Why I fucking hate women...

[lilminx]

Ok- I go out tonight with one of my freinds ("L") who I don't go out with as much anymore, because she has a supposedly serious boyfriend in Hawaii (the Marines). We decide to meet up for the first time in about a montjh, and her friend "M" is with her- no problem.

Well, I see this guy looking at me and I kind of "cliam" him. Bot M and L acknowledge that I should be talking to him, and tha tif they want to talk to someone, they should look elsewhere.

Well, I'm talking with Mr/ Guy- the one that I liked- and then , God forbid, I had to go to the bathroom. I get back, and L, Miss Committed, is all over him, and her friend, M, tells me that they were sucking face.

Is this not considered a betrayal? I understand that if he wants her, fine- I don't want someone who doesn't want me in return. But I know that she definitely encouraged him, and I also know her well enough to know taht she will blame her "flirtatiousness" on alcohol.

Even M, who is her friend, not mine, said that L didn't make the right decisions tonight. I fucking left the bar, pretty pissed off. Am I being petty?

Please, call it like you see it.

I just feel like I've been getting dumped on so badly lately, and I'm trying to figure out what the fuck I've been doing wrong. I'm not the sort of person who lacks self-esteem (at ;east, I don't think I am0. I 'm usually the one out of my friends who gets what she wants- usually because I go for it...

 

[Caria Knight]

No Lilminix, I don't think your being petty. L, being attached should know better. And if she's going to blame it on booze then she should know by now not to drink so much or at all.

However, M being L's friend and knowing she's attached shouldn't have let her get that far either. I'd say that you were lucky enough to find out that M has a serious character flaw before you got to know him better.

It was a horrible thing for a friend to do to you but I think it's better that you saw M for what he is and left.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

you did exactly like you should have.

I'd like to say i'd do the same in that instants or say i'd go tell my friend off before I life, but i'd most likly sit there watch and be pissed at my freind and myself.

I aplod you girl.

 

[patient1]

Did I just get an insight into the great unexplained Mystery of the
Universe?

Do women go to the lavatory in groups to be sure that they aren't putting the moves on each other's men?


No, you're not wrong if she told you to talk to him, & she'd look elsewhere. I'm of the opinion that drunks do things that they want to., they're just less inhibited & graceful about it than sober people.

 

[Wiggles]

I would watch your back with your friend L. Sometimes friends like to see if they can steal your men. It's more of a competition thing I think.

Or you can look at as, your friend saved you from dating an easy loser.

That sucks though Minx.

Hopefully next time you'll find someone worth your time, and they won't start looking again as soon as you leave the room.

 

[JazzManJim]

lilminx....I don't think you were off base (though, in the interest of fairness and the inevitable shitstorm which could occur, I don't believe that you were talking about all women <wink>). Folks can be damned duplicitous at times and her likely defense would be "I didn't know you had a claim on that man!". It's bush-league, but it gets used a lot.

<gently puts her fingers on the right keys this time>

 

[lilminx]

Thanks, all- you have seriously all made me feel beter about this situation. Yes, I nkwo she took this loser off of my hands, but I wanted to be able to make that choice myself.

I'm almost tempted to e-mail her boyfriend, but I can't be that petty. Let her dig her own grave with him. She shouldn't be in a commitment with him if she can't handle it (By the way, she was going to ask him a few short motnhs ago to marry her, but she decided against it).

She has beed reconsidering her whole relationship with him, which is fine, but if she sees that I'm interested in someone, she really should back off. She even agreed in the beginning of the night that I had "first dibs" on him.

She also knows what a crappy time I've had of it in terms of men- the day before Valentine's Day, I found out that the guy I had been dating had a girlfriend. I mean, puhleeeze.... cut me some slack here, and give me the opportunity to find someone I might possibly like- or at least want to fuck! Could it be a matter of jealousy here? Usually if I see a guy I like, I will go up to him and talk to him, and she would never. She waited until I broke the ice with this guy, went to the bathroom, and then ddecided to talk to him...

And you're right, JMJ- I was generalizing. But in a lot of ways, women are such catty fucking bitches- even the ones who pretend to be your friends. I think thats' why I get along with men so much better. At least I can understand their motives, and they're way more up front about them.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

What? No sweetie You have every right to react the way you did.

