Why do you ask for a pic?

[A Desert Rose]

I've never asked anyone to send me a picture.

 

[nomoresnow]

For me, it is not a judgement issue, I just like having a face to the words.

But I have to agree, the people who ask for pictures straight away? Put a little effort in, or at least pretend to.

 

[FurryFury]

For me, it is not a judgement issue, I just like having a face to the words.

But I have to agree, the people who ask for pictures straight away? Put a little effort in, or at least pretend to.

LOL!

But pretending to takes time and effort.

I've been known to send pictures and to not send pictures. It's safe to say, I had to feel like I knew and cared about the person a bit in order to send one though.

Fury

 

[BiBunny]

Y'know something that's almost equally annoying? People who insist on sending you pics even if you don't want the damn things. I had some random guy start talking to me on Yahoo the other night. I don't normally even bother replying, but I was bored, so I did. Anyway, to make a long story short, he sent me a pic even after I told him several times that it wasn't necessary. I personally thought that was a big "Not Interested!" but apparently not. Once I got it, I couldn't help but open it, and I was not impressed. (Like I said, I wasn't even interested in the first place.) He kept on and on and on about how he wanted to meet me and "cuddle" (of all things). I told him that I don't like cuddling--which is the truth, usually--and directed him to a pic of me with my collar prominently displayed. I finally said, "See the collar? I'm not interested at all, and I'm sure my Master wouldn't like your insisting on me coming over, either!"

Not that that made him stop or anything. I finally ignored him when he said something like, "Well, if you two don't live together, he'll never know if you come over." I said, "Yeah, but I'll know," and blocked the idiot. It was probably my own fault for trying to be nice in the first place just because I didn't have anything better to do. The moral of the story: Not everyone female on the internet gives a shit about you. And we don't all like cuddling.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Y'know something that's almost equally annoying? People who insist on sending you pics even if you don't want the damn things. I had some random guy start talking to me on Yahoo the other night. I don't normally even bother replying, but I was bored, so I did. Anyway, to make a long story short, he sent me a pic even after I told him several times that it wasn't necessary. I personally thought that was a big "Not Interested!" but apparently not. Once I got it, I couldn't help but open it, and I was not impressed. (Like I said, I wasn't even interested in the first place.) He kept on and on and on about how he wanted to meet me and "cuddle" (of all things). I told him that I don't like cuddling--which is the truth, usually--and directed him to a pic of me with my collar prominently displayed. I finally said, "See the collar? I'm not interested at all, and I'm sure my Master wouldn't like your insisting on me coming over, either!"

Not that that made him stop or anything. I finally ignored him when he said something like, "Well, if you two don't live together, he'll never know if you come over." I said, "Yeah, but I'll know," and blocked the idiot. It was probably my own fault for trying to be nice in the first place just because I didn't have anything better to do. The moral of the story: Not everyone female on the internet gives a shit about you. And we don't all like cuddling.

LOL, well see this is why I think a lot of the guys get the impresion they can push and get what they want.....if you talk to them because you are bored, it is the first sign you are possibly available or at least interested in seeing what they have to offer and able to be persuaded. I know it doesn't seem fun, and maybe a little old fashioned, but if you are in a committed relationship and collared why talk to single men who are obviously looking for more than polite conversation and why feel you have to take a look at their pic when they send it if not remotely interested?

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

LOL!

Guys love to send pictures . . . of their cocks. It's almost as if they think their cock looks extra impressively special?

*falls on floor laughing*

Maybe if you are only looking down at it, this works, for them?

Lalala, did I just say that in public?

Fury

( Shank this does NOT apply to you! *smiles*)

 

[cati]

I couldn't resist posting to this thread.
It's funny isn't it, that it's mostly men who ask for pics right off the bat and in my experience the ones who offer to send theirs within the first five minutes of meeting online.
From my own experience it's kinda ....look at me, don't you think I'm handsome and wouldn't you just love to continue chatting, meet me etc etc. I hate when they ask for a pic right away espacially when I know our chat is going to be short lived. For me it doesn't matter what the person "looks like" but how he comes across mentally and verbally. If I've had a lengthy "couple months" online thing going with a certain individual then we might exchange pics with a possibility of meeting in the near future. I've come to the conclusion that most people are average looking...with a few incredible exceptions.

 

[angel_girl]

LOL!

Guys love to send pictures . . . of their cocks. It's almost as if they think their cock looks extra impressively special?

*falls on floor laughing*

Maybe if you are only looking down at it, this works, for them?

Lalala, did I just say that in public?

Fury

( Shank this does NOT apply to you! *smiles*)

Yeah...what is that about? There should be some blanket memo that goes out to all men saying : Women know that men have cocks and they're all aware that you believe yours to be the best looking one out there but keep it to yourself until you're asked for it.

