Cuckolding and Statistics

[lc69hunter]

I love to troll the haters in the Loving Wives genre who go crazy about extramarital sex, especially when the husband is on board.( I am in the top 15 of all time commenters, so I have a lot to say on stories) I was quoting statistics from a 20 year old biased study I think Penthouse, that said that 72% of married men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. Well I was called on it, so I went back and researched.

Here are the results of a large scale survey conducted in 2021. The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy, being with another man in front of her husband. Another stat that came out of the study, that doesn't surprise me, is that 72% of wives in a long term marriage, secretly fantasize about friends' husbands, husband's friends, friends, and work colleagues. It wasn't mentioned in the study, but I suspect husbands in those long term marriages have the same type of fantasies.

So your husband and you are not alone in this fantasy. He is not a pervert. He just wants to see you pleasured. The secret is open communication, with no judgements. In my earlier days, I was with a number of cuckold relationships, where they were loving and consensual, and they were walking this road together, side by side as equals. The secret to the success of these relationships is the core bond between husband and wife. That needs to remain strong, or this won't work in the long term.

 

[lc69hunter]

Men, and women, you are not alone with your fantasy. Talk, listen and take the leap

 

[peruchica]

Thank you for sharing this information. I think this generally applies to most non-traditional kinks. I think most people have certain interests that they might feel aren't widely accepted and therefore keep it to themselves out of fear of being ridiculed or shamed for them. Sadly, there's a large swath of the population that reacts exactly in that way, and in my opinion, it's simply them hiding their own interests as well.

Something I've noticed specifically with cuckolding and wife sharing lifestyles, is that they seem to have become a lot more popular and more accepted. 15 years ago when my husband and I started, there seemed to be a lot more shock all around when people would find out about our lifestyle. Now the reaction is more that of interest and even if they don't have all of the information, they seem to understand the kink at a core level.

Ultimately I 100% agree, the key is always open and honest communication as well as open and honest reception. You don't have to be into your partners kinks in order to understand that it turns them on. You also don't have to make it a reality, but still find other ways to indulge such as dirty talk or role playing. Sex is fun! Experience it as best you can and let others experience it the way they want to.

 

[magicalmoments]

I always find statistics on this and related topics very interesting. The problem is finding surveys that have even a modicum of impartiality or lack of bias.
The other thing to remember is that this survey was apparently about fantasies. At an educated guess, based on my education from a lifetime of active "swinging", I would say that less than 5% of people actually act on the fantasies and live them out in real life. For the great majority it remains a fantasy. And that's great. I enjoy hearing about fantasies as much as I do real life experiences.
Time for another Kinsey, or Hite, or Masters and Johnson, this time with an emphasis on fantasies and making them real life experiences.

 

[CuttingEdge]

I think it cuckolding happens more than most people realize. It does not help that there are various names and definitions for it. Like to me there is a huge difference between "cheating" and "cuckolding", but that is just me. But then there is the term Poly Relationship, and Open Marriage, and the terms muddy the waters...

Myself, my experience has been bland compared to some on here, so I seldom bring it up. For my ex-wife and I, "cuckolding" was more of an indifference. I have no idea what clothes she wore for them, never did anything with humiliation for me, and really all I knew is I would get a call saying she would not be home and be spending the night with a married couple that were our friends. On my end of things, I didn't care, and hoped she had fun. When I was with others, I had fun, and she didn't care...

Was that an open marriage or cuckolding? I have no idea, but I know it happens far more than people realize.

 

[Wife4MMF]

I love to troll the haters in the Loving Wives genre who go crazy about extramarital sex, especially when the husband is on board.( I am in the top 15 of all time commenters, so I have a lot to say on stories) I was quoting statistics from a 20 year old biased study I think Penthouse, that said that 72% of married men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. Well I was called on it, so I went back and researched.

Here are the results of a large scale survey conducted in 2021. The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy, being with another man in front of her husband. Another stat that came out of the study, that doesn't surprise me, is that 72% of wives in a long term marriage, secretly fantasize about friends' husbands, husband's friends, friends, and work colleagues. It wasn't mentioned in the study, but I suspect husbands in those long term marriages have the same type of fantasies.

