Overrepresentation of populations on Literotica

[ZfrkS62]

Well said, but I pose this...
Do you not find that men will push the "sex envelope" for the next fix?
Example is bedroom sex is good, let's try something to make it better, do that for a bit, now man wants to do even better. Introducing another idea kink or fantasy, and repeat for another fantasy or kink....does it really ever end?

I think it's harmfully limiting to suggest that been are the only ones curious about trying different things. I think there are more women than are willing to admit that they also fantasize about extreme kinks and fetishes, but cultural stigmas have caused them not to open up about them.

If you assume that partners should be completely comfortable and trusting of each other, neither party should have a problem with the give and take of sexual exploration. I know a couple of women who are very open and adventurous (sadly, I'm not married to any of them).

If a couple engaged in an extreme kink as regularly as most engage in conventional sex, then yes, it would get just as boring as missionary with the lights off only on Saturday night.

My wife and i have been together since 2003, and married since '12 with very little experimentation/exploration and i can say communication of changing interests has been part of the problem.


I don't think there's a couple on this during that couldn't recite their start up procedure and sequence from start to finish in about 10 seconds.

 

[KentLondon]

It has been suggested to me many times over the years, and again recently, that "sexually aggressive" women (a gender normative and gender reductive concept) are overrepresented on Lit, to the degree that most of us that fit that description "must" be men posing as women because sexually aggressive women are a common trope in male stroke pornography and we (the supposed men posing as sexually aggressive women) are perpetuating that trope for... reasons.

While I agree that so-called sexually aggressive women are likely overrepresented on Lit when compared to the general population, I do not believe that it is as much an overrepresentation as gender normative thinking about female sexuality may suggest. Yet, being a sexually aggressive female on here seems a sure fire way to be either dismissed as an attention seeker, berated for perpetuating male fantasies, accused of being a man, etc.

On the flip side, I think sexually frustrated males are also overrepresented on Lit (and online in general) when compared to the general population, leading to an atmosphere of suspicion toward women who are sex-positive in a way that does not fit the expectation of female sexual passivity/resistance.

So, any thoughts?

There are many kind, intelligent, funny and, yes, assertive women here on Lit whom I admire greatly.
Theirs are often the most interesting and incisive posts on here, and the grammar is often better!