Hmmmmm?? Miss committed eh? I'm not sure about how others are, but My boys and are don't do those kinds of things. We socialize and harmless flirt, but not to the point where lines are crossed. I'm sorry to hear about this babe.


{{{ HUGS }}} and Comforting 's.



kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

 

[JazzManJim]

And you're right, JMJ- I was generalizing. But in a lot of ways, women are such catty fucking bitches- even the ones who pretend to be your friends. I think thats' why I get along with men so much better. At least I can understand their motives, and they're way more up front about them.

Weeeeeeelllll, I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you. I"m just saying that of late, sweeping generalizations with strongly disparaging terms might get you lynched. They may not, but I feel the warning's appropriate.

Come on over...I have chocolate and handcuffs. One or the other has to be able to make you feel better.

 

[lilminx]

Weeeeeeelllll, I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you. I"m just saying that of late, sweeping generalizations with strongly disparaging terms might get you lynched. They may not, but I feel the warning's appropriate.

Come on over...I have chocolate and handcuffs. One or the other has to be able to make you feel better.

You know what? Fucking lynch me! Thanks for the warning, but I'm tired of having to tiptoe around people because I feel like they may get offended. If you're offended by my post, fucking deal with it! I am so fed up with people right now that I have no tolerance for being nice. Sorry , JMJ, but that's my mood right now.


by the way, I've had way too mcuch chocolate latlel. I need some handcuffs, and I need a good fucking spanking to show me how naughty I've been in terms of eating all of that chocolate!

 

[JazzManJim]

You know what? Fucking lynch me! Thanks for the warning, but I'm tired of having to tiptoe around people because I feel like they may get offended. If you're offended by my post, fucking deal with it! I am so fed up with people right now that I have no tolerance for being nice. Sorry , JMJ, but that's my mood right now.


by the way, I've had way too mcuch chocolate latlel. I need some handcuffs, and I need a good fucking spanking to show me how naughty I've been in terms of eating all of that chocolate!

Heh. That's what I thought you'd say. It doesn't bother me...I know the score, but I just kind of felt like making a point that may or may not be gotten.

Now get your ass over here and take that spanking like the bad little chocoholic you are!

 

[Cheyenne]

Did I just get an insight into the great unexplained Mystery of the
Universe?

Do women go to the lavatory in groups to be sure that they aren't putting the moves on each other's men?

Who told?

 

[LukkyKnight]

Who told?

Well, lilminx told, obviously, Cheyenne. If you're going to drum her out of the sorority, or discommodate her, or whatever you call it, when you get to ripping the brass buttons off can I help?

Here's the thing. If the guy's gonna suck face he's gonna suck face, but nobody can excuse their actions by drinking too much - that explains it, but you're still responsible for what you do (sorry, officer, I didn't know I was speeding, weaving, and running red lights, see...um... well, I've had too much to drink and all...)

Are you being petty? Dunno. Are you feeling let down by this former alleged friend? In a word, yes. How you deal with that is your chance to set yourself on a different plane from her.

 

[lilminx]

Cheyenne, please don't get kick me out of the club for giving away the secret!

LukkyKnight- you're 100% correct. She is responsible for her actions lastnight- in retrosepct, I realize that L was deliberately doing things to get closer to this guy. Today she's either not going to contact me and pretend like nothing happened, or she's going to use the drinking as an excuse. I don't think that either one is acceptable, and this isn't the first time she's fucked me over as a friend.

I think that if I was at a different point in my life, this would be very petty of me. However, she knows all of the shit I have been going through lately, and she just decided to add to it. I think it's fair of me to be more than a little disappointed in her and her actions... I just don't know what I'm going to do about it. Ithink I'm at a point with her where I'd rather not have her as a friend, than have to deal with problems almost every time we go out and she gets drunk.

 

[Andreina]

you go girl! she had no right to make a move on him and if she was a real friend she wouldn't have done.

Halo

p.s.: i gotta go to the loo. are you going to come too?

 

[SweetBrat73]

L isn't much of a friend now is she??? I don't think I'd be hanging out with a two faced bitch like that. There are plenty of women who would be friends with someone and not try to pick-up a guy they knew you were interested in.