So your husband and you are not alone in this fantasy. He is not a pervert. He just wants to see you pleasured. The secret is open communication, with no judgements. In my earlier days, I was with a number of cuckold relationships, where they were loving and consensual, and they were walking this road together, side by side as equals. The secret to the success of these relationships is the core bond between husband and wife. That needs to remain strong, or this won't work in the long term.

You put it very well. I had experienced an MMF before I met my husband but when he initially told me about his fantasies, especially the one involving other men, I recoiled and assumed that he didn't really love me. That he just saw me as a sex object.
However, over time, we both came to realise that we had the same fantasy but expressed in different ways.
To cut a long story short, my husband re-9introduced me to an ex-boyfriend. This relationship developed into an erotic MMF and then became more and more of a cuckolding relationship.
I love my husband. He loves me. But I need other men sometimes sexually and he derives pleasure from being a cuck, even a humiliated cuck sometimes.

 

[wifewatcher1997]

My wife was never about cuckolding or humiliating me. We talked, role-played, fantasized and eventually she met with an online chat friend (over 15yrs ago). During a period of 10 years, she had a dozen or so lovers. One of the guys enjoyed me being there as well and we had 3somes. I know she enjoyed the attention and desires from the other men and having fun. After a while, she didn't care for it anymore. Only recently has one of her original friends come back into the mix. I got to listen to them and it is hot!
Again, it was my fantasy, shared it, she wanted to try it and did, everyone had fun, and it was a good time. Wish it happened more, but fun while it lasted.
I think if I never initiated it though, it would have never happened and I wouldn't have minded her being more into a true cuckold adventure. I shared that but it wasn't in her to do that.

 

[bjlatx]

Our only regret is that we didn’t start sooner. It’s long been a fantasy of ours, but she didn’t want to do it. She finally took the plunge earlier this year and loves it. She has four regulars now. I could hook up with othe women if I wanted to, but it doesn’t really interest me that much.

 

[magicalmoments]

Our only regret is that we didn’t start sooner. It’s long been a fantasy of ours, but she didn’t want to do it. She finally took the plunge earlier this year and loves it. She has four regulars now. I could hook up with othe women if I wanted to, but it doesn’t really interest me that much.

In my experience this is very common. Women, and men, resisting the urge to act out their fantasies, all for very good reasons, then finally giving in and wondering why they put it off so long. Good to see.

 

[bps]

Another stat that came out of the study, that doesn't surprise me, is that 72% of wives in a long term marriage, secretly fantasize about friends' husbands, husband's friends, friends, and work colleagues. It wasn't mentioned in the study, but I suspect husbands in those long term marriages have the same type of fantasies.

Sorry if I’m over thinking this but I’m just trying to make sure I’m clear on what you meant by this; is the gist of this meant to convey the flipside from a male perspective, to wit, that husbands in those long-term marriages are fantasizing about other females (in your words…friends’ wives, wife’s friends, and work colleagues)? Or rather that they’re fantasizing about their wives having such thoughts of other men? I suppose I have to ask because I’m more likely in the latter camp! But I doubt I’m alone.

 

[bps]

I think it cuckolding happens more than most people realize. It does not help that there are various names and definitions for it. Like to me there is a huge difference between "cheating" and "cuckolding", but that is just me. But then there is the term Poly Relationship, and Open Marriage, and the terms muddy the waters...

Myself, my experience has been bland compared to some on here, so I seldom bring it up. For my ex-wife and I, "cuckolding" was more of an indifference. I have no idea what clothes she wore for them, never did anything with humiliation for me, and really all I knew is I would get a call saying she would not be home and be spending the night with a married couple that were our friends. On my end of things, I didn't care, and hoped she had fun. When I was with others, I had fun, and she didn't care...

Was that an open marriage or cuckolding? I have no idea, but I know it happens far more than people realize.

