Why is it I always loose?

[wildone16]

Why is that no mater how much I try to love someone and have someone love me I always end up loosing? I had a girl friend that I was in love with, but the high school football hero had her love. I had a wife and I loved her more than life it's self, but that could not keep her with me. I had a lover and I loved her with all my heart and soul and still I could not keep her either I guess I will never have anyone that loves me...

 

[Mischka]

I guess I will never have anyone that loves me...

Maybe you won't. Maybe you will. No one knows these things for sure. But would you exchange the love you've felt for a pain-free and loveless past? Love goes both ways, and you'l need to risk loving again to find someone to return that love. Good luck.

 

[Debbie]

Sorry to hear you feel that way. Don't give up, there is someone for everyone.

 

[wildone16]

Thanks

Thats what I have always told myself anyway. But I do hope...

 

[Laurel]

True Love, like anything worth a damn, doesn't just fall in your lap. It takes Time and Energy and Patience. It takes being Honest with yourself. Most of all, it takes the ability to fail. You have to be able to go out there, date the wrong chick/dude, break up, and go on to the next one - repeat until you make a perfect fit. You probably won't meet Ms. Right the first time, or the second, or the 50th. Love is not for wimps. You have to keep searching and trying and learning, and eventually if you're persistent it WILL happen.

Far too often, people settle for less than they want because it's safe or easy. It's a shame. A lifetime partner is the most important investment you can make, and it's sad when I see people who put more time into choosing a car or a house than they do a mate.

So, dry those tears and get off the bench! Put on your best face. Have FUN. Happy people are much more attractive than sad, depressed ones. Date. Break up. Date again. Learn from every bad relationship, and use every failed attempt to improve yourself and further define what you want in a mate. Take chances. You only get one shot at this life. Make it count.

Go! Fight! Win!
Go! Fight! Win!

 

[Xander]

Wise words from Madam Laurel.

Now I only have to convince myself of the same.

 

[wildone16]

Thanks I am trying

I am trying just dont feel that good about myself right now

 

[nasty]

Why are you always LOOSE? Hell, if you're loose, I'll take ya. Oh, that was a typo. You meant "lose." DAMN IT ALL!!!!!!!!!! Seriously, take Laurel's advice. She ALWAYS gives good advice. Not to mention BJ's, but, that's a whole new thread.

 

[wildone16]

Thanks

Sorry not only do I seem to always lose but I also can't spell...

 

[GuyJD]

Don't feel bad, dude. Just a year ago this month, I had a woman whom I loved deeply. But she was too immature to come out and tell me that she had another guy. Instead, she coaxed a story with her department manager to cause me to lose my job. Later that night, I did something that I never thought of doing in my life. I actually sat down in my living room and began planning how to bring my old police revolver with me when I go back to that job to get my last check. I was planning to shoot myself there on the property. But, fortunately, I came to my senses and realized that it would prove nothing. Only a permanate solution to a temporary problem.

Don't worry about it. Love is like a car. Sometimes you have a good one and sometimes you'll get a lemon. But eventually, you'll get one of your dream that's you'll never lose.

 

[nasty]

Re: Thanks

Sorry not only do I seem to always lose but I also can't spell...

Thta's fine, I'm just messing with ya. I do that.

 

[TexasGentleman]

We have all had bad relationships but you have to bounce back.
I have gotten down before and the people in here have made it better. Listen to their advice we will both find the right person when the time is right. Just have faith.

The Texas Gentleman

 

[Guest]

Listen to Laurel, she rocks.

And, keep your chin up, darlin'. When you're ready, it will happen. Take the time to enjoy YOU.

 

[Angelus]

I think that Laurel summed it up the best really.

All you have to do is look around, there is always someone out there and half the time it is usually the person that you never suspect it to be. I used to be the same as you, thinking that I would never find anyone to love but then out of nowhere I got hit by the love bug. I know this is one of the craziest things to say but you really have to feel good about yourself first before looking for anyone else or they will see what you see within yourself.

Sorry to put it that way, I know that it sounded nasty but that is what happened to me. I kept walking around in the grumpiest mood and then when I came out of it then out of nowhere.... well you get the rest.

So, pick yourself up man. It will happen, trust me on this one. It will happen.

 

[PowerOfOne]

If you think you will lose then you will. Your lover/mate/whatever will only return what is offered. Painful relationships are just stepping stones to the real thing anyway. Try looking at them as journies past and move forward. Best of luck!

 

[wildone16]

thanks to you all

I do feel better and will continue with that feeling.. thanks again..

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

yes i know how you are feeling.i get tired of being used.