Why do you write erotica?

[bashfullyshameless]

"I wrote my first novel because I wanted to read it." --Toni Morrison

I write stories (erotic and otherwise) because I want to read them. That's the straight, simple answer. I want other people to read them and enjoy them (and, yes, to tell me so), but mostly I just have stories in my head that aren't out there yet because I haven't seen anyone else do them, which means I've gotta do it myself.

As for erotica in particular: I like dirty stories. I have sexy/naughty fantasies. I want to read the kind of fantasies that I have in my head. So there's that. But I haven't found the sort of fantasies that I entertain when I'm alone. I find erotica that is close, but there's always something that doesn't satisfy me: the sex is laden with guilt or fear or pain, or one characters is someone I'd really rather see punched in the face than getting laid, or I'm left with unanswered questions.

If I write my own stories, then they can include likable characters. The story can have lots of humor and explosions and face-punchings. It can have a feel-good resolution. And then, if I do it well, complete strangers on the internet will tell me I'm clever, and that's awfully nice, too.

 

[RjThoughts]

Why do I write erotica?

A good question, indeed. I write erotica, because I have a story/stories to tell, to share with others. I come from two families in which there was a member who told stories, whether it was family stories or legends from the "old Country" or legends of the tribe.

I write "naughty stories" to entice, excite my wife, her friends, my friends online, especially her on Literotica.

 

[TinyBeth]

I think it's cool that he not only appreciates your writing, but takes an active role as your editor. Lucky you!

I'm incredibly lucky and I realize that every day...even when he annoys the crap out of me. =)

 

[TinyBeth]

I agree with a lot of this. True BDSM followers get very upset when you equate mental illness/emotional issues with BDSM.

I agree in some cases, but the lifestyle as you stated is a magnet for abusive people-and abusive women as well. My first Mistress when I was 17 was nothing short of sadistic and cruel which I see now looking back.

Sadly abuse does lead to bdsm on occasions. Think of it, what is a common trait in abused children? they still try to please the abuser. They blame themselves for the problem and try to love the person who hurts them.

Nothing like a D/S relationship huh?

And pain sluts and women who have been abused are moving targets in the community. If they meet a decent master they will be okay, but a poser like "Gray" would be the end of them.

I had a childhood that would make his seem tame and I have NEVER put my hand on a woman with ill intent. Even as a Dom there are things I refrain from like slapping, choking any kind of actual assault.

I have noticed as well the Doms seem more safe/sane/consensual over there. I have also noticed female posters that make me afraid for them.

They are the women Shades has a bad effect on, it tells them "hey yes this is okay."

This becomes a case of for the average person the book is laughable as you put it. But for people with long standing issues its nothing short of bad news.

It disturbs me it is glorified as it is.

It's truly sad that characters like the ones in Shades are the public perception of BDSM, but just reading through some of the stories on this site I think misunderstanding and celebration of abuse has been a problem much longer than Shades. I would say at least 50% of the the BDSM category is written by people with no real knowledge who emphasize the more abusive elements. Only a handful show the loving side at all. Shades DID make that perception mainstream though and that is where the problem lies.

 

[MSTarot]

Wow. It sounds as if we come from the same family although I'm quite sure you are not my brother.

I don't know. MsQuote...M.S.Tarot there is a bit of family resemblance there. Chuckle.

The M.S. stands for Murighein Sebastion. that's the name I chose when I joined the SCA. You chose a time in history you would have liked to have lived through and a name for the person you would have been.

So greetings my distant cousin from the Irish pirate M.S.Tarot

 

[lovecraft68]

It's truly sad that characters like the ones in Shades are the public perception of BDSM, but just reading through some of the stories on this site I think misunderstanding and celebration of abuse has been a problem much longer than Shades. I would say at least 50% of the the BDSM category is written by people with no real knowledge who emphasize the more abusive elements. Only a handful show the loving side at all. Shades DID make that perception mainstream though and that is where the problem lies.

Well said.

There is a lot of "wrong" stuff here on this site. But difference is millions of people are not reading here and no one is putting anything here on Good Morning America.

To me, if an older married woman is reading this it is what it is. She's in a relationship or if not is old enough to :"know better" or has no desire to really experiment, the story to her is fantasy.

But for some younger women who are more impressionable and wants to experiment, the book is dangerous.

