Why are you here?

[rida]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? (If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)

I first discovered the Lit stories long ago, way before I ventured in the board section, and I think way before BDSM was even hinted or introduced to me.
Then there was a long hiatus when life was just too busy, and too many things were going on in my life to have time for anything (plus Hubby had almost total monopoly on the internet).

Eventually I ventured into the Boards section.


2. How long did you lurk?

Let's see, after I took the plunge and signed up for the Board section, I checked around the different section to get a feel for the place, eventually making my first post a picture in one of the Am Pic thread . Probably about a week or so after joining.
As for the BDSM boards specifically, I think I lurked a bit longer than that, before daring to post.


3. Why did you stop lurking?

On the Am Pic Forum, because by the time I joined I already discovered a little bit of an exhibitionist tendency.

On the BDSM boards, I remember a couple posts from RJMaster and Homburg that somehow made me overcome my shyness (no laughing! nobody believe I'm shy ...).

4. What has kept you here?

Both the good discussion and the friendliness that you get to experience if you hang around long enough.

Also, the fact that the threads are not too fast is actually something that contributed to me both de-lurking and staying around. Because of the opposite time zone and the fact that English it is not my native tongue, it takes me a little bit more time to express my thoughts and on boards where the threads get archived daily or have a quick turn over, I could never feel part of the community of it.

5. General Lit thoughts?

A very nice little corner of the web-world where I learned a lot about myself, met interesting people and made a few good friends

 

[intothewoods]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? (If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)

I actually have no idea. Well, wait, the bdsm forum -- I came across something D/s related elswhere and it struck a chord. So I started lurking here.

2. How long did you lurk?

Months - 4-6?

3. Why did you stop lurking?

I posted in a thread of Shank's, I think. He seemed like such a sweet, genuine person with a hell of a lot of good stories to tell. I miss him.

4. What has kept you here?

The people.

5. General Lit thoughts?

It's always difficult posting on a public forum.

 

[Netzach]

4. I stayed because visiting Lit gave me some people with whom to take a coffee break during my generally solitary work day.

This is what keeps me popping in - even though I'm talking to people about sex for large chunks of the day so on paper it might seem redundant, the conversations usually lack the connection of normal human discourse.

I can keep windows open, pop in, interact, pop out. If you are close to a chair at all times, it's something resembling a social life.

Wow, that sounds kinda sad. I love my job, I really do. It keeps me semi sane.

 

[Keroin]

I posted in a thread of Shank's, I think. He seemed like such a sweet, genuine person with a hell of a lot of good stories to tell. I miss him.

Yeah, where is Shanks these days? I miss him too.

 

[graceanne]

Yeah, where is Shanks these days? I miss him too.

Me, too.

 

[rida]

Yeah, where is Shanks these days? I miss him too.

I missed him so sent a note via Fetlife.
He is doing well and, if my calculations are not wrong ... he just got married!!!!
(but taking a little break from kink)

 

[Netzach]

I missed him so sent a note via Fetlife.
He is doing well and, if my calculations are not wrong ... he just got married!!!!
(but taking a little break from kink)

Yay, miss him too. Good to know.

 

[intothewoods]

I missed him so sent a note via Fetlife.
He is doing well and, if my calculations are not wrong ... he just got married!!!!
(but taking a little break from kink)

Oh yay! I think I have his email too, so I'll drop him a line.

 

[Keroin]

I missed him so sent a note via Fetlife.
He is doing well and, if my calculations are not wrong ... he just got married!!!!
(but taking a little break from kink)

Awesome news! If you talk to him again, let him know I said hello.

 

[Soumis]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? (If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)

I was directed to lit by a lover who suggested I might find stories to pin down what I was yearning for. For the longest while I thought that's all it was, stories, I didn't realize people actually practiced these shenanigans.

2. How long did you lurk?

Hour, maybe? Long enough to read the stickies? I've been a part of other forums and posting wasn't a biggie. If you can't put yourself to text on the internet where can you?

3. Why did you stop lurking?

See above. I love forums. Was a shortage of bdsm in my life at the time.

4. What has kept you here?

As short of a stay as it's been: partially the bdsm information/discussion, partially the hilarity, mostly the freedom of discussion.

