Why do nice guys finish last?

[Felix55]

I am currently attedning college in the philly area and have found that being a nice guy just doesn't work. I have some experience but are looking for more. I like people to get to know me before they judge me. I hope to hear from some women especially the in the philly area.
I would really like to know why nice guys finish last.

 

[Kat-44]

Felix, nice guys don't finish last with me, however I am way too old for you and I am married, what a shame. My advice is just be you, eventually the right women will see and appreciate you.
Unfortunately we do tend to have to be with a jerk or two first to realize how great the nice guys are..

 

[moonstruck3774]

Ditto, Felix. Don't try and be who you are not. I am near Cincy and old enough to be your Mom but I'll tell you that nice guys are hard to find. you just haven't found the right woman yet.

 

[ub6ibfine]

nice guys finish last cause they always make sure there women cum...

 

[English Lady]

take heart i think we all like nice guys! I married a lovely nice guy! the thing is bad boys tend to have the gift of the gab and we women are prone to falling for a man who is charming and smooth. however in the end we realise real depth is needed in a man....so keep being nice and you'll find a woman who appreiciates you for it soon I am sure!

 

[ub6ibfine]

yea tha nice guys get tha girls after half tha bad ones have done gotten it

 

[ridddder]

Agreed

38/m nice guy here, and yeah we get fucked over more than those who don't take shit because nice guys tend to stay with bitches for some unknown reason. I hate being a nice guy, but I can only be me, so I wait for a nice girl......yeah right like that is gonna happen....well build up some confidence, slap around a few ideas, and do some shit you would never do otherwise. I have been trying with good results, seems as females say they don't want that shit, but always go for it everytime. Don't listen to the married people either, they aren't on the battlefield of the singles game. That reality is so fucked, you wouldn't believe it if I told you.

Seen shallow hal? well alot of women are just as bad....oh really? yes oh really.....go figure....

 

[HomerPindar]

I am currently attedning college in the philly area and have found that being a nice guy just doesn't work. I have some experience but are looking for more. I like people to get to know me before they judge me. I hope to hear from some women especially the in the philly area.
I would really like to know why nice guys finish last.

Well Felix, I think I can relate on more than one level, as I also live in Philly, and attend school here... One thing I can assure you of, Philly attitude doesn't help the nice guys any

But, a friend did sum up the reasoning nicely for me: "Nice guys don't get any because they don't ask."

Don't give up being a nice guy... but don't be afraid to ask for what you want either.

HomerPindar

 

[happychal]

Nice guys are to honest

I know what you mean, a lot of girls just love these bad boys that treat them like dirt. They seem to think that guys that treat them like that are "real men".

I had a friend that always treated his girlfriend like shit. They were together for about two years. It ended after he fell in love with her and started to treat her nice. She dropped him like a used piece of toilet paper.

 

[lilblonde]

Don't give up on being nice Felix. There's a wonderful lady out there waiting to find you and appreciate you for all your great qualities. Sometimes they have to wade through a lot of toads before they find their prince, but she will find you. Just remember one of the most important qualities in being a nice guy is being honest. Without honesty it doesn't matter how nice you are, how great you look or how awesome you are in the sack.



lilblonde

 

[Guest]

Don't get discouraged, dude. Being nice is a great quality, and you will eventually find a nice girl that suits you. My guess, you are probably just looking in the wrong places

 

[CatEyes]

Re: Agreed

38/m nice guy here, and yeah we get fucked over more than those who don't take shit because nice guys tend to stay with bitches for some unknown reason. I hate being a nice guy, but I can only be me, so I wait for a nice girl......yeah right like that is gonna happen....well build up some confidence, slap around a few ideas, and do some shit you would never do otherwise. I have been trying with good results, seems as females say they don't want that shit, but always go for it everytime. Don't listen to the married people either, they aren't on the battlefield of the singles game. That reality is so fucked, you wouldn't believe it if I told you.

Seen shallow hal? well alot of women are just as bad....oh really? yes oh really.....go figure....

Ouch! A lot of anger here ridddder.

I don't agree that women like to be treated badly. They do like when men are hard to get though and when they're not sure of where they stand. It gets all your emotions going like you're on a rollercoaster. I guess nice guys are just too open. Also some nice guys are just too nice. But as some people mentioned before this does change with age and maturity.

CatEyes

 

[phoriner]

Nice Guys

As I would say during my dys as a stand-up comic..."Hi, I'm a nice guy...you women know what that is...a nice guy is the guy you use to get a "real" man (aka the bad boy type)...

 

[froggy_day]

hi there, nice guys may finish last, but they do finish

here's my advice
1) as soon as you get the confidence to realize you don't need someone, someone will show up and need you more then anything ... this does happen.
2) i'm looking for a nice guy so maybe you nice guys are just looking in the wrong place.

 

[whatsinanameuk]

Frogs

My wife said you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. Thing is I don't know why she stopped at me!?

Good luck in Philly - you'll be OK

 

[complicity]

take heart i think we all like nice guys! I married a lovely nice guy! the thing is bad boys tend to have the gift of the gab and we women are prone to falling for a man who is charming and smooth. however in the end we realise real depth is needed in a man....so keep being nice and you'll find a woman who appreiciates you for it soon I am sure!

