my spouse.

 

[vibes]

I haven't cheated. I have been cheated on. All the more reason I would not cheat ... it is sooooo not worth it

 

[frommyknees]

I've been cheated on and cheated with (ie: I was unknowingly "the other woman") but have never cheated and never will.

 

[theslutbunny]

I've never had a long-term relationship, so it doesn't count as cheating, I don't think. If I ever DID find someone I'd like to settle down with and do the whole family-thing, no, I wouldn't cheat.

 

[darkknight01]

I've been cheated on and cheated with (ie: I was unknowingly "the other woman") but have never cheated and never will.

Is there any reason that you would never cheat?

 

[darkknight01]

I haven't cheated. I have been cheated on. All the more reason I would not cheat ... it is sooooo not worth it

Why is it soooo not worth it?

 

[frommyknees]

Is there any reason that you would never cheat?

It's a huge break of trust. And really, if I were in a relationship and felt the need to cheat, I'd grow a set and break it off with my partner before pursuing an outside relationship.

I've been the woman at home wondering where her man is/was. It's a shitty feeling that no one should have to go through. If you're so unhappy in your relationship, or aren't getting what you need from it, grow a set and talk to your partner about it, or at least be respectful enough to bow out before having an affair. In my opinion, cheating is a cowardly thing to do.

 

[darkknight01]

It's a huge break of trust. And really, if I were in a relationship and felt the need to cheat, I'd grow a set and break it off with my partner before pursuing an outside relationship.

I've been the woman at home wondering where her man is/was. It's a shitty feeling that no one should have to go through. If you're so unhappy in your relationship, or aren't getting what you need from it, grow a set and talk to your partner about it, or at least be respectful enough to bow out before having an affair. In my opinion, cheating is a cowardly thing to do.

I agree with you on your points, and agree that it's a cowardly thing to do with out talking to your spouse or partner. I'm mostly being the devils advocate here, but sometimes it's not as simple as you make it. If it was that simple know one would cheat and they would just break up.

 

[frommyknees]

I agree with you on your points, and agree that it's a cowardly thing to do with out talking to your spouse or partner. I'm mostly being the devils advocate here, but sometimes it's not as simple as you make it. If it was that simple know one would cheat and they would just break up.

Fair enough and to each their own.
For me, cheating isn't an option. I know what it feels like to be cheated on, and because of that do not wish anyone else out there to have to go through it.

 

[vibes]

Why is it soooo not worth it?

Because the fun the cheater may achieve in terms of thrill for the forbidden and a few hours of hot sex (if ever) will never be worth months, even years of sorrow, pain and loss of self-esteem which usually affect both the cheated on and the cheater once the bubble blows ... when the relationship survives; many times it doesn't though because forgiving is often possible but forgetting never is

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Noone really understands what this thing is really about unless they go through it.

Actually the relationship never survives; one may choose to give the cheater a second chance for many different reasons but that will be the start of a new relationship; the old one dies and - believe me - the couple affected goes through feelings very similar to a mourning

 

[CurvyAsian25]

Loyalty is one of my non-negotiables in a relationship. Should my partner violate my trust, then that's the end for us. Even if I did manage to forgive him, I know my heart will never forget. At the end of the day, it's as simple as my partner not being strong enough for himself, and for me, to rise above the temptation. And if I can't count on my significant other to resist something as simple as another woman, how can I count on him to fight for the people he loves, when things get tough?

More importantly, I love and respect myself enough to know when to walk away.

 

[darkknight01]

Because the fun the cheater may achieve in terms of thrill for the forbidden and a few hours of hot sex (if ever) will never be worth months, even years of sorrow, pain and loss of self-esteem which usually affect both the cheated on and the cheater once the bubble blows ... when the relationship survives; many times it doesn't though because forgiving is often possible but forgetting never is

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Noone really understands what this thing is really about unless they go through it.

Actually the relationship never survives; one may choose to give the cheater a second chance for many different reasons but that will be the start of a new relationship; the old one dies and - believe me - the couple affected goes through feelings very similar to a mourning

From the way you stated this it sounds like cheating on someone is the worst thing in the world someone could do.

 

[darkknight01]

Loyalty is one of my non-negotiables in a relationship. Should my partner violate my trust, then that's the end for us. Even if I did manage to forgive him, I know my heart will never forget. At the end of the day, it's as simple as my partner not being strong enough for himself, and for me, to rise above the temptation. And if I can't count on my significant other to resist something as simple as another woman, how can I count on him to fight for the people he loves, when things get tough?

More importantly, I love and respect myself enough to know when to walk away.

The question is not about your partner it's about you. Would you ever cross that line.

 

[Noor]

where is "No, because I keep my agreements?"

 

[darkknight01]

where is "No, because I keep my agreements?"

So you wouldn't cheat just because you keep your agreements? Not because you love your spouse? That sounds like a happy relationship.

 

[Noor]

From the way you stated this it sounds like cheating on someone is the worst thing in the world someone could do.

Betrayal is up there at the top along with just walking away without a word.

 

[Noor]

So you wouldn't cheat just because you keep your agreements? Not because you love your spouse? That sounds like a happy relationship.

Yes, exactly, I wouldn't cheat, I keep my word.
If I needed to change the agreement with my spouse I would do that first.
If my relationship is not happy then it is my responsibility to either find a way to make it happy, accept it as is, or leave it but none of that includes cheating.

Integrity is very important for me to live with myself.

 

[vibes]

From the way you stated this it sounds like cheating on someone is the worst thing in the world someone could do.

Maybe you need to get the feeling ...

 

[CurvyAsian25]

The question is not about your partner it's about you. Would you ever cross that line.

I think it goes without saying that NO. I wouldn't cross that line. I would be such a hypocrite if I didn't expect that same kind of treatment from myself.

 

[StaciRay79]

Don't need to; don't want to!

 

[darkknight01]

Don't need to; don't want to!

Congrats to you.

 

[darkknight01]

Maybe you need to get the feeling ...

Maybe, but I don't dwell on things, I move on and enjoy life. If someone betrays me, that's on them not me.