5. General Lit thoughts?

I'd like to see more silliness, more edgeplay discussion, and a thread devoted to the positive side of the "public" bdsm scene. I feel like I recall more thread focus on the "practice" of bdsm than the D/s labels before, but I may have a selective memory.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Just some Monday morning musings…

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? (If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)
2. How long did you lurk?
3. Why did you stop lurking?
4. What has kept you here?
5. General Lit thoughts?

I caught this earlier, a couple of times, but didn't have (or want to take) time to respond fully; now I will.

1. I used to play an online game called "Acrophobia," where players could chat while playing. One of the other members and I used to used quite a few BDSM-related acros, then chatted back and forth about the fact that we were both in the culture. I sent her a couple of chapters of a story I was writing, and a "How-To" article about the difference between disciplinary and sensual spanking. She said I should post them to this funky little site called Literotica. I joined up and, after a few misbegotten efforts (I understand it's gotten a *little* easier to get them in and accepted since '04), got them posted... then accidentally found the forum.

2. If I remember correctly, I didn't lurk at all. My memory seems to be that someone posted something about caning - one of my favorite activities - and I responded to the thread. The rest is historical. Or is that hysterical?

3. Invalid question.

4. Good people, some good discussions, lots of smirks and smiles, and some outright guffaws and side-splitting laughter on occasion. Mostly the good people.

5. I've wandered into some of the other fora; some of them (GB, Playground, for example) are downright scary. AmPics is kinda fun once in a while.

I'm at home here in Talk and Café, have made some good online frienquaintances, I sometimes get a chance to share a pinch of my experiences, and I get lots of chances to learn from the experiences of others. What more can one ask of a forum? :: blink ::

 

[Stella_Omega]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? I came to lit looking for a place to share the erotica I had written, and find more erotica to read. The AH was a pretty nice place back then. As the authors I admired have wandered away though, I have less and less connection there. I followed Etoile here, looking for sexy talk. Besides, BDSM was what I have always written anyway.

2. How long did you lurk? a couple of months maybe, as far as this forum is concerned.

3. Why did you stop lurking? When I realised that AH was never going to be what it had once been, but that the kind of thoughtful intimate posting I was missing could be found here instead.

4. What has kept you here? Etoile, 00Syd, Bibunny, Netzach-- and lots of lovely women I haven't yet met. it's nice to see midwestyankee hare as well.

5. General Lit thoughts?[/QUOTE]Success breeds failure, on unmoderated forums.

(If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)

Internet, internet, internet!

 

[BiBunny]

4. What has kept you here? Etoile, 00Syd, Bibunny, Netzach-- and lots of lovely women I haven't yet met. it's nice to see midwestyankee hare as well.

I can't say I'm sad that my presence has kept you here, though!

 

[chy_girl]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? (If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)

My laptop. Is that one better? *tries to look innocent*
I had been reading the stories on Lit for years and slowly giving into my curiosity about BDSM. The problem I had was that almost all the stories I read didn't really hit the interpersonal part. I couldn't find the information to make sense of that part. And then I ran across a Harry Potter fan fiction of all things. It covered the interpersonal aspect and some of the feelings and struggles of the submissive. And I had to know more, had to find people who I could talk to about it - but had no clue how to find them in my community. I tried to check out Alt.com but couldn't ever make the site work right... and then I remembered Lit. So I tried it and it helped in amazing ways.

2. How long did you lurk?
It took maybe a day or two before my first post (patience is not a virtue I hold close). And it took another month or two before I started to get over the shyness.

3. Why did you stop lurking?
Because I'm too curious by half(^17)and not patient. In other words, I blame it on being a Virgo.

4. What has kept you here?
Why the people, of course.

5. General Lit thoughts?
The GB is just way too weird for me. I'd rather hang out with the normal people who like to tie each other up, and beat on each other and set each other on fire for fun and... well, for fun.

 

[00Syd]

I missed him so sent a note via Fetlife.
He is doing well and, if my calculations are not wrong ... he just got married!!!!
(but taking a little break from kink)

What great news! I'm glad to hear that he's doing well, I miss him too.

 

[00Syd]

4. What has kept you here? Etoile, 00Syd, Bibunny, Netzach-- and lots of lovely women I haven't yet met. it's nice to see midwestyankee hare as well.

You flatterer

 

[Stella_Omega]

...And then I ran across a Harry Potter fan fiction of all things. It covered the interpersonal aspect and some of the feelings and struggles of the submissive....

