Why do I fall in love so easily?

[flowerpetal]

I don't know what to do.
I want to be eternally single so that I dont' have to deal with the pain of falling in love.

Can anyone else relate?

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Fools..........

Are the only ones that fall in love to easily. Maybe you should be less foolish.

 

[April]

Falling IN love is painless. It's when one of you unintentionally hurts the other that the pain starts. Likewise, falling OUT of love hurts like a mofo, and makes you just want to curl up and die.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Hey April?

Are you currently in love?

 

[Ezzie]

I agree with April, falling out of love is what hurts. As for you, flowerpetal, it's easy to fall in love, I'll admit to doing it rather easily too. I've just become comfortably numb to the aftermath of it. My life has become like a soap opera, now I just sit back and watch the show.

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[April]

No, Sparky, I'm not. I would like to be, though. But not with just anyone. Are you?

Ezzie, I know how the soap opera thing goes. I've always thought of it as a roller coaster, though.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Yws - sorry I was away for a while...

With my beautiful wife, of just recently 6 years. Had a marriage before that, 12 years but love was never a real part of it. Before I met my current love (and hopefully my last) I thought love was bullshit - that it didn't really exist - that it, love was really just infatuation. The mystical, magical aspects, so often attributed to what love is - I thought did not exist, because I never felt them. Then it happened and just like all the weird crap I'd read - the pain as you say - it happened. I tried to control it - I couldn't. It was magic. It was love. And I/we still have it. Sure, it's tempered with time. As the newness where's off and dedication eases in. But we still have lots of fun being in love. Besides love, we really do "like" each other. I highly recommend love - if "it happens" to you. I'm glad it finally happened to me.

You look very attractive from what I've seen of you and your leather jacket. You seem pretty damn smart too. I wonder.... why no guy? Oh sorry, you may have "a guy" - just not one you're in love with.

 

[April]

Thank you, Sparky. I am married, but not in love with my husband. Haven't been for many years. I'm glad to hear that you are in love with your wife. It's good to know that it can and does happen. I can only hope that it happens for me someday. Although lately it's been looking worse for the home team. Maybe I'll just give up on love and save the wear and tear.

Damn, now I'm depressed. Oh well, it'll pass.

 

[Jade]

April, want to talk?

I would like to...


~Jade

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Feelings understood.....

Hey April -

Don't mean to get too personal here - but of course I will - just don't answere if'n you don't want to.

Do you get to have any "fun" with men. Can't quite imagine how you'd have fun with a man you don't love - that you're married to. Doesn't quite sound like fun.

Do you have any fun - other than this stuff?

 

[April]

Thank you, but that will only make me more depressed, and I have a job interview today. yay

My mail box is conspicuously(sp?) empty. *sigh* I want instant gratification. *pointed hint at a particular person* Maybe some food will make me feel better. I haven't eaten today, and isn't feeling sad and moody a symptom of hypoglycemia? *shrug*

 

[April]

Sparky, I love my husband, but am not in love with him. Yes, there is a difference.

Now as to the "fun with guys", when I choose a man to "have fun" with, it's all or nothing. I don't choose lightly. I take things too seriously, I guess.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I would invite you out for a nibble.....

that's for sure - but, but, but......... get up fer yer job interview. Confident spew, big smile, sparkling eye to eye contact. The only way to do those things. Good luck.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I'm one of those people that doesn't fall in love easily. I also have difficulty believing it when people say they love me. It took me about 3 years to admit to a fondness for my StudMuffin and about 10 years for me to actually truly believe he loves me. Yes, I love him. I just don't think I love him enough. I am too into self.

I envy people who are able to open themselves up so much to another person that they can fall in love so deeply.

Don't lament the pain of falling out of love, the rewards reaped from simply being in love are so much sweeter for the pain. Thats why they call parting such sweet sorrow or bittersweet.

The hurt will go away, but the memories of loving will be with you forever, an experience that really is the greatest acheivement a person can boast of.

 

[Guest]

Falling in love...

...is hard on the knees! http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net6/lew.gif Okay, on a more serious note... I try to build up a wall of defense around me. If I'm not careful, I could end out falling in love pretty easily. ~sigh~ God help me... I think it may be happening again already.

~Tiggs~
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[Ezzie]

Tiggs, you have some explaining to do

Tiggs? You think you're falling in love again? Damn baby, I thought we were getting married to announce to everyone that we are life partners and now I read that you "Think" you're falling in love again? That's it! I'm calling the wedding off, sometimes you're worse than a man who doesn't know whether to scratch his watch or wind his butt. LMFAO

 

[Guest]

Hee hee hee...

You may have to talk to DJ about that one hon.

 

[Ezzie]

Note the sarcasm...

What's he got that I ain't got? LOL

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[Guest]

A PENIS!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

~Tiggs~
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[Cheri]

I don't know what to do.
I want to be eternally single so that I dont' have to deal with the pain of falling in love.

Can anyone else relate?

Strikes me as a bit naive, there flowerpetal. Love isn't synonymous with marriage. And avoiding the entanglements of marriage won't save you from the pain of love. Uh, nothing will as far as I know.

 

[Gnome]

Sparky, I love my husband, but am not in love with him. Yes, there is a difference.

Want to thank April for that line. My experience is; "in love" is fleeting but has that certain spark, love and friendship is lasting but possibly lacking the excitement. Those I love I can open up to, reveal my deepest feelings. Those I'm in love with I'm afraid of pissing off and losing, so I usually withdraw under my mushroom. Now that I'm older give me love and friendship, not that I would turn down the chance to experience the fireworks again.

 

[Bliss]

Hmmmm. Been there and done that with the painful, miserable situation. But, as they say, hindsight is 20/20 and more than a handful of years later, I'm aight.

It doesn't do any good to try to hide from love, and you can't really look for it either. When it's time, you'll be bitten, er smitten.

As the country song says, Love might be a mistake but it's worth making.

And I will be bringing the wine!

 

[Carl East]

Can anyone else relate?

Oh God yes, I can relate to this one, I haven't fallen in love that often, but when I do everything else goes out the window. I only have time for the person I fell in love with, so when it comes to an end it hurts. But you know you'll do it all over again, because those feelings are wonderful. In fact, there's nothing quite like falling in love, it makes you feel alive and able to accomplish just about anything.

Carl.

 

[Silverlily]

Why do they have to call it falling in love, couldn't they come up with something better?

I spent years falling in and out of what I thought was love. Changed the "love of my life" like I did nailpolish. Thing was, it wasn't really love, infatuation most likely. Now that I'm with someone (smootches Race!) I am in love with, it has taken me a few years to accept that he really does love me.

 

[Shane]

Easily confused

you know--
as much as i hear about it, i can never understand the word love. there have been a million books and stories and essays written trying to define it, the concept, the word...but then people start with "love" "in love"...and then you might like to wonder...why are we tossing this word around?

if it's supposedly the strongest e3motion you'll feel, the strongest attatchment-- will it really conquer all? what if it's just very strong lust? how will you know? some say love lasts forever, while others say it's fleeting and fickle.

i have no clue where i stand...but i was drawn to the topic by the saying "fall in love a lot"-- you sure it's not just obsession?--and continued reading after it was stated that april "loves" her husband but isn't "in love" with him.

and people have to love to make love....very odd.

i'd like to read a safire piece on it.