Why women do not court men...

[LJ_Reloaded]

Imagine having to make the first move and put yourself out there for potential humiliation, then suffering through ten potentially nasty rejections before getting a single phone number which might not even be real, paying for his lunch AND yours if the phone number IS real, being constantly alpha-tested, and expecting nothing in return for anything you do because otherwise it's rape culture, and having to be gracious and happy in front of the world when you get rejected for a relationship anyway.

LOL women's heads would explode in a firestorm of neuroses if they had to go through this shit.

What woman's going to go through that when their gender allows them the privilege of automatic success in the courtship game merely by showing up? It's better to enjoy your gender privilege and leave those headaches for the dude. While at the same time saying you're oppressed.

That is why women do not court.

 

[Tryharder62]

Bullshit! When I was growing up a girl had to wait for the guy to do the asking. Think of how shitty that feels to have no one even ask. A guy had the control. Ask as many girls as you want. If by the hundredth no one has said yes maybe it is something wrong with you. I like it how it is now around my area. Whole groups of kids go to dances and events even if they aren't part of a couple.

 

[lovetoread]

Bullshit! When I was growing up a girl had to wait for the guy to do the asking. Think of how shitty that feels to have no one even ask. A guy had the control. Ask as many girls as you want. If by the hundredth no one has said yes maybe it is something wrong with you. I like it how it is now around my area. Whole groups of kids go to dances and events even if they aren't part of a couple.

I grew up that way too.

Though I have had no issues when I've asked anyone for a phone number.

 

[warrior queen]

Imagine having to make the first move and put yourself out there for potential humiliation, then suffering through ten potentially nasty rejections before getting a single phone number which might not even be real, paying for his lunch AND yours if the phone number IS real, being constantly alpha-tested, and expecting nothing in return for anything you do because otherwise it's rape culture, and having to be gracious and happy in front of the world when you get rejected for a relationship anyway.

LOL women's heads would explode in a firestorm of neuroses if they had to go through this shit.

What woman's going to go through that when their gender allows them the privilege of automatic success in the courtship game merely by showing up? It's better to enjoy your gender privilege and leave those headaches for the dude. While at the same time saying you're oppressed.

That is why women do not court.

Oh man - you really have zero understanding, don't you?!
I can't imagine getting to your age and still being totally clueless.
: pity :

 

[bronzeage]

Bullshit! When I was growing up a girl had to wait for the guy to do the asking. Think of how shitty that feels to have no one even ask. A guy had the control. Ask as many girls as you want. If by the hundredth no one has said yes maybe it is something wrong with you. I like it how it is now around my area. Whole groups of kids go to dances and events even if they aren't part of a couple.

Poor LT.

Life handed him such a raw deal when he was born with a penis.

 

[Tryharder62]

I grew up that way too.

Though I have had no issues when I've asked anyone for a phone number.

I bet you had no problems getting asked either, my dear!!!!

I just break into the guys house and jot down thier number. JUST KIDDING!!!!

 

[Liar]

My woman courted me.

Granted, said courtship consisted of buying me a beer, and delivering it after she sat her butt down on my lap and declared she had no intention to leave.

I'm easy like that.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Bullshit! When I was growing up a girl had to wait for the guy to do the asking. Think of how shitty that feels to have no one even ask. A guy had the control. Ask as many girls as you want. If by the hundredth no one has said yes maybe it is something wrong with you. I like it how it is now around my area. Whole groups of kids go to dances and events even if they aren't part of a couple.

You didn't have to wait; you just chose to do so, rather than risk the rejection that guys have to risk all the time. Guys have and had no control whatsoever, once they have put themselves out there.

 

[warrior queen]

You didn't have to wait; you just chose to do so, rather than risk the rejection that guys have to risk all the time. Guys have and had no control whatsoever, once they have put themselves out there.

Ya know - when I was growing up and getting into the dating scene, that was called 'life'.
It happened to most people, guys or chicks.
Funnily enough, these days it leads to expensive therapy and inferiority complexes.

