Would anyone consider this unusual?

[oxphocker]

Ok.. so I was writing in another topic and I thought how unusual it was that the things I find the most arousing are mostly based around seeing pleasure in another. Like, when I watch porn or something...it's always the girl coming that I find as the best part and when I am with women it makes me incredibly happy to see how much of an affect I can have on someone. Almost to the point I don't care about getting off myself, as much seeing someone else...

Anyone else find this unusual, similar, or have stories on that?

 

[mspleasure]

Oooh! Where do you live?!?! Just kidding. I find it honorable for you to consider someone else's pleasures over your own. Well if you consider how oral sex is set up the other party usually enjoys the reaction of their partner. For example it's my lover's response to my "skills" that makes me put my all when giving head. Just think if you didn't hear any noises are saw any movement and they just said "I came" would you really want to keep doing it? Not me!! I like to know that what I'm doing is an actual art & that I'm one of the very few that perform like this!! I also enjoy watching others!

 

[karndav]

I think that is a terrific way to be. There are nights when I concentrate soley on my husbands pleasure and nights he conentrates soley on mine. I love it that I can pleasure my husband and enjoy watching him get off. It turns me on!

 

[AppleBiter]

Anyone else find this unusual, similar, or have stories on that?

Unusual? No.

Similar? Yep.

Stories? Maybe someday when I have more time.

 

[INeedLove]

Not unusual

I have talked to several different guys who have a similar desire-to get their partner to orgasm first. In fact, one guy said he can't let himself cum until the lady does. Like someone else said-it's nice when both parties have the other person's pleasure as their goal. I wouldn't recommend you change a thing-lucky future gf or wife!!

 

[HollyHawkk]

I like it when we can build on each others excitement. A loving caring partner is alway the best.

 

[His_pita]

I wouldn't even want a man that didn't think my pleasure was as important as his own. That is what makes me want to do my best and give him my best skills.

 

[Qina]

The biggest turn on for me is knowing that my partner is turned on.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Been that way my whole sexual life and have had far too many women on the receiving end of it. Monogomy would be so much more fun if it didn't exist.

 

[crosscultures]

seeing others pleased

Yeah I love watching orgasms. I think it's really cool that you think that way. I was watching something last night where the women were masterbating to orgasm and it made me really hot (I am a heterosexual woman). I think men's orgasms are much less interesting than women's. You sound like a lot of fun!

 

[Cathleen]

I think it is very usual. I certainly want my partner to have all the pleasure he can. My pleasure is also his and vice versa.

 

[HornyHenry]

I feel much the same

Ok.. so I was writing in another topic and I thought how unusual it was that the things I find the most arousing are mostly based around seeing pleasure in another. Like, when I watch porn or something...it's always the girl coming that I find as the best part and when I am with women it makes me incredibly happy to see how much of an affect I can have on someone. Almost to the point I don't care about getting off myself, as much seeing someone else...

Anyone else find this unusual, similar, or have stories on that?

No, I don't think it's unusual at all. But then some psychologists might anal-ise this desire. And, what do they know?

 

[Hanon435]

yes 4 orgasms

orgasms are very nice to watch nothing like a woman pleasuring herself very beautiful and sexy

 

[oxphocker]

Well.. partially I wonder because most people so far consider it a blessing...but personally, I also feel it is a curse because of those that take advantage of it. I know of at least one person who was completely selfish and to this day I wonder what actually happened, not out of disappointment...more out of curiosity...

 

[A_Kefka]

I find it incredibly hot to see and hear someone else getting off. Don't even have to see what exactly she is doing. One of the hottest things I have seen was a minute or two vid of a friend getting herself off, the vid was just of her face.

 

[luv1]

Same here. I love to watch her cum. The way the blood rushes into her face, those ears glow, the heat, the expression And theres nothing wrong with getting her off and not expecting it to be returned Try this, while out for a night drag her into a hidden place and go down on her and when you have finished her off continue to meet your frinds Now that's saucy fun

Friends: "HI! Had any troubles getting here?"

You: "Not really, but I did have to stop for something to eat!"

 

[Oscar Hargraves]

Nothing wrong that I see

I think that is a terrific way to be. There are nights when I concentrate soley on my husbands pleasure and nights he conentrates soley on mine. I love it that I can pleasure my husband and enjoy watching him get off. It turns me on!

I love to see my Sub really geting excited or having a really gret orgasm. Sometimes I just see how many times I can make her cum and how tired I can get her. It's a real turn-on. You better believe the next time she can't wait to do that for me too. Not always. But this is fun sometimes.

 

[Little Bird]

Ok.. so I was writing in another topic and I thought how unusual it was that the things I find the most arousing are mostly based around seeing pleasure in another. Like, when I watch porn or something...it's always the girl coming that I find as the best part and when I am with women it makes me incredibly happy to see how much of an affect I can have on someone. Almost to the point I don't care about getting off myself, as much seeing someone else...

Anyone else find this unusual, similar, or have stories on that?

Hm, I don't have a large amount of actual experience with it but I think that the most satisfing thing is to give pleasures to others. As said I haven't done much to this day but the one time I grew very close to a girl (better say, we were stongly attracted to each other, in fact it was not close at all) most time we shaered our fantasies most of my thougts were about finding new ways to pleasure her and in fact it was mostly me sharing and her listening. We had planned about sharing some nights together, wich never came to happen, but for the most part i longed for oppurtunities to give her pleasures. Getting some was never really one of the things I thought of much.

No, I don't think this unusual. Probably it's rare among men but if we get pleasure of it, ant they get plesure of it: Who are we to worry!
In my case there is in addition a slight submissive tendency in me. Alow me to to give pleasures and I'm happy.

 

[BigM]

It's funny, but my wife and I can be in the middle of intercourse. Everything is going along nice and comfy and easy. But within moments of me touching her clit, I feel myself heading toward the edge. I think it's the mental thing: thinking she's really enjoying it pushes me into orgasm.

 

[bholderman]

Ok.. so I was writing in another topic and I thought how unusual it was that the things I find the most arousing are mostly based around seeing pleasure in another. Like, when I watch porn or something...it's always the girl coming that I find as the best part and when I am with women it makes me incredibly happy to see how much of an affect I can have on someone. Almost to the point I don't care about getting off myself, as much seeing someone else...

Anyone else find this unusual, similar, or have stories on that?

I've been in this "mode" often. Getting my wife off even when I'm tired. Its great seeing her feel good. Also, she's normally suprised that Im not expecting "my turn."

Cheers,
Brad