Women who keep a man in reserve.

[freescorfr]

Are you a woman who has a man friend - not a lover- but a close friend, confidant, who might just come in handy if your SO leaves the scene?

Or do you know of such woman?


Why do I ask? Really just to see if its common - I know one girl who's got several reserves: but many more who don't know where to turn when the momment arrives. Except to me and I'm not so much a player as a referee.

 

[Wiggles]

A Reserve??

Is this like a back up boyfriend? Isn't that a bit insecure?? Is it just for sex? Can't people go a month without sex??

How do the reserves feel about this? Like second choice?

My answer is no, I don't have one. If my boyfriend and I break up, I'm going to be by myself for awhile. Another relationship isn't going to fix whatever happens in this one.

 

[freescorfr]

A Reserve??

Is this like a back up boyfriend? Isn't that a bit insecure?? Is it just for sex? Can't people go a month without sex??

How do the reserves feel about this? Like second choice?

My answer is no, I don't have one. If my boyfriend and I break up, I'm going to be by myself for awhile. Another relationship isn't going to fix whatever happens in this one.

It depends if the reserve is playing in another team or not.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Are you a woman who has a man friend - not a lover- but a close friend, confidant, who might just come in handy if your SO leaves the scene?

Yes, I do have such a friend & he would be the ideal b/f is I actually liked him like that .....

But I just see him as a friend... I would NEVER EVER go with him if the man I am with would leave !

I just don't see him as a "b/f" ... while he likes me more then friends. But he knows where I stand & he knows where we are at ... in our friendship.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I have a male friend who I'm very close to, the type of friend who calls up out of the blue and we talk for hours and hours about nothing. I have keys to his apartment, and sometimes I just go hang out at his place, read his books, cook him dinner and wait til he gets home so we can talk and drink til morning. We've joked about him being my 'reserve'... but that's all it is... joking.

'Keeping someone in reserve' seems rather juvenile to me, the height of insecurity. I think it's a sign that you fear being alone. And if you're not able to be alone and comfortable with yourself, then you'll never be able to be comfortable with someone else.

I know if my current relationship ended, it'd be quite awhile before I was ready for another one. Not because I've been burned or hurt, but because I relish time spent alone.

 

[Oliver Clozoff]

Chris Rock described this situtation as a woman having "a penis in a glass case... in case of emergency, break glass".

And as the great Homer Simpson once said, "It's true, it's true. It's funny 'cuz it's true".

 

[freescorfr]

Aphro and Pagan . I know that there is that sort of special relationship m/f which is really special and has a special intimacy of its own without becoming a physical relationship - it's sexual, but without sex.
I value several relations with women on that level very much.

It's not this reserve business though - maybe it's just very rare for the reasons you all give.

 

[anneski]

Are you a woman who has a man friend - not a lover- but a close friend, confidant, who might just come in handy if your SO leaves the scene?

Or do you know of such woman?


Why do I ask? Really just to see if its common - I know one girl who's got several reserves: but many more who don't know where to turn when the momment arrives. Except to me and I'm not so much a player as a referee.

Yes. But you knew that already

Although, it's not just that he'd come in handy, that sounds too much like he'd just be convenient for me.

We both just wish we'd met before.
Hell, actually we think we have, but not in this life, and that's a whole different story

 

[ksmybuttons]

The Trio of Pinks.

We have a friend in our group who always has a woman he is becoming involved with, one who he is involved with, and one with whom he breaking up. We call them his Trio of Pinks.

People aren't like shoes. You can't objectify a person like that and not expect to end up lonely.