women and men have you ever imagined you were with another while having sex with your

[ewopper]

one and only and if so did it spice up the sex

 

[Eilan]

Hell, most of the time my husband and I TALK about this during sex. Fantasizing out loud, I suppose.

 

[ewopper]

Hell, most of the time my husband and I TALK about this during sex. Fantasizing out loud, I suppose.

cool when I was married I'd do it but I never told my spouses... they weren't open minded

 

[LotusDreamer]

I've never imagined him as totally different person. There aren't many guys that dampen my panties. (Well, Usher, the singer. HOT! However, for reasons discussed in another thread, he is off limits) I guess it would be more like role playing.

 

[phoenix1224]

Never.

I get too caught up in the moment to think about anyone else other than the one that I'm with.

 

[karndav]

I often fantasize with my husband about this. the idea turns both of us on!!

 

[bisexplicit]

My boyfriend and I always talk during sex. Sometimes we talk about other people - but it turns us both on.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I have in the past when I was with a couple of different guys (not at the same time) that were absolutely horrible and were done when they finished without really paying any attention to me. I needed somethign to do while I faked it.

Currently, the man I'm with makes sure I'm plenty happy and enjoying him so much that I am totally fixated on him. I don't think my brain can really let in any other thoughts during those times with as occupied as it is.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I rarely fantasize about being with a specific person even when masturbating, unless it's my SO. So it never even crosses my mind to do it when I'm with the SO.

 

[bronzeage]

one and only and if so did it spice up the sex

I learned at an early age, if a woman doesn't want you to talk during sex, its because she is thinking about someone else and you bust the fantasy when you open your mouth.

 

[AppleBiter]

Haven't ever imagined being with someone else during sex. We have role-played, pretending to be other people, and I guess -- in a way -- that could count. It boils down to semantics and what you consider to be fantasizing about someone else. For instance, if you're role playing and he's a teacher and she's the naughty student (or whatever), but you're nobody in particular (i.e. someone famous or an actual person), but rather a fictional character . . . is that still fantasizing about someone else?

 

[Melodiosa]

Nope. When I'm with someone, I'm with him because I want to be with him. Role-play, however, is another thing entirely

 

[ewopper]

no answer is a wrong one I'm just wondering how many of us have hangups
by trying to live by what others who aren't authorities on the matter say just be true to yourself if itrt works great

 

[SlyKitten]

I learned at an early age, if a woman doesn't want you to talk during sex, its because she is thinking about someone else and you bust the fantasy when you open your mouth.

I thought it was men who did that...
On topic:Yes.
And I don't think roleplaying is fantasizing about somone else; you're still you, playing, and the other is still him/herself, playing.

 

[HandFan]

I'm more of a thinking about faceless, nameless scenerios kind of person. I'm present with my partner...but at the same time I'm thinking of scenes or things that really turn me on to...sometimes those thoughts can be creepy, but hey...whatever helps get you there right?

 

[therockap1]

If I am close to cumming and I don't want to finish yet,i think of Estelle Costanza from Seinfeld. I can get an extra 5 minutes. If my women is giving me a BJ and its been 20 minutes and I want to finish I think of Eva Longaria.

 

[rwattsIII]

I'm embarrassed to say that my mind is quite undisciplined. I think about all sorts of stuff. I think about past lovers. I think about erotica that I've read; erotic senarios that I have imagined. It's really quite distracting and I would hate to have my girlfriend know that I wasn't absolutely thinking about her every single second.

 

[yoshimitsu]

I can't think of other stuff. It's like it's too much of a distraction. Even stuff that masterbating or otherwise would really turn me on. I usually start to go limp, the mutual thrusting cadence becomes a trainwreck and the conection is just lost. I like to be in the here and now. The more I focus on what I am doing and who I am doing it to the hornier I get and the better I am able to focus on what feels best for both of us.
I don't think theirs any thing wrong with it unless you have to fantisize or do it a large percentage of the time. That would tell me something in the relationship could probably use improvement. If it's sometimes and you dig it well then as they say "whatever gets you off"

 

[Dangerous Nymph]

With my one and only, no

With someone I was messing around with, yes

 

[bobsgirl]

Yes I have, and yes it did.

 

[SlickTony]

I frequently imagine that I'm someone else. And yes, it does. Hell, that's where a lot of my story ideas come out of.

 

[Thermister]

I do it often, but I find that sometimes it's exciting to imagine I'm with someone other than my so while having sex. It's never anyone famous, normally women that I've thought about being with that I know.
She does it as well and she knows I do it occaisionally, which doesn't bother her, that being said she's not up for role play or anything like that.

 

[ewopper]

I learned at an early age, if a woman doesn't want you to talk during sex, its because she is thinking about someone else and you bust the fantasy when you open your mouth.

lmao