Why is it automatically assumed...

[p_p_man]

...that a single parent father can't bring his daughter up as well as a single parent mother?

What's with this oft stated fact that only women can raise children?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

because most girls would rather talk to their mother about certain things.... and besides that, how many fathers have you seen out buying tampons or pads for their teenage daughter?

 

[Weevil]

D.L. Hughley once said in one of stand up bits that "In order to be a man, you have to see a man" I think that applies to Daughters and Mothers too. I just can't think of a good rhyme.

 

[Angel]

because most girls would rather talk to their mother about certain things.... and besides that, how many fathers have you seen out buying tampons or pads for their teenage daughter?

And that means a man can't raise a daughter alone?

 

[Laurel]

I don't know. I've know many incompetent mothers, and many well-adjusted, open-minded fathers. W&U has a point in that it's theoretically easier for a mother to understand and deal with certain female problems. I think the optimum would be for a kid to have someone of the same sex to help provide guidance, but I'd rather be raised by a loving father than an inadequate mother any day.

I was raised in a single parent household, by my father. He was an alcoholic and an abuser. I had a rough time, but not necessarily because he was a man - more because he was evil.

 

[Angel]

I couldn't talk to my mother about any of that shit, nor did she buy me tampons or pads. I've been buying them myself since my first period.
She never had THE SEX TALK with me, she never had the time for girl talk. I don't see how being a woman makes someone a better parent for a girl. I would have been content with either or as long as they were a good PARENT.

 

[Weevil]

I was also raised in a single parent household. I was raised without a Father and, despite the fantastic, awe-inspiring job my mother did in raising me and my Sisters, The one thing I've taken from my childhood in how it relates to parenting is that if I ever have a son, I'd want to be a huge part of his life. Regardless of my relationship with his mother.

Nothing against Single Parenting at all but it is harder. Doubley so if there isn't a strong Adult Role Model of your gender in your family.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Angel... he can, i never said he couldnt... i know if my parents had of been divorced i probably would have killed myself when i was 12 if i were living with my dad... i have always found it easier to approach my mom with different things...

 

[Angel]

I had two shitty parents, so I guess I wouldn't be the best person to comment here

 

[lavender]

 

[Laurel]

Nothing against Single Parenting at all but it is harder. Doubley so if there isn't a strong Adult Role Model of your gender in your family.

Single parenting should never be seen as better thana stable two-parent home. It's near impossible for one person to work 8-10 hours a day and then come home to give a child the attention it needs. Something has to give, and the kid usually ends up losing out.

That's not a slight on single parents. Things happen, and it's better to separate rather than stay in an abusive and/or sour relationship. Kids know when their parents stop loving each other, and it's hard on them to live in that kind of an atmosphere. Still, a loving set of parents is the optimum. And kids do need adult role models of their own sex - be them a parent, or an aunt or uncle, etc.

 

[Problem Child]

So Lavender- just what is it about your pussy that makes it so intelligent?

 

[Weevil]

I was fortunate enough to have been raised with two incredible parents. I think either of them alone could have raised us sufficiently. I think it has nothing to do with gender. It has more to do with patience, love and selflessness.

Sorry, but the first sentence in this post kinda disqualifies you here. I don't want to be rude but it really, really does. I had no Adult males in my life until I was 14 years old and that was really difficult.

You can't really talk to your Mom about masturbation or Sex or Girls or what have you. Gender is a huge thing.

 

[Problem Child]

EBW-

My dad never talked to me about any of that that shit.

Come to think of it, my Dad never talked to me.

 

[lavender]

 

[lavender]

 

[Problem Child]

I just use the closest one.

 

[Weevil]

Single parenting should never be seen as better thana stable two-parent home. It's near impossible for one person to work 8-10 hours a day and then come home to give a child the attention it needs. Something has to give, and the kid usually ends up losing out.

That's not a slight on single parents. Things happen, and it's better to separate rather than stay in an abusive and/or sour relationship. Kids know when their parents stop loving each other, and it's hard on them to live in that kind of an atmosphere. Still, a loving set of parents is the optimum. And kids do need adult role models of their own sex - be them a parent, or an aunt or uncle, etc.

Yizikes. I never wanted to imply that I think my parents would be better off if they stayed together(Although it isn't exactly representative of what happened. They didn't break up, My dad split on us 3 months after I was born.)

Single parenting is better than a bad relationship. Single parenting where both parents are still involved in the upbringing is better still. But either of those compared to a solid, loving two parent home?????

Well, I wouldn't really know. I'd bet its better though.

 

[Weevil]

I'm sorry. I shouldn't have stepped in.

Sorry If I was harsh. I'm just a little touchy about my childhood. Sorry.

Still friends??????

 

[Problem Child]

I get Devo. At least I think I do.

 

[lavender]

 

[Weevil]

Sorry PC

Saying that proves you don't.

Some people, when you mention Devo, say "Oh yeah, they did Whip it, Right?? That was pretty good"

And then there are those of us who have every album(Including the fantastic "Devo's greatest Misses"), think they are the most important band since the Sex Pistols and went to see Tank Girl just for the new version of Girl U Want.

 

[DriveSouth]

I'm living proof that this is not fact -

'nuf said!

 

[Weevil]

But of course, I have thick skin, EBW. I know that I can't speak empathetically on this topic. But it's always a good thing to remember that we don't know much about the past of those who post on the board.

Yeah. I've gone off on a couple of threads where things struck a chord. My rant against Fathers Day and my Pro-Single parent thing to Writer Dom a ways back. Its a sore spot for me.

And you are a neenerhead.

 

[Problem Child]

Re: Sorry PC

Saying that proves you don't.

Some people, when you mention Devo, say "Oh yeah, they did Whip it, Right?? That was pretty good"

And then there are those of us who have every album(Including the fantastic "Devo's greatest Misses"), think they are the most important band since the Sex Pistols and went to see Tank Girl just for the new version of Girl U Want.

EBW- sorry to have to do this to you, but:

http://content.communities.msn.com/isapi/fetch.dll?action=view_photo&ID_Community=problemchildstreehouse&ID_Topic=1&ID_Message=68

(apologies to Purple Haze)