And the politeness does end up working for you. Simply by being pleasant (and more so than most of the other customers, who seem to be terse for the sake of it) the people at the cafe where I get my breakfast some mornings don't even bother asking me what I want because they already know. One excellent day while I was taking a call, the whole thing was done without a word, and that got me through the awful workday that ensued.
Who Do You Respect?
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And the politeness does end up working for you. Simply by being pleasant (and more so than most of the other customers, who seem to be terse for the sake of it) the people at the cafe where I get my breakfast some mornings don't even bother asking me what I want because they already know. One excellent day while I was taking a call, the whole thing was done without a word, and that got me through the awful workday that ensued.
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Tuition money is not an issue for me. The only thing that got to me was having to sit through a class that I'd already endured. Granted, the second time around I was lucky enough to have a much more pleasant professor.
I understand this. As an enormously cocky twenty-something this is difficult to accept, but it's easier now than it was a year ago and hopefully I'll eventually come to terms with it.
Lizzie_Borden
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Having worked in various customer service fields, I feel the same way. I *know* what it's like when someone's being an asshole to you, I know how hard that makes your job. So I make the effort to be nice.
And sometimes, it doesn't take much effort to go above and beyond a smile, and you can really make someone's day. If you get particularly good service somewhere, if you're on the net later, find their site and drop something into customer feedback. My ex did that a while ago for the young kids who work at the KFC near his house, and a couple of weeks later they'd all been told about it and given a couple of free movie tickets. And they were rapt.
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Which is pretty much what I said.
Same here. I am an iced tea junkie, but I'm picky. I won't drink it if it's sweetened, and I won't drink it if's not brewed. There are two fast food restaurants that make my tea, Jack in the Box and McDonalds, and JitB is on the way to my kids school. The lady there knows me well enough to have noticed that I'm losing weight, and to miss me when I don't show up. I love that. That people notice me. She also notices when I have kids and shouldn't (like if one's sick) and when I don't have kids and should (like the evening) and asks after them. I figure she's either putting herself through college or will be pushed up to management soon and I'll have to break in a new drive through window person. *sigh*
And selfish as it is, you don't want that to happen because you like them to much to let them leave, right? Been there.
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By being the person she is that lady is having an impact of people she most likely doesn't realize. Tiny affirmations as these reaffirm our individual importance. So many days we go through life not knowing if what we do makes much of a difference. I sometimes think about the impact I may unknowingly have on someone's life by the little things I do.
As far as people I respect, the ones I respect the most have a lot of the same characteristics. I don't care for sugarcoating things - very popular in the south. I never know when those people are sincere or not. I'm not a fan of those kind of mindgames. Most of the people I respect the most are direct. They say what they mean and mean what they say. They also have very high standards. They expect the same of those they are close to.
One of the first people I thought about was one of my teachers. That teacher wouldn't let me get away with anything. She tolerated no excuses.
Another lady I think about tells me exactly what she thinks even though it may be hard to hear. She tells the bad with the good.
graceanne
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Yep. I don't ever have to remind her not to sweeten my tea, or to keep the lemons out. I never have to send my food back.
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I respect everyone until (if) they give me a reason not to.
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Well, somehow that tuition is being paid, whether it's by you comfortably, your parents, or a scholarship or grant. I'd say it's a waste to have to spend it twice because you got a hard on during your argument, but I'm not known to enjoy throwing money away for no real reason. And sitting through all the same crap sounded like more work than it was worth, pleasant prof or no.
Learning to play to actually get what you want rather than always overtly *winning* is a hard lesson.
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