Women in Sexless Marriages

[ParkerSteve66]

I know men oftentimes find themselves in a sexless marriage. I am one of those men. There seem to be quite a few of us.

I am interested in responses from women who find themselves in a sexless marriage because the male no longer has an interest in sex. I'm sure there are many illnesses, diseases or surgeries that can cause performance issues. I'm more interested in those husbands that simply do not want sex anymore.

Wives (GFs) WHY did your mate stop fuckin you? Do you know? Has he had the balls to discuss it with you?

 

[Sarge9mm]

I'm curious to see responses to this thread. I always thought the men seemed to always want. Hear mainly about men wanting. Know I've been on the she don't want anymore

 

[hulmule]

Dont think there are very many women in need... Not like us guys in a sexless marriage

 

[Sarge9mm]

Dont think there are very many women in need... Not like us guys in a sexless marriage

Don't seem to be. Maybe it's just situation or something

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

lol we are out there, was one of the main factors in my decision to file for divorce

 

[Sarge9mm]

I want it all the time. I'd settle for lickkng her pussy instead of penetration. I like it that much.

 

[Mtnmike]

I want it all the time. I'd settle for lickkng her pussy instead of penetration. I like it that much.

Amen Brother

 

[Sarge9mm]

Grt off when someone says her pics turn them on. Really cranks me up that they get off on her

 

[whiskeycowgirl23]

My hubby's drive started declining a number of years ago. Then 16 months ago it went to completely sexless. I even asked him to help me get off after 8 months of taking care of myself and he completely ignored that I asked him.
We did find that one of his hormones is too high. We will see what the doc says in little over a week.
He doesn't even react at all to me running around completely nekkid or to pics I have sent him.
I have a feeling the appt won't change a damn thing.

 

[hulmule]

My hubby's drive started declining a number of years ago. Then 16 months ago it went to completely sexless. I even asked him to help me get off after 8 months of taking care of myself and he completely ignored that I asked him.
We did find that one of his hormones is too high. We will see what the doc says in little over a week.
He doesn't even react at all to me running around completely nekkid or to pics I have sent him.
I have a feeling the appt won't change a damn thing.

Well i hope you find a change in him after appointment. Tried to talk with my wife about kissing vs pecks... She got so defensive and got heated.. So i come on lit and smile at all the ladies when out...

 

[whiskeycowgirl23]

Well i hope you find a change in him after appointment. Tried to talk with my wife about kissing vs pecks... She got so defensive and got heated.. So i come on lit and smile at all the ladies when out...

I get peck kisses and two weeks ago was the first time he cuddled up to me in bed in I couldn't tell you how long. Oh wait. He has been drinking.
He's not home much due to his job. But when he is I hardly get any affection.

 

[Mtnmike]

My hubby's drive started declining a number of years ago. Then 16 months ago it went to completely sexless. I even asked him to help me get off after 8 months of taking care of myself and he completely ignored that I asked him.
We did find that one of his hormones is too high. We will see what the doc says in little over a week.
He doesn't even react at all to me running around completely nekkid or to pics I have sent him.
I have a feeling the appt won't change a damn thing.

I feel so sorry for you, I've been dealing with the same with the wife over 15 year's now and can tell you it doesn't get any easier

 

[whiskeycowgirl23]

I feel so sorry for you, I've been dealing with the same with the wife over 15 year's now and can tell you it doesn't get any easier

You don't need to feel sorry for me. I am a survivor. I can promise you I won't last 15 years. I'm worth more than what I'm getting.

 

[KatieDoes]

Grt off when someone says her pics turn them on. Really cranks me up that they get off on her

She doesn’t have a sex drive, but she’s ok with you showing her pics to strangers to jerk off to?

 

[Sarge9mm]

She doesn’t have a sex drive, but she’s ok with you showing her pics to strangers to jerk off to?

No, was saying that things even not physical can crank you up. I had medical issues found ways around them

 

[quietlylooking]

I’m in a marriage with a lot of love but no sex. But I try to focus on the positives.

 

[Sarge9mm]

I’m in a marriage with a lot of love but no sex. But I try to focus on the positives.

There are toys and desire if the body isn't working. That's what i don't get

 

[Oyster69]

My hubby's drive started declining a number of years ago. Then 16 months ago it went to completely sexless. I even asked him to help me get off after 8 months of taking care of myself and he completely ignored that I asked him.
We did find that one of his hormones is too high. We will see what the doc says in little over a week.
He doesn't even react at all to me running around completely nekkid or to pics I have sent him.
I have a feeling the appt won't change a damn thing.

