Why is it so sexy when someone finds YOU sexy?

taolanes

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Even as a guy, I've always loved feeling sexy. I loved the idea of being naked in front of someone and turning the person on. And I know so many women love dressing up in sexy clothes and being admired. Sometimes it's better than actually seeing someone else naked. Is there any biological reason why this gets me hot, or is it just that people like being admired?
 
i'm not sure what the psychological term would be, but in layman's terms it would be because you are butt fucking ugly and anyone who would even llok your way would get you turned on...
 
Well, it's not nessassarally(bad sp) because one is ugly that they get turned on like that. It could be because you feel successful and that your not use to people looking at you like that. Heh, i love showing my girlfriend my six pack because i know it turns her on and makes her want to take me to the bed room. Everyone loves success, it's just if you arent use to feeling succes then it feels even better.
 
taolanes said:
Even as a guy, I've always loved feeling sexy. I loved the idea of being naked in front of someone and turning the person on. And I know so many women love dressing up in sexy clothes and being admired. Sometimes it's better than actually seeing someone else naked. Is there any biological reason why this gets me hot, or is it just that people like being admired?
I had to confer with my husband on this one. One of the biological factors is the person who's admiring you is emitting pheromones, which you pick up on and respond to. There are plenty of other physiological and psychological reactions/reasons, but the ultimate goal is pair-bonding. So we like the attraction because it could lead to meeting our biological goal of reproduction.
 
Confidence feels good. Even better, it is one of those things that feeds off itself.

I love it when I know someone finds me attractive. I know I ain't no prize-winner, but I am not exactly difficult to look at either. So why not enjoy it when I get the smile back, etc. Especially if I like her too...
 
This is such a good question...

I think that sometimes we all need a little confidence and reassurance as to how we look. So people go so far to look at themselves through other peoples eyes- and so what you or I think is far more important than their own opinion.
 
SweetErika said:
I had to confer with my husband on this one. One of the biological factors is the person who's admiring you is emitting pheromones, which you pick up on and respond to. There are plenty of other physiological and psychological reactions/reasons, but the ultimate goal is pair-bonding. So we like the attraction because it could lead to meeting our biological goal of reproduction.
I agree.

Also... I think that it may be because that nice, little ego boost caused by knowing that someone finds you sexy causes endorphins to be released in the brain... Which can cause a slight euphoric feeling similar to one's state of mind during sex.
 
I read a quote once that went something like this: "what is the difference between a beautiful woman and a charming one? A beautiful woman is one you notice, and a charming one is one that notices you." I guess same thing would go for a guy too... Being noticed, and being perceived as sexy, just is important... Makes me feel more comfortable with myself, and when I do that I can also act more sexy - thus feeling even more sexy... etc.
 
It certainly turns ME on

When a woman finds me attractive or sexy.
Especially if I think she is sexy too.
I think we all need to feel wanted, and if a woman shows interest in me or my body, that's hot!
Conversly, there's nothing worse than unrequited love, or lust.
 
I have a good friend who is not the kind of person who would grace the cover of GQ but he is sexy as hell (not that he would agree) for a number of reasons. The fact that he wants to make me feel good to me is a huge turn on. He makes me feel beautiful, sexy, safe, desired and smart. He is sweet, honest to a fault at times, a good husband and incredible father and the fact that he really likes me for me helps a ton..that to me is sexy, he can't help it ... it's who he is.
 
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i think belegon nailed it. while the neurochemistry is interesting, that describes how, not why, these things happen.

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acceptance

The nature of human beings being such that we are social creatures and yearn for acceptance plays a big part of it. Acceptance comes from approval of our appearance and our actions. Having someone find pleasure in us, whether from our appearance or from who we are satiates this basic need for
acceptance.

This is IMHO of course...
 
Primitive Behaviors

It's actully just basic simple primitive human nature. It's truely amazing how musch of our sexual intrests and actions are as primitive as they were prior to our "higher devolopment" Now we just justify and rationalize it with words. It all comes down to the natural instinct to find a mate, and reproduce.
 
Monkey wrench...

I could be throwing a monkey wrench at you, but are "mate" and "reproducing" the same thing?

I agree with SweetErika's pheromones; I've read that even a sub-conscious note-taking goes on when you "notice" someone's eyes dilate (i.e. they like what they see).

But "finding a mate to reproduce" doesn't exactly cover gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, etc, (unless you're looking at adoption) yet the same thing goes on. Noticing, smiling, admiration, pheromones, etc. Maybe there is more bonding/social contact, too.
 
Because everyone has insecurities and someone thinking you are sexy diminishes these insecurities, therefore making you feel wanted. It's human nature
 
taolanes said:
Even as a guy, I've always loved feeling sexy. I loved the idea of being naked in front of someone and turning the person on. And I know so many women love dressing up in sexy clothes and being admired. Sometimes it's better than actually seeing someone else naked. Is there any biological reason why this gets me hot, or is it just that people like being admired?


It is human nature......wow there is nothing better than just kissing a guy hello and feeling him hard under his pants.......it turns me on immediately. :devil:
 
miss_kate said:
This is such a good question...

I think that sometimes we all need a little confidence and reassurance as to how we look. So people go so far to look at themselves through other peoples eyes- and so what you or I think is far more important than their own opinion.
Sounds like my husband.
 
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