Drinking is not an excuse. I've been drunk before...but still know right from wrong and I don't see how somebody else couldn't. Like patient1 said...I'm of the opinion that drunks do things that they want to., they're just less inhibited & graceful about it than sober people. Well I don't think I'd add graceful in there, but they are less inhibited.

I hope ya tell her she can stick her so called friendship up her ass and go fuck herself with it. Then have nothing more to do with her.

Good luck to ya hon!!!


Brat

 

[riff]

Here in the blighted area. we call that "cock-blocking."

I don't know what girls call it.

The last time I got cock-blocked was by one of my best friends, Mardi Gras 1998. Fucking bastard. Next day at the gym, we we talking about the previous day's events and I said something like "yeah [yada yada yada], and meanwhile, your sorry ass is cock-blocking me....."

He became very apologetic. "Oh no! I swear, riff, I was not doing that... you got me wrong [yada yada yada].

I just grinned.

Within 10 days he was goin' off about what a whore she was. He had cock-blocked me. Fucker went out with her one night. Then a week later, asked her out again. She said she couldn't go out because she was not feeling well. He goes to a restaurant/club and sees her with another total dickhead.

Do you know the story about the bird that flew south for winter to late? His wings froze up. Thought he was gonna die. Took the plunge and fell straight into a pile of fresh warm cowshit on some farm in godsfuck freezeyourdickoff Michigan. Revived by the warm of the cow's crap, the little fucker begins to sing. "Poo-tweet, poo-tweet...." Fuckin' cat heard him, went over there, and ate his stupid ass up.

Moral- Falling into shit is not necessarily a bad thing.
Moral- People who get you out of shit are not necessarily friends.
Moral- Don't wait so fucking long to fly south. Go to the potty early.

Yeah, life's a bitch.

What do women call cock-blocking when they do it to themselves? Yall ain't got 'em, last time I checked.

(oh wait, this is an internet bulletin board. One never knows, do they?)

I know how you feel.

riffer

 

[MysticSwing]

I know EXACTLY what you went through. I had a friend who did the same thing to me (on more than one occasion.) She was supposably my BEST friend of 15+ years!! We'd go out, I'd eyeball someone and next thing you knew, she was hitting on the guy!! She acted slutty, and men in bars typically go for the "sure sex slut", and knowing this, I usually backed off and let her go for it. Until this one time we met this guy who was pretty hot, he couldn't stay long so not much happened the first night. I went to the bar the next night by myself and he was there. I made my move. Him and I ended up dating for about a year and I found out that the whole time behind my back my "so called" bestfriend was writing him notes and trying to get him to sleep with her the entire year him and I dated! Him and I broke up but remained friends, he finally told me about the notes and said he didn't tell me sooner because he didn't wanna ruin her and my friendship (YEAH RIGHT! You know he was getting some cheap thrill out of the fact that his girlfriends bestfriend wanted him too! LOL!!) When I questioned her about it she said she was only trying to get him to sleep with her so she could show me what a creep he was and that I was too good for him. LMAO! WHATEVER!! Needless to say, I now know that I was too good for HER! (I think her and I have spoken once or twice on the phone since then in the past 10 years.)

"L" is NOT your friend. And maybe her hitting on the man you were interested in, helped you see what a loser bother she and the guy were. (BTW, I HATE when people try to use alcohol as an excuse! If you can't handle the booze baby, stay away from it!! )
Good luck to ya!!

~~Mystic

 

[erosman]

I fucking hate everyone...

that doesn't do what I want...when I want...how I want.


Fortunately, I'm learning to give them the right to make their own choices, and differentiate between the doer and and the deed.

And keep hoping that they respect my freedom as well. Choices are the spice of life. They help us to distinguish one person from another. Otherwise, we'd all look the fucking same.

 

[Mensa]

Those toys are for everyone

lilminx: Does not share well with others.

 

[riff]

I'm tired of having to tiptoe around people because I feel like they may get offended. If you're offended by my post, fucking deal with it! I am so fed up with people right now that I have no tolerance for being nice.

Yeah baby..... I KNOW... I KNOW.....

People suck.

IDIOTS RULE. (sad to say how fucking true that is).