Women's Orgasms

[Cattypuss]

I have read this thread with interest and with increasing frustration. You post again and again, whining about your lot in life, presumably looking for responses, and then you dismiss everything everyone says.

I too suffer from depression (unipolar - I envy the bipolar people ). I too am on two kinds of drugs. Both of these cause anorgasmia and it's very difficult for me to orgasm because of that. And when I do orgasm, it tends to be a weak one.

Combine my depression and all it means (low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness, lack of energy etc etc) with pills that stop orgasm and the fact that I've gained a lot of weight (like 40 pounds) during my most recent bout of depression and feel very unattractive as a woman because of it and...

...well, it would be very easy for me to whine on about it, wouldn't it?

But I'm old enough, at 10 years younger than you, to know that whining and self-pity do nothing but make things worse.

I'm old enough to know that if you have someone you love, who also loves you, you are truly blessed (I don't have this; you do. I've had it in the past and I know how wonderful it is - if you don't take it for granted).

I'm old enough to know that life isn't a rehearsal, and every day spent in complaining and focussing on the negative is a day you'll never get back to spend more positively. Do you really want to look back when you're 85 and think "God, all those years I spent making myself unhappy about dick-size when I could have been enjoying the important things in life... and now my life is over"?

MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT YOU HAVE, MAN!!!!!!!!

You have a woman who loves you, who desires you and who gets off with you in bed. You likely have a hundred other good things going on in your life if you stop and think about it. And yet you persist in obsessing about this one thing, which your wife doesn't even care about.

You know what makes you unmanly? It's not your dick-size; it's your relentless "victim mentality".

 

[PoeticMusings53]

Well I had a good day yesterday. I did 100mg of The Blue pill and I swear I just about it the 4.5" mark.Then someone,I'm not sure if it was in this forum but,coached me on "it's the motion of the ocean." So I did some motion.I penetrated in as far as I could go and the next time I might have penetrated shallow.I did it fast then I did it slow.I was doing circles and mixed up fast, slow, shallow, deep.At the same time my wife grabbed her vibrator and stuck that on her clit while I was making the motion.She went nutz and after her orgasm she had a look of bewilderment on her face like she was saying,"What the heck was that." but in a good way while she was catching her breathe.I felt like I was 8" long.And what makes things even better was that it was spontaneous sex.It just happened.We didn't plan on it at all.
Hey what can I say? I'm a 4" stud

Get therapy.

 

[testosterone1]

Okay, now that's what you should have started with. As you can see, we don't have too much patience with whining out here, but we give you more credit when you know you're whining.

I know that whining annoys people.I tend to whine when my mood swings low.I do have a reason to wine.Any one of those conditions I wrote can send a guy to a therapist,especially the ED.The Cleavland Clinic suggests on their ED page that going to a therapist might be a good idea if it causes phychological problems.There was three reasons I started this thread.The first reason was to
learn.Maybe I was missing something big that I don't know about.Another reason I started this thread was to make myself feel more secure by the things
I could learn from women.The third reason was to let out some of the distress I
was feeling at the time.In other words to whine.
If there is a number one fact that I have learned on this thread that women hate it when men whine.This is good to know.Now I won't whine to my wife anymore if I have been doing that and I wasn't aware that I was whining.
But things have definitely improved since I started this thread.
I got a hold of the blue pill and it works great.So,although expensive,I fixed that problem.Another thing I have learned other than the great foreplay that I have learned over the past 6 months is what women mean when they say,"It's not the size but it is the motion of the ocean." The other night after being married for 20 years this Sept, I started making the motions buy mixing up the speed, the depth and the angle of the little penetration that I do.When I started making the circles,my wife immediately grabbed her vibrator and she was responding nicely to the new motions I have just learned.When it was over after her climax she almost had a look on her face of bewilderment..thinking "what was that." Now I am feeling better about my size because I am finding out that I am learning how to use it.I wish I had known that when I was 21..of course now I will be 53 next month.But better late than never..