Who's the conductor

[daughter]

in the bedroom? When you're with you s/o, who controls the action in bed? Does one lead? Do you switch off? Is it indistinguishable?

I sometimes initiate. I'm really quite subtle. "Wanna have sex"?, is a typical intro. After that though, I am far more passive. I am an active participant but I don't lead.

Well, usually. After some encouragement, I have become more aggressive.

Peace,

daughter

 

[*ladylove*]

We both initiate in our relationship. Though we seem to be about as subtle as you daughter. Normal start "wanna hump". (Its an old joke that always makes us smile) And as for the leader it varies. Sometimes its me, sometimes its him, sometimes its no one and we just go with the flow, or alternate during. Though we have become more "creative", so roles are always subject to change in our bedroom. Depends on the kind of "game" we may be playing.

 

[Wiggles]

I'll usually start playing with his pajama pockets while he's playing on the computer. I'll know if he's game if he doesn't push my hand away and say something like, "Hold on, my insta-heal's running low!" -LoL

Sometimes, not very often, I'll lead the way. But usually it's him, because, well for one, he's better at it....
And two I'd rather be out of control about what I'm feeling. And finally three, he's the best lover I've ever had so I'd rather let him do his *magic*.

So, in conclusion, he's in control of the sex stuff, I'm the master of bj's.

 

[lovetoread]

Well...

In the past I was the conductor,however new experinces have lead me to believe I am a rider on this train.

but since this relationship is new,I cannot say for sure it will stay this way.

 

[MissTaken]

In nilla relationships, I initiate and then, follow.

In not so nilla relationships, HE definitely leads. I follow. Heaven!

 

[Astro]

I'm usualy the conductor, might be nice to find a women who could conduct though.

 

[weathered2]

S/o is almost always the passive party, the "recipient", if you will. Only on rare occasion will she assert herself and take over. That is, however, about the only situation I'm allowed to take charge of. Otherwise, I'm just there for security and to fix whatever needs fixin', (I guess sex falls into the latter category as well).

 

[Tim1]

well

I put on my very best suit and brush my teeth and sit next to her and grin. If she notices me and hasn't already finished herself by herself....we strole down to the basement rec room where she proceeds to lean over a tall bar stool. I crack open a Bud and conduct wild passion. It gets her every time......

 

[stargazer]

I can't say that there is one conductor. My S/O, however, wants me to have a many orgasms as possible. I may initiate; he ends up leading---much to my satisfaction

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I'd imagin she would have to initiate, cause i'm shy and rarly move when around another person (no mater how long i've known them)

 

[PHANTOM5875]

Re: well

I put on my very best suit and brush my teeth and sit next to her and grin. If she notices me and hasn't already finished herself by herself....we strole down to the basement rec room where she proceeds to lean over a tall bar stool. I crack open a Bud and conduct wild passion. It gets her every time......

Um, Tim? We need to talk!!

You crack me up!

 

[PHANTOM5875]

Kind of depends on the mood we're in....

It used to be that I was the initiator being the horn dog that I am but, interestingly enough, here of late, the Mrs. is jumping my bones or dragging me off to bed for a little hanky panky and I like it!

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Me, mostly

With my s/o's, I've been the 'conductor' most of the time. On those rare occasions when she has taken control of the baton <sorry, couldn't resist>, I have enjoyed being conducted.

The best times, though, are when the music takes over and neither of us knows who is the conductor or the conductee.

~H~

 

[ksmybuttons]

Conductor and Engineer

First the tympanis, I have them going slow like a heartbeat.
Now I slowly bring in the Violins, Cellos and Basses.
The tempo begins to climb: faster, faster, faster!

I conduct, but he is the engineer as the train speeds up going out of town to the open road.

Yes!

 

[seXieleXie]

in the bedroom? When you're with you s/o, who controls the action in bed? Does one lead? Do you switch off? Is it indistinguishable?

*grins* what a way with words you have daughter.

in the majority of my relationships my lover has been the one in control, i'm not quite sure that's the same thing as being in the lead though. as for initiating, i'm more than willing to make the first move. i'm pretty transparent so i don't see the point in being coy about what i want, though i usually go for nonverbal communication instead of "wanna fuck?". that's a good line though, i'll remember it.

 

[koalabear]

Who's pulling the train?

 

[Never]

I can tell the daughter is into that kinky train sex scene.

 

[koalabear]

I can tell the daughter is into that kinky train sex scene.

Rumour is she just loves to blow the "whistle".

 

[Never]

Which is great.. unless she starts choo-chooing.

 

[Thumper]

ALLLLL Aboard!

Who has control in the bedroom?

Whomever get there first and finds the remote....has control.

...and I always conduct myself accordingly

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Goes both ways ... depending on our moods.

His ways are so cute and adorable I can not help but give in to his smiles and words.

 

[perks]

it's always me

fucking damnit.

I'm not having the sex I want, nor the amount. It's frustrating....probably why I talk about it all the time...there my big secret is out.....hey but damn do I masturbate alot..Woooooo Hooooooooo.

perky

 

[Cherry]

HAHAHAA!!!

I put on my very best suit and brush my teeth and sit next to her and grin. If she notices me and hasn't already finished herself by herself....we strole down to the basement rec room where she proceeds to lean over a tall bar stool. I crack open a Bud and conduct wild passion. It gets her every time......

Wonderful visual there, Tim!

 

[Silverlily]

Re: ALLLLL Aboard!

Whomever get there first and finds the remote...

I have a remote controlled, um, toy, great fun in public.

(Don't let the bunny fool you, he really wants to be shoved against the wall and fucked silly.)


Back to the question, I frequently conduct.