You know-- some of the totally best BDSM fiction is from fanfiction writers. The best of it is graphic, hot, massively well researched, deeply psychological,and can range from dead-to-rights accuracy, to tentacles....


Syd and Bibunny, I do mean that.

What the HELL is a "midwestyankee hare," I ask myself!

 

[chy_girl]

You know-- some of the totally best BDSM fiction is from fanfiction writers. The best of it is graphic, hot, massively well researched, deeply psychological,and can range from dead-to-rights accuracy, to tentacles....

The only fanfic I really read was the Harry Potter, and then I stuck to the ones that involved some Granger/Snape component. There aren't a lot with the interpersonal aspect of BDSM, and the one that came the closest had an unexpected unhappy ending that came down hard on the D/s aspect, not to mention the B/D.

It wasn't till about a year ago that a lady who is actually into BDSM started posting her story and so much of it resonated and resonated hard. It provided that bit of knowledge on the part that I didn't have the frame of reference for and suddenly I couldn't ignore it in myself.

You're right though, there has been some incredibly hot fanfics. One of the authors (who use to post here also) has moved on to actual books you buy at the store. Now she can write some freaking good smut... Though I don't recall tentacles being involved with any of her's... Could be wrong though... I know there was a house elf.

 

[Bi_Kitty]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum?

Well, there was no mentioning of smacking for saying of following Teh Bunny.

2. How long did you lurk?

Does looking over Teh Bunny's shoulder occasionally count as lurking?

3. Why did you stop lurking?

She talked me into joining so I would have something to read. Even though I don't like to read.

4. What has kept you here?

The people that are still around that I've met before and some that I haven't yet and would like to one day.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

1. What brought you to Lit and specifically to this forum? (If you say “the Internet” I will be forced to smack you)

One of my best friends met his now wife on Ampics (yeah, I know) so I thought i would check it out. The GB was too feral, and I was a perverted little monkey anyway, so here I am.

2. How long did you lurk?

Dunno, would have been 6+ months before i joined up, and a few more before I said anything.

3. Why did you stop lurking?

I would have decided it was time to stop being intimidated by the more knowledgeable folk and jump in.

4. What has kept you here?

Amusement. And knowledge gleaned. Unlike a few people, the kink factor does play a role for me here. It's not like I have pervy friends to talk to about some of this stuff.

5. General Lit thoughts?

It's way better than Beiber-fever.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

A lot of people I know are involved in D/s relationships, but they don't talk about it in the same way that they might chit chat about an s&m technique or a scene event or something. I'm the same way. That stuff is private. It's easier to talk about it here. Fwiw, there are a lot of very shy people in the scene. Maybe they're less shy than you. I don't know. But it's something I commonly here from folks.

I'm absolutely the same.

I'm usually happy enough to talk about the physical aspects and things, but keep the relationship stuff private. So private, that when we were discussing the idea of playing with other people, one of my requests was that we don't show it obviously, and we don't discuss it. It's our stuff.

I'm not entirely certain why I feel like that. I know I'm jealous, and possesive. Somewhat obsessive. Considerably selfish. It'll be a mix of those things, and probably more.

Also I think, it might be due to the intimacy. I just feel (and this is a basic assumption and my opinion only) that when you get involved in bdsm, there's an increased trust, and a different kind of intimacy between partners. It's not something that is as easily explored and shared.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

shenanigans.

Word of the day!!!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

When I realised that AH was never going to be what it had once been

Gosh, there's some asshats in that forum.

One in particular.. that Johnson dude! Mr 'A real sadist sends you home without your nipples or testicles.'

Egads.

Stay here. There's a higher level of awesome.

 

[Etoile]

I hope I get a pass on remembering what brought me to Lit...it's been almost 10 years!

I never lurked. I signed up, then forgot about it for a few months. When I came back, I started posting. There was no interim period of reading without posting.

I'm here for the people. I'm no longer in a BDSM relationship, but I still love all the friends I made when I was, so I stick around. This allows me to meet new people, too! And of course I love the opportunity to spout off. My opinions are still plentiful even if my activity is nil.

I also stick around for GLBT Chatter, of course, but that's not why I'm active in the BDSM boards. GLBT wasn't here back when I joined; I requested it in 2003. So it wasn't a factor in joining.

 

[midwestyankee]

What the HELL is a "midwestyankee hare," I ask myself!

One who fucks like a bunny, I presume. Like the real thing, in fact.