Pass the mogadon

 

[Cade Is Here]

Hell even in the 80s girl would ask guys out on a date or to the movies etc. It must be people here that grew up in the 50s here that must be saying something different

 

[lovetoread]

Hell even in the 80s girl would ask guys out on a date or to the movies etc. It must be people here that grew up in the 50s here that must be saying something different

Nope, it's how your parents raised you that matters, not the time.

 

[pointless]

who the fuck courts anyone anymore?

 

[warrior queen]

who the fuck courts anyone anymore?

I will admit, my man courted me
And tbh, I had never experienced that before, so I had absolutely no idea how to respond!

It was a comedy of errors (mostly on my part) and I'm still surprised we ended up together!

 

[Cade Is Here]

who the fuck courts anyone anymore?

Judge judy

 

[knot_sweet]

Is it wrong that I find LJ hate threads fascinating in a "oooh look at the extinct stuffed animal" kind of way??

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Bullshit! When I was growing up a girl had to wait for the guy to do the asking. Think of how shitty that feels to have no one even ask.

Not true, not true at all. All women get asked out. All. The problem is that they don't get asked out by the man they want.

That's what a woman's whole entire burden is:
1) Show up.
2) Take your pick.

God, that's just horrible, ain't it? No one ever shoots you down in public in front of everyone. You don't have to slay any metaphorical dragons. You don't pay for shit. How terrible, huh?

 

[BotanyBoy]

Is it wrong that I find LJ hate threads fascinating in a "oooh look at the extinct stuffed animal" kind of way??

No...hell I argue with him just to get laughs and see what he will say next, I would feel bad, like picking on the retarded kid bad, but I don't.......

 

[Colonel Hogan]

Poor LT.

Life handed him such a raw deal when he was born with a penis.

He's pissed because all his women give him the silent treatment, and he still doesn't know why.

 

[warrior queen]

Not true, not true at all. All women get asked out. All. The problem is that they don't get asked out by the man they want.

That's what a woman's whole entire burden is:
1) Show up.
2) Take your pick.

God, that's just horrible, ain't it? No one ever shoots you down in public in front of everyone. You don't have to slay any metaphorical dragons. You don't pay for shit. How terrible, huh?

Girls are completely horrid to other girls that don't get asked out.
But you wouldn't know that, having/being a dick an all.....

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

No...hell I argue with him just to get laughs and see what he will say next, I would feel bad, like picking on the retarded kid bad, but I don't.......

You mean you make an idiot out of yourself for laughs?

 

[BotanyBoy]

You mean you make an idiot out of yourself for laughs?

If someone get's yucks laughing at me, more power to them...most people don't laugh enough anyhow. And more power to me too for getting others to laugh.

You will still always be my little toy with witch to play with here on the GB, not to mention my complete social inferior.

 

[bronzeage]

If someone get's yucks laughing at me, more power to them...most people don't laugh enough anyhow. And more power to me too for getting others to laugh.

You will still always be my little toy with witch to play with here on the GB, not to mention my complete social inferior.

When Lt quits responding to your posts, you've risen to LitGod status.

 

[SexyAlison]

Cause I don't feel like it.

 

[Tryharder62]

You didn't have to wait; you just chose to do so, rather than risk the rejection that guys have to risk all the time. Guys have and had no control whatsoever, once they have put themselves out there.

When my boy "friend" cancelled out on me for prom I asked others to go with me. They said no. I didn't cry in my beer. (OK so I don't drink beer) Don't risk it. Don't put yourself out there. Don't date. Don't ask women. I don't care. Take the pressure off.

 

[Tryharder62]

Not true, not true at all. All women get asked out. All. The problem is that they don't get asked out by the man they want.

That's what a woman's whole entire burden is:
1) Show up.
2) Take your pick.

God, that's just horrible, ain't it? No one ever shoots you down in public in front of everyone. You don't have to slay any metaphorical dragons. You don't pay for shit. How terrible, huh?

I am not an ugly person. I was quiet and shy. Ackward with the opposite sex because of things in my life. Don't give me crap about all women being asked out. I never went to a dance except a Sadie Hawkins where I did the asking.

Trying being quiet and shy and "nice". Then put yourself out there. Dress nice. Look nice. Be nice and never be asked to shit.

Both men and women have it tough. Just do your best and get over it.