Could someone please explain this to me? My girlfriend says that she feels this extreme pressure when she is stimulated in the vaginal area. She says that sometimes it is almost unbearable and that she feels like there is something that needs to be released. She asked me to post this message so we could learn either how to release this pressure or if the pressure may be a bad thing. We have no idea. Also we would like to know if it is possible that a girl CAN'T orgasm at all. She has never orgasmed before and she is beginning to think that she can't. Any info. would be great.
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sweetcyanide
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Tell her to ask her obgyn about it.
I've had similar problems that are rather frustrating, where my partner can push me and push me and push me to the edge of orgasm but sometimes, (not on any fault of his own, I assure you) it just doesn't come. (no pun intended)
Maybe it's just gods way of making us females more miserable?
I've had similar problems that are rather frustrating, where my partner can push me and push me and push me to the edge of orgasm but sometimes, (not on any fault of his own, I assure you) it just doesn't come. (no pun intended)
Maybe it's just gods way of making us females more miserable?
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is she young? Are you all in a new relationship? I know a LOOOONNGGG time ago when I was young and insecure (NO laughing!) it was very difficult for me to reach orgasm..part of it was due to not knowing my own body...I was not able to let my lover know what I needed or wanted for that matter.I swear to God I used to burst out laughing when I got close to cumming..tell me that didn't boost his ego huh? okay dumb question here...you DO know where her clit is don't you? Oh shit you know what, I am assuming you are male! If you are female , I would think you know the anatomy. If you are male maybe not. Anyway...She is probably trying to hard ...thinking about it to much...don't make her orgasm the focal point of your sexual encounters.relaxation & sensuality go a long way.I think a lot of so called "non-orgasmic" women just have some sort of mental hang up about it.
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Yes, all women are capeable of having orgasms. I think I was actually 19 or so when I finally had one (and it was not through "regular" vaginal sex...it was through oral). I lost my virginity when I was 17. My ex fiance was a virgin our first time too... At any rate, I never orgasmed with him.
As for the pressure build up your girlfriend feels... It sounds to me like she is on the brink of orgasm. Once she feels this pressure, so you two usually stop whatever it is you're doing? There was a time in my life when I felt like I had to pee right before orgasm. I always stopped whatever it was I was doing. Then, one time I was at that point again. The guy I was with didn't let up though, and I ended out having my orgasm (it was one of the best of my life!). I found out later that I was capable of squirting. (That's what the need to pee feeling was...female ejaculation, not urine.)
If the two of you continue to have "problems", then I'd have her consult her Gyn. Good luck!
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Yes, all women are capeable of having orgasms. I think I was actually 19 or so when I finally had one (and it was not through "regular" vaginal sex...it was through oral). I lost my virginity when I was 17. My ex fiance was a virgin our first time too... At any rate, I never orgasmed with him.
As for the pressure build up your girlfriend feels... It sounds to me like she is on the brink of orgasm. Once she feels this pressure, so you two usually stop whatever it is you're doing? There was a time in my life when I felt like I had to pee right before orgasm. I always stopped whatever it was I was doing. Then, one time I was at that point again. The guy I was with didn't let up though, and I ended out having my orgasm (it was one of the best of my life!). I found out later that I was capable of squirting. (That's what the need to pee feeling was...female ejaculation, not urine.)
If the two of you continue to have "problems", then I'd have her consult her Gyn. Good luck!
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You know what, it may sound silly, but try choosing a different atmosphere.
Some place that really makes her comfortable, even if she likes candles, set a lot of those up, or get a disco ball and some strobe lights or something, depends on the girl.
And keep talking to her through it, asking her if she likes what you're doing, does she want it differently, harder faster, longer, shorter, you know what I mean.
That just might give her what she needs to tell you exactly what to do to allow her sweet release.
If it's a mental block that is holding her back, this might help.
Good luck.
Some place that really makes her comfortable, even if she likes candles, set a lot of those up, or get a disco ball and some strobe lights or something, depends on the girl.
And keep talking to her through it, asking her if she likes what you're doing, does she want it differently, harder faster, longer, shorter, you know what I mean.
That just might give her what she needs to tell you exactly what to do to allow her sweet release.
If it's a mental block that is holding her back, this might help.
Good luck.
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This "presure"...
Does it feel like she has to pee? Seriously. Many women report that initial stimulation of the G-spot creates a pressure feeling, similar to that of a full bladder. I've had women actually get up and go to the bathroom - stops everything cold let me tell you. Apparently the trick is to "learn" or re-teach oneself to "let it flow" so to speak. To let go. If this can be achieved, (it's sometimes hard to do) - then not only is G-spot explosiveness often the result but also the possibility of female ejaculation can occur. But again, I remind you, "they" say this can be difficult - a lot of women simply don't want to mess the bed, or leak, or squirt - they find it discussing (they've, we all have been, trained that way) this to the point of "not having an orgasm." I of course would say, "bring it on, cool, let me have it baby!!!" Good luck.
Does it feel like she has to pee? Seriously. Many women report that initial stimulation of the G-spot creates a pressure feeling, similar to that of a full bladder. I've had women actually get up and go to the bathroom - stops everything cold let me tell you. Apparently the trick is to "learn" or re-teach oneself to "let it flow" so to speak. To let go. If this can be achieved, (it's sometimes hard to do) - then not only is G-spot explosiveness often the result but also the possibility of female ejaculation can occur. But again, I remind you, "they" say this can be difficult - a lot of women simply don't want to mess the bed, or leak, or squirt - they find it discussing (they've, we all have been, trained that way) this to the point of "not having an orgasm." I of course would say, "bring it on, cool, let me have it baby!!!" Good luck.
The feeling originally was that she felt like she had to pee but now she describes an immense pressure in top area of her vagina. She also says that when I first put my finger in and start tapping away that she feels like something is shooting up into her chest. Any suggestions on why this may be or what it is?? Thanks for all the help so far.
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