It's just such a predatory thing to do...but then...I guess not everyone on a porn board is as sweet and naive as me.

 

[SpectreT]

<snip>
LMAO! That is so very true! I've even had a "14 year old girl" contact me and whine about how no one will talk to her about sex n stuff because she is honest about her age. Riiiiight.

I think the reason the assclown (love that term btw, though I'm way into asssex) to decent guy ratio appears smaller is because of being somewhat disconnected from societal norms on the web. Even without the supposed anonymity, I noticed when one of our buds set up a group for our gamer friends to use, they got viscous in ways they never would have face to face. It was really unpleasant and revealing IMO.

Fury

Well, I can't take credit for "assclown". That was a patented insult belonging to the WWE wrestler known as Chris Jericho. I feel safe ripping it off because he's retired from wrestling for the forseeable future. The guy's got a lot on his plate; VH1 appearances, touring and recording with his band Fozzy, that sort of thing. (no, I'm not a fan of his at all, I can't imagine what would make you think that... )

As to the internet, at least online fora such as this, I find it provides me with the opportunity to be more erudite and loquacious than I am face to face. I'm just more comfortable with written communication than spoken, generally speaking, and feel more able to get away with flexing my vocabulary. In other words, it's been a somewhat liberating tool, in a positive way. It can be unsettling to discover what some people have kicking around on the inside, though...

 

[A Desert Rose]

Why send a pic when it's already your (or my) AV... right, Spectre? ;-)

 

[SpectreT]

Why send a pic when it's already your (or my) AV... right, Spectre? ;-)

Correctamundo!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Correctamundo!

We're both just too sexy for our shirts, eh? ;-)

And mine's in my profile too. No one need ask me for one.

 

[saw_man1]

Me Too

We're both just too sexy for our shirts, eh? ;-)

And mine's in my profile too. No one need ask me for one.

That makes three of us. Although with my coat pulled up like that you can't see my studly chin.

 

[SirFace]

Being an budding exhibitionist, I find it difficult not to send pics off but I would never to someone I didnt have some time with, OL or RL.

I never ask for one because how would you ever know its really their picture? I could be a 12 year old girl or an old man. Wait, I am an old man, DOH.

I did send my av one to a woman who I apparently took to her senior prom (I was in college) and see had been emailing me lately to see if I remembered (of course not, it was eons ago). She got all taken aback and started preaching the bible to me and how could I appear naked in public etc etc and I havent heard from her since, thank god.

 

[BiBunny]

LOL, well see this is why I think a lot of the guys get the impresion they can push and get what they want.....if you talk to them because you are bored, it is the first sign you are possibly available or at least interested in seeing what they have to offer and able to be persuaded. I know it doesn't seem fun, and maybe a little old fashioned, but if you are in a committed relationship and collared why talk to single men who are obviously looking for more than polite conversation and why feel you have to take a look at their pic when they send it if not remotely interested?

Catalina

Hehe, yeah, I know. You'd think I'd know better by now, wouldn't you? Like I said, it was my own fault for apparently encouraging the guy, even though I wasn't really trying to. And I looked at the pic only because curiosity got the better of me. My curiosity gets me into trouble a lot, unfortunately.

 

[FurryFury]

Hey, when I get bored I'm liable to do a LOT of things. Talking online used to be one of them, for sure. LOL. After a while there was a certain disappointing sameness to the folks I chatted with. Or in other words, the assclown/heartbreaks added up and I quit!

Yeah...what is that about? There should be some blanket memo that goes out to all men saying : Women know that men have cocks and they're all aware that you believe yours to be the best looking one out there but keep it to yourself until you're asked for it.

It's just such a predatory thing to do...but then...I guess not everyone on a porn board is as sweet and naive as me.

Indeed, well I don't know about predatory. I think they are just dreamers really.

I can just see what they hope in my minds eye.

They send a picture and hope for the following.

The woman creams and begs to meet them, fuck them or at least live cam cyber with them.

"Oh my God! Your dick just "speaks" to me! I have to have it, er, I mean YOU! I will be your cock slave forever!"

Well, I can't take credit for "assclown". That was a patented insult belonging to the WWE wrestler known as Chris Jericho. I feel safe ripping it off because he's retired from wrestling for the forseeable future. The guy's got a lot on his plate; VH1 appearances, touring and recording with his band Fozzy, that sort of thing. (no, I'm not a fan of his at all, I can't imagine what would make you think that... )

As to the internet, at least online fora such as this, I find it provides me with the opportunity to be more erudite and loquacious than I am face to face. I'm just more comfortable with written communication than spoken, generally speaking, and feel more able to get away with flexing my vocabulary. In other words, it's been a somewhat liberating tool, in a positive way. It can be unsettling to discover what some people have kicking around on the inside, though...