I would call that an open marriage, in that YOU were an equal partner( in theory) in a consensually non-monogamous arrangement. I’m not the arbiter of these things but I think most folks would see a husband’s unilateral inclination/commitment to monogamy with his partner as an essential ingredient and spice to cuckoldry.

 

[Anton25]

I love to troll the haters in the Loving Wives genre who go crazy about extramarital sex, especially when the husband is on board.( I am in the top 15 of all time commenters, so I have a lot to say on stories) I was quoting statistics from a 20 year old biased study I think Penthouse, that said that 72% of married men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. Well I was called on it, so I went back and researched.

Here are the results of a large scale survey conducted in 2021. The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy, being with another man in front of her husband. Another stat that came out of the study, that doesn't surprise me, is that 72% of wives in a long term marriage, secretly fantasize about friends' husbands, husband's friends, friends, and work colleagues. It wasn't mentioned in the study, but I suspect husbands in those long term marriages have the same type of fantasies.

So your husband and you are not alone in this fantasy. He is not a pervert. He just wants to see you pleasured. The secret is open communication, with no judgements. In my earlier days, I was with a number of cuckold relationships, where they were loving and consensual, and they were walking this road together, side by side as equals. The secret to the success of these relationships is the core bond between husband and wife. That needs to remain strong, or this won't work in the long term.

I agree 100 per cent. I am a cuckold and my story of it going REALLY wrong :https://literotica.com/s/sex-for-donation

 

[bps]

You put it very well. I had experienced an MMF before I met my husband but when he initially told me about his fantasies, especially the one involving other men, I recoiled and assumed that he didn't really love me. That he just saw me as a sex object.
However, over time, we both came to realise that we had the same fantasy but expressed in different ways.
To cut a long story short, my husband re-9introduced me to an ex-boyfriend. This relationship developed into an erotic MMF and then became more and more of a cuckolding relationship.
I love my husband. He loves me. But I need other men sometimes sexually and he derives pleasure from being a cuck, even a humiliated cuck sometimes.

He sounds like a fortunate guy.

 

[lc69hunter]

Sorry if I’m over thinking this but I’m just trying to make sure I’m clear on what you meant by this; is the gist of this meant to convey the flipside from a male perspective, to wit, that husbands in those long-term marriages are fantasizing about other females (in your words…friends’ wives, wife’s friends, and work colleagues)? Or rather that they’re fantasizing about their wives having such thoughts of other men? I suppose I have to ask because I’m more likely in the latter camp! But I doubt I’m alone.

The study didn't mention men, and by the tone of the study results, it just seems that women in those long term relationships were comfortable fantasizing about those other men.

 

[Wife4MMF]

He sounds like a fortunate guy.

Oh he is!

 

[bps]

The study didn't mention men, and by the tone of the study results, it just seems that women in those long term relationships were comfortable fantasizing about those other men.

No, the study didn’t, I get that. But you did, at least in a speculative way. That’s what my question was directed towards. I’m still not sure you understood.

 

[Willywin]

Thank you for sharing this information. I think this generally applies to most non-traditional kinks. I think most people have certain interests that they might feel aren't widely accepted and therefore keep it to themselves out of fear of being ridiculed or shamed for them. Sadly, there's a large swath of the population that reacts exactly in that way, and in my opinion, it's simply them hiding their own interests as well.

Something I've noticed specifically with cuckolding and wife sharing lifestyles, is that they seem to have become a lot more popular and more accepted. 15 years ago when my husband and I started, there seemed to be a lot more shock all around when people would find out about our lifestyle. Now the reaction is more that of interest and even if they don't have all of the information, they seem to understand the kink at a core level.

Ultimately I 100% agree, the key is always open and honest communication as well as open and honest reception. You don't have to be into your partners kinks in order to understand that it turns them on. You also don't have to make it a reality, but still find other ways to indulge such as dirty talk or role playing. Sex is fun! Experience it as best you can and let others experience it the way they want to.

Just ignore the haters...

 

[Cardinal]

Not sure if anyone else saw this but on Wednesday the USA Today had a front page story about the definition of monogamy changing and meaning something different than it used to.
It talked about people’s needs changing throughout their lives and what that means having just one partner.
Thought it was pretty interesting for the topic to be on the front page of the USA Today, the newspaper choice of hotels across the country!

