Without the pain and bondage?

Beach Boy

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I was thinking about what people write about having to be hugged sometimes at play parties and such, and I sort of wondered if there was a group which was similar to BDSM -- but without the pain and bondage. You know where the "submissive" submits to love and intimacy? Or is that just regular "swinging"?

Instead of whipping the submissive you massage her, you caress her -- you make love to her! :D I would think that that would be more attractive than BDSM.
 
Beach Boy said:
I was thinking about what people write about having to be hugged sometimes at play parties and such, and I sort of wondered if there was a group which was similar to BDSM -- but without the pain and bondage. You know where the "submissive" submits to love and intimacy? Or is that just regular "swinging"?

Instead of whipping the submissive you massage her, you caress her -- you make love to her! :D I would think that that would be more attractive than BDSM.

I have had some incredible massages and been caressed by floggers in skilled hands.

There are many many sorts of groups people join. Mine happens to involve the use of some pain, and bondage and do include love and intimacy, because that is where I feel the most alive. It is for me, but not for everyone.
 
Some people are into D/s and/or Power Exchange which is to me the essence and the really hot thing in BDSM but are not into pain for either partner or bondage.

Fury :rose:
 
Beach Boy said:
I was thinking about what people write about having to be hugged sometimes at play parties and such, and I sort of wondered if there was a group which was similar to BDSM -- but without the pain and bondage. You know where the "submissive" submits to love and intimacy? Or is that just regular "swinging"?

Instead of whipping the submissive you massage her, you caress her -- you make love to her! :D I would think that that would be more attractive than BDSM.

Thats the kind of statement that makes me ask
"Why are you here?"

It seems you don't want any part of BDSM,

Perhaps you have watched too many porn movies and are starting to believe them, or maybe a swinger site would suit you better.

Another thing that roams in my mind when i read your posts is that you come across as unbelievably naive, as if you are around 11 years old.
 
Beach Boy said:
Instead of whipping the submissive you massage her, you caress her -- you make love to her! :D I would think that that would be more attractive than BDSM.

BDSM is a lot of things. It can include whatever you want it to include. Those four little letters don't really mean that much as a definition of someone's kink.

Everyone has different little things that drive them up the wall. And I *totally* understand the confusion someone feels about things they simply don't feel.

I simply don't understand lesbians who don't want cock. I find cock irresistable! Isn't it more desirable than pussy?

I simply can't wrap my head over wanting to dominate someone. I can only imagine, even in my wildest thoughts, being submissive! I just can't imagine dominating someone else to be more appealing than submitting to them!

I don't think there's anything wrong with the statement above. What would be wrong would be any discrimination against people that had different opinions. I doubt highly that this poster thought "wow, this is a revelation that will change BDSM forever." He simply doesn't understand our kinks. And that's fine. I don't understand half the kinks on this board ;)

The key word is acceptance.
 
Hi,

Just to answer, I am incredibly naive -- in the world of BDSM. I am forty years old but still there is much that I've never seen or experienced (Probably won't) but I just thought I would ask a completely different sort of question.
 
Beach Boy said:
Instead of whipping the submissive you massage her, you caress her -- you make love to her! :D I would think that that would be more attractive than BDSM.

Though there can be some masaging from the Dominant (mine does from time to tme), if this as described was the main action of the relationship I would say it is vanilla, or submissive behaviour in a D/s context.

Catalina :rose:
 
Whats the point?

Hard to describe. If u allow it the pain becomes ur pleasure. Its a different kind of caress and love, made more special
 
Chicklet said:
I simply don't understand lesbians who don't want cock. I find cock irresistable! Isn't it more desirable than pussy?
LOL, I don't understand how a woman can relate to a man and have a relationship with one! Women make so much more sense to me. And doesn't cock look weird? I've always thought it was strange that somebody would want to play with a silly-looking thing.

So it goes both ways... :D
 
Beach Boy said:
Instead of whipping the submissive you massage her, you caress her -- you make love to her! :D I would think that that would be more attractive than BDSM.

Substituting the word him for her, I would have to say in the context of who I am, No that would not be better. If a male came to me with wanting that, I would tell him to go and find a girlfriend and/or wife. It ain't me babe.

I must add that no male vanilla or otherwise has just asked for what you just mentioned. They all have their kinks. YMMV

Eb
 
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