I would like to see someone tie James up with zip ties and see how she feels about having permanent scarring around her wrists for the rest of her life.

What upsets me most is her claiming she did research.

The only research she did was to read twilight over and over with her fingers between her legs, because all she did was replicate that series

in fact in her "master of the universe" fanfic that eventually turned into shades Gray and Ana were named after Bella and Edward.

I read somewhere she has paid Meyers some money. Don;t hold me to that though.

In reality Meyers should have sued the living shit out of this hack and done the women's rights movement a favor.

 

[TinyBeth]

Well said.

There is a lot of "wrong" stuff here on this site. But difference is millions of people are not reading here and no one is putting anything here on Good Morning America.

To me, if an older married woman is reading this it is what it is. She's in a relationship or if not is old enough to :"know better" or has no desire to really experiment, the story to her is fantasy.

But for some younger women who are more impressionable and wants to experiment, the book is dangerous.

I would like to see someone tie James up with zip ties and see how she feels about having permanent scarring around her wrists for the rest of her life.

What upsets me most is her claiming she did research.

The only research she did was to read twilight over and over with her fingers between her legs, because all she did was replicate that series

in fact in her "master of the universe" fanfic that eventually turned into shades Gray and Ana were named after Bella and Edward.

I read somewhere she has paid Meyers some money. Don;t hold me to that though.

In reality Meyers should have sued the living shit out of this hack and done the women's rights movement a favor.

Research? Yeah right.
Admittedly I have met some pretty messed up Doms that overstepped and acted like macho assholes to cover it up, but nothing like the jerk in that book.
And why am I not at all surprised she started off writing Twilight fanfic?

 

[Ysoi]

Why do I write erotica?

Because... I enjoy writing it, and enjoy reading it, but also partly because it seems a bit shameful to me that it is acceptable to write about people being tortured / killed, but not about them having sex even if it is with people whom they love. Home come it is fine to go into a cinema and watch people being graphically mutilated, but not to watch them having graphic sex?

Probably another part of the attraction of writing erotica for me is that I can write about people who love each other so intensely that they would ignore exactly those sort of norms. The son who loves his mother, a homosexual man/woman in a society where homosexuality is a capital offence - those sort of love vs society conflicts. Doesn't it say something about the strength of someone's feelings if they'll ignore all the other fish in the sea and aim for the one person they're forbidden to desire?

I have a project that I've been working on for 5 years now that I've made good progress on - but at the same time (due to my inability to reduce the plot even further) - I doubt that I'll finish it within my lifetime. Sometimes I've considered dropping sex from it partly to see if that helps and partly so that I can talk about it more freely, but then I feel a little bit dirty that I too would be giving in to what I consider to be a twisted social norm. :|

Ysoi

 

[eric60red]

Because:-

1. I enjoy becoming aroused as I write.

2. I like my readers to live the part, and I hope my words make them cum.

3.I try to be orginal, but thats diffult because somebody else will have written your theme all ready, just look at the amount of stories on here.

4. I have submitted any to Lit yet but I am working on it.

5. So can anybody come up with a new way of having sex?

 

[Ysoi]

5. So can anybody come up with a new way of having sex?

I once wrote a scene where two energy-based aliens were making love by devouring the memories / information that each offered the other - the end-result was somewhere between sex and cannibalism, and made me feel queasy whenever I read it.

Ysoi

 

[handysr]

I just posted an essay on Why I Write Erotica. I'm curious to know why others write.

There is another thead with almost the exact same question.
Why do you write? - http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=819712

Not doggin on you MsQuote, just wanted to put that out there for everyone to see another listing of the reasons people have.

I've only got one story posted, but I have a few dozen stories that are in the works. I just can't get to the stage where they are ready to submit for others to enjoy. The reason I write is that I have many thoughts about the "what if 'x' happened" and I make some scenes to support that thing happening. The thoughts just stay with me and yell at me until I commit them to writing. Making the thoughts live, even as an electronic document, makes the voices go away.

 

[AtlantaGirl487]

I Write Because..........

That's easy. When I began, it was mostly to relay to my husband what I was feeling, both from him, and other guys that I had in the past. Then, as I was writing, it forced me to go back and re-live feelings that I had actually forgotten. That may sound stupid but it really did. Also, since some of the sexual experiences were 15 years ago, I'm amazed at how differently I look at them now as opposed to the naive little coed that I was.