*purrs*

I love it when you get all erudite and loquacious!

*purrs*

Your "inner Internet dude" sure does impress me!

Fury

 

[Kailey_86]

LOL, well see this is why I think a lot of the guys get the impresion they can push and get what they want.....if you talk to them because you are bored, it is the first sign you are possibly available or at least interested in seeing what they have to offer and able to be persuaded.

i tell guys that i am involved right off the bat so that they know i am not available if that's what they were looking for. i like meeting new people so i am open to chatting but nothing more. They usually say "ok, no problem" but then 5 minutes later some ask what i'm wearing or if i want to see a picture of them maturbating. They just don't get it. That's when i roll my eyes and wish i could slap them upside the head. "Hello!? What did i just say!?"

 

[CutieMouse]

i tell guys that i am involved right off the bat so that they know i am not available if that's what they were looking for. i like meeting new people so i am open to chatting but nothing more. They usually say "ok, no problem" but then 5 minutes later some ask what i'm wearing or if i want to see a picture of them maturbating. They just don't get it. That's when i roll my eyes and wish i could slap them upside the head. "Hello!? What did i just say!?"

You simply need to increase your Ice Princess skills. Saying you are unavilable may be viewed as a "challenge". Holding the entire concept of "cyber sex" in great disdain, tends to cut down on the BS; using grace and style, to kneecap men who don't respect such boundaries, is a good skill to develop.

 

[Tuomas]

Why do you...particularly men..ask for a pic right off the bat in an online conversation?

Is it because you want to know if the person is hot enough for you to have sex with?
Is it that you just want to know if you would be physically attracted to the person in general?
Is it because you want to make sure that the person you are talking to is who they say they are?
Is it because you just want to have a face to go along with the words?
Something else?
What is it?

I'm just curious.

I don't ask for a pic when chatting, especially not at the outset. However, I have not IM'ed with anyone from Lit, so .. I do recall a couple of girls (?) demanding I send them my picture, however...

In response to your more general question, I would hazard, "Depends on the guy". There will be no one category in which all men fit.

 

[Kailey_86]

I don't ask for a pic when chatting, especially not at the outset. However, I have not IM'ed with anyone from Lit, so .. I do recall a couple of girls (?) demanding I send them my picture, however...

In response to your more general question, I would hazard, "Depends on the guy". There will be no one category in which all men fit.

i definately wouldn't fit all men into one category. Like everyone has said, there are some gems. It just takes a some sifting.

 

[Tuomas]

It's been a long time since anyone's asked me for my pic -- then again, I very rarely actually chat with people from here.

What I do remember, though, was discovering years ago how to make men from AIM chat rooms go away. I'd be perfectly honest with them when they asked what I looked like.

I don't know why 5'5", 175 lbs and brown hair made them stop talking to me entirely... d'you think it could have been that I wasn't tall,blonde, and anorexic?

Naaaaaw... men would never be so shallow... I'm sure of it!


(It worked. Repeatedly. )

Oooo! Sexy! Can I have your pic to drool over?

 

[Tuomas]

i definately wouldn't fit all men into one category. Like everyone has said, there are some gems. It just takes a some sifting.

Oh, yes; I very much agree. It's just that I hate sifting . Sifting is a boring and very repetive exercise -although I hear it's great for building pecs. Not that I would be interested ... I mean, the whole point of going out with someone that has breasts is that you don't have to have a pair of your own. Although, given my current status, maybe having breasts would be useful... I could make all kinds of new "friends"

Anyway, the rule of thumb on pictures is this: Don't ask. Why? Because if she's cute, she will know it and will send you a pic just to show off (as she has to fill the void where normally a brain is lodged -and it's important to note that the mere possesion of one of these rare artifacts is not sufficient for merit, but you actually have to know how to use it). If she's not cute, she won't send you a picture, which means you are better off just imagining her face in the first place. /machistic mode

Wait! I'm latino, so I can get away with being macho... ...err, machistic? misogyny? But I can't conjugate that word.. Why can't English be as organized as Spanish?

 

[FurryFury]

I don't ask for a pic when chatting, especially not at the outset. However, I have not IM'ed with anyone from Lit, so .. I do recall a couple of girls (?) demanding I send them my picture, however...

In response to your more general question, I would hazard, "Depends on the guy". There will be no one category in which all men fit.

Category: Obsessed with own cock.

*snickers*

Just saying . . .

Fury

 

[Tuomas]

Category: Obsessed with own cock.

Well, yes. If I can't get someone else to....

What is the saying, "If you want something done right, do it yourself?"

 

[FurryFury]

Well, yes. If I can't get someone else to....

What is the saying, "If you want something done right, do it yourself?"

Hey!

You sound CUTE and Latin.

*winks and checks profile for pic*

Fury