Why Ooooooooh Why....

[Avery_Chisholm]

Hiya! here's my delemia: Me and my friend progressed to mainly fuck friends over the last couple of yrs, problem is I fell for him and just when I thought I had gotten over it, its reared its ugly head again....I cannot count the number of opportunites I have had 2 pour my heart out about the way I feel to this man but since my heart is beating so fast its practically jumping out of my body (I have absolutely no idea why I am sooooooo very scared 2 tell him) and it wouldn't look very well if I was telling him from the back of an ambulance WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I definitely get that vibe that he knows how i feel as how could he not I never forget his birthday or even christmas...I've even tried 2 write him a letter(which by the way is like 2yrs in the making I have about 100000 different versions of it WAHHHHHHHHHHHH)I don't know weather I should just cut my loses or what??? i would just like to hear those words "I love you" once how I would forfeit a fuck for that....(excuse my language...)

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Just do it.

Life is to short ...

Do what your heart tells you.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

 

[cyndiesweet]

Yeah. You have to know one way or another.

 

[Gaultier]

IT is easy to say for me : JUST DO IT ....

What are u gonna lose ? That person is not gonna leave u....

Life is REALLY to short

Good luck :

 

[JUDO]

My best shot...

Well, yeah, you have yourself in a tough situation. You have something you like a lot, but are now terribly afraid to put the proper spin on the situation because that might make everything change.

Well, here's the good news. You have someone who cares about you. Yeah, it's possible they might not become the love of your life, but remember, they care about you and that's rare in and of itself.

If this person is to be the love of your life, there is one thing you must do and it will completely let down your guard and leave you ready to be devestated, but you must be honest with them.

Now, honesty is difficult, even with ourselves sometimes. To be truly honest with someone, you have to say what is in your mind. No editing, no deleting, no cutting...exactly what is in your mind. If you both don't do this, you are not revealing who you are to one another. Instead, you are creating something that you think they will like...and it isn't you. Unfortunately, someday, somehow, they will find out who you are anyway.

More good news...if you reveal who you really are to them and you create this dialog of honesty, you will trust one another and believe in one another regardless of the outcome.

Sure, it may be too much for him to take. He may bolt at the first honesty, but then again, he may not and if he does, it's because he's not ready to be honest with you. And if that is the case, you don't want him yet. If he does bolt, give him time, he may actually grow up someday and return to the honesty.

It's hard, difficult and risky, but without taking the step, you are not getting on with your life.

Make a "date" with him. You set everything up. Have him meet you someplace "special." Don't think about what you are going to say, think about how you feel about him. Tell him, "I have something that's really important for me to say to you and I want you to listen to me first, then tell me truthfully what you think about it. Okay?" He gives his assent, then you spill your guts.

Best of luck, sweetie. It's really a tough thing. Please be confident that many people's prayers and good vibrations go along with you.

- Judo

 

[Hecate]

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