 

[CEOescape]

I love to troll the haters in the Loving Wives genre who go crazy about extramarital sex, especially when the husband is on board.( I am in the top 15 of all time commenters, so I have a lot to say on stories) I was quoting statistics from a 20 year old biased study I think Penthouse, that said that 72% of married men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. Well I was called on it, so I went back and researched.

Here are the results of a large scale survey conducted in 2021. The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy, being with another man in front of her husband. Another stat that came out of the study, that doesn't surprise me, is that 72% of wives in a long term marriage, secretly fantasize about friends' husbands, husband's friends, friends, and work colleagues. It wasn't mentioned in the study, but I suspect husbands in those long term marriages have the same type of fantasies.

So your husband and you are not alone in this fantasy. He is not a pervert. He just wants to see you pleasured. The secret is open communication, with no judgements. In my earlier days, I was with a number of cuckold relationships, where they were loving and consensual, and they were walking this road together, side by side as equals. The secret to the success of these relationships is the core bond between husband and wife. That needs to remain strong, or this won't work in the long term.

I think you are 100% correct with the studies and your opinion. ..

 

[CuttingEdge]

Here are the results of a large scale survey conducted in 2021. The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy, being with another man in front of her husband. Another stat that came out of the study, that doesn't surprise me, is that 72% of wives in a long term marriage, secretly fantasize about friends' husbands, husband's friends, friends, and work colleagues. It wasn't mentioned in the study, but I suspect husbands in those long term marriages have the same type of fantasies.

This really should not be surprising, as I anything in saturation is going to change people and societies.

As an example, if a burger stand floods television, radio, and streaming services with advertisements about their latest succulent burger, when you are thinking of a hamburger, you will inevitably think of their commercials. And that is what we have today with so many people watching pornography.

Spoken as a man here, in watching porn, I am watching a woman I would really like to be in bed with, getting railed by another man.

Almost ALL Porn is cuckolding.

So if it is so engrained in our lives, why would that not gravitate to our relationships too?

And with so many woman watching porn now, it only stands to reason that that gender is going to change its opinions on relationships as well.

 

[cocktaildress21]

The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy

This seems extraordinarily unlikely. If you link me this survey, I'll take it apart for you, and tell you exactly why it's wrong.

 

[littlecordelera]

Spoken as a man here, in watching porn, I am watching a woman I would really like to be in bed with, getting railed by another man.

Almost ALL Porn is cuckolding.

I'll have to say I see it completely opposite. Cuckolding is about the wife's pleasure. Almost all porn is about the guy's pleasure. So to me, it seems that almost all porn is just the opposite of cuckolding.

 

[littlecordelera]

Just because a guy enjoys watching his wife have sex with another man, that doesn't make him a cuckold - at least, not in the swing community. A cuckold is a guy who gets aroused because he feels sexually inferior. He also views himself in a sexually secondary role. So 58% or 72% of all guys wanting to see their wife have sex with another man doesn't surprise me at all. They're normal guys.

 

[lc69hunter]

Just because a guy enjoys watching his wife have sex with another man, that doesn't make him a cuckold - at least, not in the swing community. A cuckold is a guy who gets aroused because he feels sexually inferior. He also views himself in a sexually secondary role. So 58% or 72% of all guys wanting to see their wife have sex with another man doesn't surprise me at all. They're normal guys.

I believe you are referring to the porn definition. That kind of thing is fetishy.

However, you are correct on the other part. Despite what the little noisy trolls down in the Loving Wives blather. My second wife and I both enjoyed watching

 

[littlecordelera]

I believe you are referring to the porn definition. That kind of thing is fetishy.

However, you are correct on the other part. Despite what the little noisy trolls down in the Loving Wives blather. My second wife and I both enjoyed watching

No, I am referring to the swing community. We've been active members for over 25 years, alll over the southeast, NY, Las Vegas, Seattle, the list goes on.