Wise words M'lady

Good luck in Philly!

Us nice guys get there in the end.............................Honest.

I married a gorgeous, intelligent lady, and sound just like me at collage.

Originally posted by ub6ibfine
nice guys finish last cause they always make sure there women cum...

.............and if you follow Ub6i's this advice................well.............girls talk in the locker room too!

Would any ladies endorse this?

 

[dragonhearted]

Re: Nice Guys

As I would say during my dys as a stand-up comic..."Hi, I'm a nice guy...you women know what that is...a nice guy is the guy you use to get a "real" man (aka the bad boy type)...

*eyes wide* I LIKE nice guys, I've just never met one. The bad guys find me first...or I always happen to be where the bad guys are (and then they act like nice guys...)

 

[Georgia Girl]

I have to agree with dragon on this one (Hi Suzi), I like nice guys too but the others seem to find me.

But in reality guys, to an extent the same thing happens to nice girls. I'm as nice as they come, too nice for my own good most of the time, and I get trampled too.

Do you think the nice ones are seen as easy targets?

Dawn

 

[dragonhearted]

Hmmmmmmmmmm.....

I have to agree with dragon on this one (Hi Suzi), I like nice guys too but the others seem to find me.

But in reality guys, to an extent the same thing happens to nice girls. I'm as nice as they come, too nice for my own good most of the time, and I get trampled too.

Do you think the nice ones are seen as easy targets?

Dawn

Hi Dawn *waves*

nice girls ARE easy targets....I used to be your classic young, naive, sheltered, inexperienced girl. Yes I was a flirt, but it was all pretty much an act.

 

[dpod]

I work with a woman who always complains that she attract jerks. One day a casually pass on that I'm on Match, Pod_burgh for all the ladies looking for a nice guy, and she tells me that she is probably going to stop dating and concentrate on her school work. I'm not that stupid!!! She was trying to be nice and say, " Your nice and all, but I don't think so." Well there my answer, most women do like to have nice guys around for friends and if they need help, but for times they really need help we're out in the cold or on lit.
I know that last sentence was horrible, but I'm a trained rocket scientist English is my second language math is my first.
dpod

 

[virginleo20]

hmmm...

isuppose its kind of pointless for lil ol me to answer to this one but ill still give it a shot....

i was... or actually still am a nice guy...

im yet to be on a real date... and after about 10 yers of rejection i stopped bothering.... its their turn now... if something hapens it hapens but i wont waste anymore energy on any woman anymore.
knowing the facts of life that women never ever ever ask nice guys out... eccept after having had dated about 50 or so aholes
which quite franktly makes them sloppyseconds to a "virgin" like me. all i can add to that is 1/5 of the US population suffers from herpes... yummy.... most of them dont even know about it and thats not even counting all of the other diseases out there.

In any occation i know that ill die alone for simply having had been a nice guy... and the reality of it is ill never even have had held hands with anyone.


oh and having had been abused as a child by a woman also gives a nice flare to my existance... not to mention all of the shit girls put me trough in jr high and highschool...

not to mention having had been forced to listen to their constatn whining about the "jerks" they date and how they get treated.
Oh and by they way it doesnt matter what age the women/ girls are they still complain about their past relationships etc.. all of their "party hearty" history
which makes me want to vommit...

crossreference enforementsycles and longterm psychological developmental issues from what ive written so far and youll get a nice pie in yer face on reality... and how actions have consequences and repercutions on others even if you dont want them to.

well in any occation i figure that since there are no kindhearted conffident girls out there that might in anyway be interested in me or in the precence of whom a would not get sick to my stomach...
ill just live the remainder of my life alone.
Just for a nice note that after 22 years of abuse neglect and lonelinessi really dont think that there are a lot of people here whom can relate to that... in much of any way.

oh and by the way i dont present my self in a way that might reflect anything on ive written on here... i try to be as normal as possible...
but i have to excuse my self from the company of any woman whom starts going on about her past relationships and quitefranctly disgusting drug/ party related lifestyles. (the legal kind)

To the person whom started this thread.... dont waste your time.... women are not worth the effort they want you to expend upon them and no matter how nice you are to them youll only get pain in return.

 

[Thin Man]

Nice guy pretending

Nice guys just do not get a womans juices flowing. They say they want a decent and nice man, but they go with the one who makes their panties wet.

 

[untold]

Good evening Ladies....

I couldnt help to read your conversation sorry for interrupting, I'm a new member of this board I was hoping to meet some nice ladies to talk to. My name is Marcus if anyone is interested pretty plz pm, always looking for a new friend to make.

 

[vffan]

There are women out there that are looking for a nice guys. Really! Do not stop being nice! It will work for you, I promise. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, maybe not even this year. But it will.

Thin man-I have a nice guy and he gets my panties wet...in a manner of speaking.

dpod-hun, did you know that if I weren't attached I'd be going to PA to look you up? I'm not kidding!

J

 

[SempreAngela]

Nice guys DO NOT finish last....

..they just need to get off the pot and make their needs and wants known.

I hope this does not post to the top of this thread but Lit is kinda screwy tonight.