Why-oh-why...

[Sammyjo]

...is it that I can't eat a single meal in my own house? Oh, it's because the people that sit with me for dinner, chew so loudly. Their lack of manners makes me want to gag. I haven't eaten a decent meal for days, due to the flu. I sit down last night to something delicious, and I can't stomach it because I am hearing smacking and gnawing from all sides. UGH!!!!

Anyone else have this problem? or am I the only one? I literally passed off my food to someone else and left the room.

 

[CW]

I am hearing smacking and gnawing from all sides. UGH!!!!

Anyone else have this problem? or am I the only one? I literally passed off my food to someone else and left the room.

I take it that this is not family?

This a pet peeve of mine as well,,, I have been known to leave a resturant because the foursome seated at the table next to us was doing the pig at the slop trough routine with their dinner,,, and, then to top it off, they were talking with their mouths full,,, BLAHHHHH!!!!!!

As my kids were growing up, and as my girlfriends girls are growing up now,,, whenever I notice that they are chomping and slopping their food,,, I do an imitation of what they are doing for their benefit only,,, so far it has worked after a few meals with that gross demonstration,,,

Now when the girls get carried away at the table and forget their manners, as kids are apt to do, they get one warning, second offense at the same meal sees their plate removed from the table and they are sent off to play. Cruel? Nope, just negative reinforcement that manners are always required. Being sent from the table has only happened twice so far in two years.

Of course, I also require a ma'am or sir in their answers to their mom or myself,,, and a please and thank you with their requests.

Maybe it's an old fashioned southern thing,,, but I was raised to display manners when ever possible.

 

[Guest]

Gum chewing!

 

[Sammyjo]

oh no, this was at home...udderly disgusting...heehee

 

[CW]

oh no, this was at home...udderly disgusting...heehee

I'm afraid that I'd have to go on a rampage then !!!

 

[Sammyjo]

It makes me ill...I think I've got my daughter trained, but it's disgusting to see/hear grown adults do it...yuck

 

[Latina]

At age 7-8, my son was a loud smacker when he ate, and had atrocious table manners. It was a losing battle to get him to improve. Bing a single working mom, I didn't have the time and energy to do much about it.

Then Frank stepped into the picture, and I finally had an ally. We both worked on improving our son's table manners. With daily reinforcement, he finally got the message. Now, it's funny as hell, he tells Frank, don't put your elbows on the table, be sure to put your plate in the dishwasher when you're done, etc. He's not only learned, but in his smart-alack way, he tries to remind Frank (who needs no such reminders) to do the same.

We've stopped going out to meals with one of Frank's friends, because his table manners are atrocious and undo all that we've acheived with our son. This friend is like a pig slopping at the trough, loud smacks and Mmm-mmm-mm as he gobbles everything down. He's even gone to OTHER tables at a restaurant and eaten other diners's left-overs after they left! Our son asks why he has to have manners when this man doesn't. This friend is otherwise a very good man, but his manners are disgusting. I'm not surprised, though: I've met this friend's mother, and she is as bad or worse!

-- Latina

 

[CW]

It makes me ill...I think I've got my daughter trained, but it's disgusting to see/hear grown adults do it...yuck

Well, Sammyjo, I'm afraid that you will soon see the undoing of your daughter's training if something isn't changed. Children of all ages, once they have been taught apporiate behavior, as a parent defines it, look to other adults for reinforcement or confirmation, that, indeed this is the right way to behave.

I just read Latina's reply as I proofing mine,,, so agreement from two folks anyway.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

Nothing like hearing a horse or cow eating next to you!!!!