Worshipped v. Used

[bluntforcemama]

Can you worship the one you use, and use the one you worship? After a particular trying session with my mate where I have been used, plundered, tested, and fucked senseless, I want to be kissed, carressed, and cherished.

 

[tythisredheadup]

I believe that is when it is the most beautiful.

 

[fallon2]

The answer

is yes, but rather than use the word worship, I would substitute the word appreciated.

I have never, ever, walked away from a sub without showing her some aspect of appreciation . . . whether it is words, gestures or physical appreciation.

Kissing and caressing is very much included.

 

[InnerDarkness]

would substitute the word appreciated

I like that.
I am a huge needer of aftercare. I don't have to be worshipped after I have been used, but I definately am more needy and need to be loved and cared for at that time...to feel it, to experience, to know it....

 

[Betticus]

You can call it appreciated, I would call it worshipped. In a way it is a kind of worship, not like religious but it goes way beyond appreciated. What I feel for her anyhow. The more of myself I share with her the more intense everything is, it goes both ways. I know her in a way that most other people can only wish for and with the extreme trust that this kind of relationship takes it just goes way past simple appreciation.

Think of it this way. Those crazy christians in the Philippines flog themselves and nail themselves to crosses for worship, to show devotion. If you are hurting, using and forcing someone for love it is worship. You don't hurt things that you appreciate, you attempt to preserve them.

 

[InnerDarkness]

You don't hurt things that you appreciate, you attempt to preserve them.

But what if they WANT to be hurt?

 

[Betticus]

But what if they WANT to be hurt?

If I were to hurt you for pleasure, for either of our pleasure or both. It would mean that I feel a lot more for you than just mere appreciation.

You only hurt the ones you love right?

 

[fallon2]

I have found

that after the "play" or discipline the tenderness is shown as appreciation for what was given by one for the needs of the other.

The sub desires approval from the Master and by him showing appreciation she knows that she had pleased him and ultimately herself.

 

[MissTaken]

I am worshipped.
he is cherished.

And I use him regularly. I do expect that I am used at times, although he knows better than to let on!



he has needs, ya know!

 

[bluntforcemama]

I am worshipped.
he is cherished.

And I use him regularly. I do expect that I am used at times, although he knows better than to let on!



he has needs, ya know!

You're a thoughtful and loving Mistress. We should all be so lucky.

 

[MissTaken]

You're a thoughtful and loving Mistress. We should all be so lucky.

Thank you, Myst.

Not only is your post very sweet, I am touched as I know you to be a sincere and honest person.



Now, he may not have felt terribly I was terribly loving while I was playing with him this weekend. However, afterwards, I love taking him to a place where he becomes aware only of his most basic needs and coaxing him back to reality with touches, kisses and endearments.

yes, men need aftercare, too!

 

[esclave_PP]

Yes! I agree with you all here. I adore and worship MAster, and he adores and appreciates me. After 7 years, it is all about trust, aftercare and that power exchange combined with our love for one another and the bliss in finding one another.