If you need a hand, finger, tongue, cock or all of the above I’d be happy to oblige.
Your husband and my wife would make a great couple!

 

[Exploring72]

If you need a hand, finger, tongue, cock or all of the above I’d be happy to oblige.
Your husband and my wife would make a great couple!

I’ve been in a sexless marriage for several years-I agree, it doesn’t get any easier and not the best choice but we all have our reasons for not walking away-good luck!

 

[zcraft5]

I know men oftentimes find themselves in a sexless marriage. I am one of those men. There seem to be quite a few of us.

I am interested in responses from women who find themselves in a sexless marriage because the male no longer has an interest in sex. I'm sure there are many illnesses, diseases or surgeries that can cause performance issues. I'm more interested in those husbands that simply do not want sex anymore.

Wives (GFs) WHY did your mate stop fuckin you? Do you know? Has he had the balls to discuss it with you?

yes he stopped because i stopped dressing up like young slut and doing things as he watched me make myself cum its toys or watching me finger myself not into that to day but will take direction from ones on here not from him strange yes or no

 

[Sarge9mm]

yes he stopped because i stopped dressing up like young slut and doing things as he watched me make myself cum its toys or watching me finger myself not into that to day but will take direction from ones on here not from him strange yes or no

Not really strange. It's someone that's showing interest. On here it's all someone can do and they are interested in you and what your doing. He should be using toys on you not watching or saying things. To you he's checked out on caring and being with

 

[zcraft5]

until now i did not think it like that maybe so

 

[zcraft5]

until now i did not think it like that maybe so

haha and no he does not have the balls for us to discuss it

 

[lowcollar]

If I were unable to perform, I would certainly go down on my wife or do anything else to keep her happy. No question. I would use toys or anything else. If I couldn't do that, I would be OK with her seeing someone for sex. If you love someone, you want them to be happy.

 

[LMWM321]

My hubby's drive started declining a number of years ago. Then 16 months ago it went to completely sexless. I even asked him to help me get off after 8 months of taking care of myself and he completely ignored that I asked him.
We did find that one of his hormones is too high. We will see what the doc says in little over a week.
He doesn't even react at all to me running around completely nekkid or to pics I have sent him.
I have a feeling the appt won't change a damn thing.

Heartbreaking....

IMHO, it's not enough to just see a doc, he needs to see the RIGHT doc!

When my wife first mentioned to her OBGYN that she was losing interest in sex and it was starting to become painful, the Doctor - an older woman herself - basically said, "Oh well, that happens to us women as we get older. ..Be glad that you're moving past the "sex" part of your life - it causes a lot of stress." My wife and I were both devastated to find that this doc didn't really think intimacy was worth the trouble of preserving. ..Probably a reflection of her own unhappy life or poor relationship w/ her partner.

But when she told her new Primary Care Physician she said, "I'm sorry to hear this! We can't let that stand - sex is TOO important to just give up on. We have a bunch of things we can try. Let's start w/ Estradiol cream and Buspirone (an anti-anxiety med that seems to help some women w/ libido). ..If this doesn't work we'll consider Hormone Replacement Therapy."

The point is the 2nd doc placed a HIGH VALUE on sex and intimacy and was eager to do whatever it took to help my wife get it back. And you need to make sure your husband is seeing a Doctor who does too. We also started to see a Sex Therapist who, among many other things, suggested we both read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. The Therapy, the book, the Estrodial Cream (she didn't take the Buspirone for long) and gobs of quality lube have helped IMMENSELY. We're back to having sex 2-3 times a week. Orgasms don't always happen (for either of us) but we ALWAYS enjoy ourselves - which is what matters.

Now, if your husband refuses to go to a doc and/or therapist and take their advice... Well, I'd say it's time to tell him, "I love you and plan to keep you at the center of my life, but I will NOT go the rest of my life without sex. ..I'm heartbroken that you don't want this anymore but I need it. ..So I'll find other men to have sex with."

Yes, that's breaking a marital vow, but so is telling your wife "I'm done w/ sex."

Your wanting to continue enjoying your sexuality is a normal and healthy thing to do. ..Indeed, I wouldn't be surprised if one day research shows that frequent sex in our 60's, 70's and beyond keeps us healthier and helps us life longer. If your husband truly loves you, he should want that for you even if he doesn't want to be the one to give it to you.