Which of these Fetishes turns you on the most?

[yourwhitewife]

Poll did not work. Please delete.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Even if the actual poll device didn't work, would you care to tell us what the options were? There may still be a good discussion here!

 

[oggbashan]

Writing about fetishes turns me on more than the fetishes themselves.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Writing about fetishes turns me on more than the fetishes themselves.

That's an interesting twist.

When I was still with my ex-husband (circa 2002-2007), I wrote a lot more. I had more ideas and the creative juices were flowing. The relationship was horrible from nearly the beginning. (I was young and believed the "things'll get better" shit, etc.)

Now that I am in a great relationship with a wonderful man (since 2008), I find my writing is more difficult and I'm not sure why.


In the previous one there was almost no sex. In example, it took three months to consummate the marriage. He was very closed; both in mind and in sharing. In my current one, I have sex any time I want it. My man is open to ideas...we've role played some, he's into anal play, etc.

I'm not sure how/why I was able to write more when I was miserable and had no sex versus being happy and having sex when I want it.

 

[oggbashan]

That's an interesting twist.
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I'm not sure how/why I was able to write more when I was miserable and had no sex versus being happy and having sex when I want it.

Doing it with someone you love is preferable to writing about it, but writing about it is cathartic.

At my age, I can't do it as often as I'd like but I can write about it too.

I see writing fetish as a challenge. If I can write an acceptable story about a fetish that has no attraction for me, I have a sense of achievement.

I'm still stuck on one fetish story based on South Indian Women's Hairy (and sweaty) Armpits. Apparently there is an audience in millions for that fetish. I just can't write a believable story with that fetish - yet.

I'll keep trying.

 

[chrisatb5]

That's an interesting twist.

When I was still with my ex-husband (circa 2002-2007), I wrote a lot more. I had more ideas and the creative juices were flowing. The relationship was horrible from nearly the beginning. (I was young and believed the "things'll get better" shit, etc.)

Now that I am in a great relationship with a wonderful man (since 2008), I find my writing is more difficult and I'm not sure why.


In the previous one there was almost no sex. In example, it took three months to consummate the marriage. He was very closed; both in mind and in sharing. In my current one, I have sex any time I want it. My man is open to ideas...we've role played some, he's into anal play, etc.

I'm not sure how/why I was able to write more when I was miserable and had no sex versus being happy and having sex when I want it.

I think you are onto something about the nature of inspiration, imagination and deprivation....Sometimes words end up substituting for actions, sometimes--when you're getting enough action--you don't need/find words, fantasy etc..

 

[DarkPleasures]

Doing it with someone you love is preferable to writing about it, but writing about it is cathartic.

At my age, I can't do it as often as I'd like but I can write about it too.

I see writing fetish as a challenge. If I can write an acceptable story about a fetish that has no attraction for me, I have a sense of achievement.

I'm still stuck on one fetish story based on South Indian Women's Hairy (and sweaty) Armpits. Apparently there is an audience in millions for that fetish. I just can't write a believable story with that fetish - yet.

I'll keep trying.

Good luck with the writing. And thank you for the insight.

 

[DarkPleasures]

I think you are onto something about the nature of inspiration, imagination and deprivation....Sometimes words end up substituting for actions, sometimes--when you're getting enough action--you don't need/find words, fantasy etc..

I can definately see that.

I always have ideas in my mind, or something that I think would make a great title, but when I sit at the computer and "try to make" myself write nothing happens.

 

[chrisatb5]

I can definately see that.

I always have ideas in my mind, or something that I think would make a great title, but when I sit at the computer and "try to make" myself write nothing happens.

Helps sometimes to have an audience in mind someone whose boundaries or borders you are trying to find or push back to inspire and focus the task..like "Oh I wonder if I take it THERE what the reaction would be, I wonder if I can turn them on with X, Y ...will Z be too far? Let's find out " sort of thing

 

[culloden]

That's an interesting twist.

When I was still with my ex-husband (circa 2002-2007), I wrote a lot more. I had more ideas and the creative juices were flowing. The relationship was horrible from nearly the beginning. (I was young and believed the "things'll get better" shit, etc.)

Now that I am in a great relationship with a wonderful man (since 2008), I find my writing is more difficult and I'm not sure why.


In the previous one there was almost no sex. In example, it took three months to consummate the marriage. He was very closed; both in mind and in sharing. In my current one, I have sex any time I want it. My man is open to ideas...we've role played some, he's into anal play, etc.

I'm not sure how/why I was able to write more when I was miserable and had no sex versus being happy and having sex when I want it.

Hemingway was awful in relationships. Yet he was the best writer in the English language I've ever read.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Hemingway was awful in relationships. Yet he was the best writer in the English language I've ever read.

I'm starting to see a pattern here, now.